MONTESSORI AT HOME: Positive Discipline Examples & What To Do

MONTESSORI AT HOME: POSITIVE DISCIPLINE // Learn how to handle toddler tantrums and a variety of the most common, undesirable behaviors in young children using a Montessori approach combined with positive discipline techniques and respectful parenting strategies.

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[noahsmilkshake]

For kids old enough to understand, if they don't want me to hold their hand to cross the street, I ask them to hold my hand and watch for cars to keep me safe. Or you keep me safe and I'll keep you safe. Then they are happy to have the special job of keeping me safe and the fight stops.

[MLOUist]

"They're learning what it means to be human and you are their guide on that journey." I love this very much!

[rabiahakhan]

On taking turns, kid snatching toys
2:31 - 6:02

Brushing Teeth
6:03 - 8:22

Getting Dressed
8:23 - 10:40

Leaving the House
10:41 - 12:41

Getting into Carseat
12:43 - 13:46

Leaving the Park or the Zoo
13:47 - 15:27

Interrupting
15:28 -17:00

Transitions
17:00 - 18:30

Screen Time
18:31 - 20:11

Whining
20:11 - 21:29

Not Using Toys/Activities Appropriately
21:29 - 23:27

Getting up during Mealtime/Playing or Throwing Food
23:28 - 25:50

Public Tantrums
25:51 - 27:03

Holding Your Hand
27:04 - 27:54

Hitting, Pushing, Biting, etc and Making Amends

27:54 - 35:19

Helpful tips
35:19 - end

[juliatironi]

I saw a post on instagram and it said your child isn’t giving you a hard time, they are having a hard time!!

[metagasm]

I don’t know who needs to see this but it’s never too late to learn a better way to work with your child. Just because you feel like you’ve messed up a lot up to this point doesn’t mean you can’t turn things around! Like she says, you and your child are a team, and it’s a wonderful thing when your child realizes they can rely on you for empathy and guidance.

[jesters.workshop]

Do I have kids? Nope
Do I currently want kids? Nope
This is just Uber fascinating and I wanna learn enough that I’ll remember when I am ready

[tawnystill]

Unrelated but I have been using the Montessori method for my 14 year old (sister in law I'm raising). She was never a problem child, I just didn't know how to raise a child (I was only 20 and she was 10, but I have been caring for her since she was 4). We have the strongest relationship possible. We both have a mutual respect and love for each other. I make comments about what needs to be done and she offers to do it for me. She is a high honors student, but struggles with her own self expectations so we have been working on that for a few months now. When I'm around her I act the way I want her to act, it's honestly changed me as a person over time for the better.

[beek.]

I have no clue why this got recommended to me seeing as I'm in high school and don't want to have kids for quite a while yet, but I wanted to say that this sort of thing genuinely works when you're looking after younger kids! I was babysitting my (at the time) 4-year-old cousin a while ago, and she didn't want to come downstairs. I remembered something I had read about stuff like this and so I told her "I know you don't want to come down, but since you have to, would you like me to carry you down or do you want to walk down yourself?" No joke, she stood up and walked right down immediately. I couldn't believe it worked.

Basically what I'm trying to say here is that this is really useful for anyone, even if you're not a parent, so I'm glad you're making informative videos like this :)

[motherwolf]

Just discovered your channel last night and tried using the empathy steps during my 1yro sons tantrum. He really didnt want his diaper changed so I stopped, placed him in my lap and just hugged him and gave him kisses. I then got him to laugh and was able to change him easily. 💙 THANK YOU!

[natr]

OMG, Mia's little hand popping up every now and then is so cute!

[lacelolita]

this’ll be helpful for me when i have children


_watches this when i’m sixteen because i literally love kids so much_

[abigailj]

I watched all of your positive discipline videos when my daughter was 5-6 months old. if you hadnt made these, I wouldnt have ever found positive discipline. simply because you sat down & shared your knowledge, you have influenced & highly improved my life & my daughters life. thank you so much. she is 18 months today, & I am rewatching these to remind myself of everything with how much things have changed. I am very proud of how many of these things I automatically do without even thinking. your advice was hardwired into my brain & now its just autopilot for me. I can be really hard on myself on the tiny details of everything, so realizing that Ive successfully been practicing creating a positive & safe enviroment for my daughter this whole time, has made me feel a lot better. I cant thank you enough. I love your videos

[Heythere]

As for the holding hands, what always worked with my kids is saying, “we have to be safe crossing the street. There are cars that could hurt you. You can either hold my hand or I’ll have to carry you” 9 times out of 10, they’ll straighten up and choose holding hands because they like to be independent and not carried. There are those few times they’ll take me up on the carrying thing but it’s very rare 😂 another thing my mom always did with me was to say “how about you hold my hand with my ring?” I always thought it was so cool to hold her hand with the pretty wedding ring on it. Then when my sister started walking with us we’d end up fighting over who got the ring finger so she would wear another ring that was her moms on the other finger and we would take turns 😊

[audreybringgold]

I'm having such a hard time with age 3.5 and I've been a mean, ragey, and grouchy mom today. Thanks for the ideas.

[MealsMadeAtHome]

Anyone else watch this video several times over their years as a parent? I became a mom in 2018 and this channel as a whole is such a wonderful resource for what I consider the best way to navigate parenthood, even the hard stuff. Thank you for the work you do.

[Gnomy]

I love how you say "i know AND ..." and not "but"

[narcisamaisonet]

logically, this makes so much sense to me but i was raised soooo far the opposite that i have such a hard time understand that people actually parent like this

[nishienish]

In addition to giving your kiddo as heads up before you have to leave somewhere I set a timer on my phone. This way, they hear it themselves and know it’s time to go because the timer has gone off not because I’m telling them. This way we are on the same team and I can empathize with them. We say goodbye to all the piece of the playground (goodbye slide etc. ) like the Goodnight Moon book and finish by saying “till next time!” So she knows we can revisit another day :).

Thank you for this video amazing examples so helpful

[hayleybrowne]

Day 1 of using your ideas and it’s going SO well! I’ve already avoided a few of our normal tantrums. First one was when she threw her face washer on the ground, stomping her feet saying “naughty!” and getting all huffy and puffy. I asked her calmly why it was naughty and she told me because it’s not wet anymore. I asked her if she’d like me to wet it again, she said “yes please Mum!”, picked it up and gave it to me. Then she thanked me over and over again, washed her face, handed it back to me saying “please wet it again Mum”.
Normally I would say “pick that up and hand to me, or you’re going to bed. Stomp your feet like that, and you’ll go to bed”.
I also used your car seat advise and asked her whether she’d like some help to get in her car seat, or does she want to do it herself. She hopped in and put her arms in for me - no fight!! Amazing.

[mobiusstripper]

Wow. Can we all please give this woman an award of some kind?