When Your Ex Finally Breaks!

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In this video, Coach Lee explores a critical moment in many relationship dynamics: "When Your Ex Finally Breaks!"

This analysis dives into the intricate psychological and emotional journey that an ex undergoes before they reach the point of wanting to come back to the relationship they once ended.

Coach Lee, with his extensive experience in relationship coaching, provides a comprehensive overview of the stages and internal conflicts that an ex faces during this transformative period.

Coach Lee begins by defining what he means by an ex "breaking." This term refers to the pivotal moment when an ex realizes they want to return to the relationship they left. It is a process marked by intense introspection and emotional upheaval, often catalyzed by a series of realizations and experiences that gradually shift their perspective. Coach Lee emphasizes that this breaking point is not merely about missing the other person but involves a profound change in their understanding of the relationship and their own feelings.

Stage 1: The Honeymoon of Freedom

The journey starts with what Coach Lee calls the "Relief Stage" or the "Honeymoon of Freedom." After a breakup, many individuals experience a sense of relief and newfound freedom. They no longer feel the constraints of the relationship and may initially relish their independence. During this phase, they often engage in activities and social interactions that they felt limited from before. However, Coach Lee points out that this phase is usually temporary. The excitement of freedom often wears off, and reality begins to set in.

Stage 2: The Reality Check

As the initial excitement fades, the ex enters the "Reality Check" phase. Here, they start to encounter the downsides of being single again. Loneliness, the absence of companionship, and the loss of shared routines begin to weigh on them. Coach Lee explains that this stage is crucial because it initiates the process of reflection. The ex starts to compare their current state with the past relationship, leading to the realization that the grass is not always greener on the other side.

Stage 3: Reflection and Regret

Following the Reality Check, the ex moves into a period of "Reflection and Regret." This phase is characterized by deep introspection and an honest assessment of their past actions and decisions. They begin to recognize the positive aspects of the relationship they ended and the role they played in its downfall.

Stage 4: The Emotional Rollercoaster

The next phase is the "Emotional Rollercoaster." During this time, the ex experiences a wide range of emotions, from sadness and regret to anger and confusion. They may go through periods of intense longing for their former partner, followed by doubts about whether reconciliation is possible or even desirable.

Stage 5: The Turning Point

The "Turning Point" is a critical juncture in the journey. It is the moment when the ex decides that they want to make amends and seek reconciliation. This decision is not made lightly; it comes after considerable soul-searching and a genuine desire to rebuild the relationship. Coach Lee notes that this phase requires courage and vulnerability, as the ex must confront their fears and take responsibility for their actions.

Stage 6: Planning the Return

Once the decision to reconcile is made, the ex enters the "Planning the Return" phase. Here, they strategize on how to approach their former partner and express their desire to reconnect. Coach Lee advises that this step should be handled with care and sensitivity. The ex must be prepared to communicate openly and honestly, acknowledging their mistakes and demonstrating a sincere commitment to making positive changes.

Stage 7: Reaching Out and Rebuilding Trust

The final phase involves "Reaching Out and Rebuilding Trust." When the ex reaches out to their former partner, they must be prepared for a range of responses. Coach Lee emphasizes the importance of patience and understanding during this stage. Rebuilding trust takes time and effort, and both parties must be willing to work together to heal past wounds and create a stronger, healthier relationship moving forward.

Conclusion: The Journey to Reconciliation

Coach Lee concludes the video by reiterating that the journey an ex takes to reach the breaking point is complex and multifaceted. It involves a series of emotional and psychological stages that lead to profound personal growth and transformation. He encourages viewers to understand and respect this process, whether they are the ones considering reconciliation or the ones being approached by an ex. By gaining insight into this journey, individuals can navigate the path to reconciliation with greater empathy and awareness.

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Coach Lee is the man my fiance and I split up for 7 months and 19 days I watched all of Coach Lee's videos I even paid to have personal coaching with him. Sure enough my ex came back we are now married and having our first child. I love you Coach Lee and I would love to send you an invite to our wedding celebration.

speedstreet
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My ex reached out to me after a year and is realizing the grass was not greener on the other side.

ericbellamy
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Trust me. They ALL came back.
I was dumped 2x (my fault) and even those 2 came back. The toxic ones like the chase, blocked on everything and will find a way to reach out to you. Listen to Coach Lee. No contact is for you. It's for your own healing. The first few weeks will be tough. Keep yourself busy. Journal. Workout. Cry if you need to. Talk to friends. Find a hobby. It will get better.

jehan
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All of you who are saying you don't want your ex back then why are you watching the video...😂😂

e-for
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My first one came back after 3 years. My second one came back after 9 months and my last one came back after 4 months and again after a year. They ALWAYS come back BUT trust me, you should NEVER take them back. The pattern always repeats

Bloodsport
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EVERYBODY LISTEN COACH LEE.
My ex Just reached out saying that she is sorry. Just 13 days of no contant. No begged at all. Just moved on with my life. Those were horrible 13 days for me. I missed her every second, but i stayed strong and she finally realized it was a mistake. Just need to be strong person and recover yourself by yourself and the universe Will do the rest.

josueguzmanrodriguez
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You deserve better is exactly what she said….
My response :
You’re damn right I do .
Take care .

walkertranger
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Please never stop making these videos. You are doing wonders. Thank you for your input!

Isla
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Thank you Coach Lee. Went on and stayed NC in a few weeks. Accidentally met my ex in the streets. We talked. He cried and told me how much he missed me, how he cant imagine life without me. I want him back. He wants me back. But both of us decided we’re not ready yet because of other priorities. We promised each other we’ll reconnect on a certain time. We’ll start over. I have fears but also has now peace of mind.

teamisra
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I don’t expect to hear from her ever again. Although she’s showing face a lot lately. 5 years together. Now we’re strangers. I deserved better but one day she will realize that she was loved unconditionally. Her loss. Hope she’s well.

brandonmontemayor
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It took a little over 3 months of no contact but she finally broke and reached out to me . She actually asked if I would go out to dinner with her so that’s set up for this week

din
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my ex reached last friday after less than two weeks of no contact. I was polite but not very engaging (she started talking like we were good friends) and didn't consider that the relationship ended because she left with someone else. The next day I was blocked. NC is for arrogant people and they cannot handle their needs not being met. I assure you that she will come back after a few more days of NC. At this point I just want my peace and sanity.

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Whenever I feel the urge to text my ex boyfriend or feel helpless, i immediately come and watch your videos even when I'm at work. I honestly feel great to know about your you tube channel. Hope I get my ex boyfriend back. He loved me very much. Thank you so much for making me not to break no contact.
Please post more success stories in which dumpers go back to the dimpees.please

bhagavathivijayabaskar
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My ex reached out after almost 4 months with a casual question. My replies were curt. Then after like a week or so, he wanted to meet. I turned him down. It hurts. But you know it in your heart that the pattern will repeat. So think and think HARD before you consider taking your ex back.

Shammonella
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I’m grateful to have found you on YOUTUBE Coach Lee 😃

xaiphonphianhavong
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I work with my ex.... so yeah NC was difficult, but because of my role. It was easy to have my team deal with her. it's been a year+. Therapy has changed my life immensely, I chose me, and I put myself first. I don't chase or beg people to stay in my life.

Everyone who knows/works with her and sees how she looks now and changed. My ex did alot of these behaviors at the beginning of the break up. But I stood on business and kept to my boundaries. She saw me for the first time in many months, and my legal/field team all noticed she was heavily checking me out. I peacocked and did my thing in my cases. I know she misses me because the judge had me respond to her questions and the people who know me were wondering to see if I'd get nervous or falter...man I was so chill with it. We all noticed my ex had crinkled a smile and blushed.

No contact works, I chose to move on and just put in the work. If she wants to come back. That's cool, I'm not going to reference a closed chapter, however I'm not going to fall for the same nonsense... plus I know my worth🤙🏾

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Listen to this man! He is the G.O.A.T.

MDDR-ionh
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If someone leaves you for what ever reason wish them the best and from that day on make an oath to yourself that you are not going to let your emotions be the best of you even if its a living hell, depending on your age you still have a lot of life to live and in order to make the best life you can for yourself you need to work hard on the things you want and be better for the ones who did stay in your life such as family and friends. Discover your passions and talents and get really good at them! See the amount of joy you have when you see yourself making progress on what you want. Yeah they left you but hey it’s up to you what your going to do with your life and no way in hell am I going to be the sad person who got dumped and can’t function in life. Just spreading love ❤️ you got this everyone :)

josuearbelo
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These past 6 months have been the most interesting part of my life

jonathan.l_yt
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Thank you for the content Coach Lee. You coached me in these videos and saved my marriage. Well- we got married again 🥰 Remarried and almost two years since. I hope we never forget the pain we felt being apart. Thank you ❤️

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