10 THINGS I DON'T BUY AS A MONTESSORI PARENT

10 THINGS I DON'T BUY AS A MONTESSORI PARENT

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[Millymul]

What do you use instead of a high chair? :)

[sophiefraser]

1. 2:32 - Flashy Plastic Battery Operated Toys
2. 3:53 - Baby Crib
3. 5:33 - Colouring Books
4. 7:56 - Baby Holding Devices
5. 10:25 - Sippy Cups
6. 11:40 - Toys/Books That Promote Violence
7. 13:34 - Toy Box
8. 15:16 - Playpen
9. 17:28 - Restrictive Clothing & Shoes For Infants
10. 21:03 - ABC/123 Toys For Babies & Toddlers

[ashleyw]

Man… learning to color in a coloring book was HUUUGE for me as a kid, it formed the foundation of my creativity. I feel like non-artists make this decision for children without understanding the importance of inspiration. Also, since dinosaurs don’t exist in photographs, the only thing you can see of any accurate version is a rendering that an adult drew. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[TheSwan]

I LOVED all sorts of coloring books when i was a kid and i dont think it affected my creativity in any bad way at all. i still did draw on my own as well. So i wouldnt want to take that from my child.

[jacquelinepearce]

Learning to colour inside the lines was a very crucial part of learning fine motor control and hand eye coordination for me. I remember getting frustrated at how hard it was when I was young, it must have unlocked something important

[Pizzadepasta]

I'm glad that someone is able to stay with the baby 100% of a time and give care and attention all the time needed. As a babysitter of a triplet, some of those devices are agreeably not for the best of children's development but for caregiver's sanity at some point. Some things like bouncers are for keeping the caregiver sane while the baby is not traumatized when used minimally.

[courtneygilmore]

I understand your reasoning behind these. I did have to start using a playpen because unfortunately it wasn't safe for me to leave my baby around my toddler even long enough to go to bathroom 🙃

[Radhaun]

I don't think I agree with you entirely about coloring books. As someone who has a lot of autistic traits, there is a certain paralyzing difficulty to having a fully blank canvas (paper, whatever) in front of you. I think as long as the child can use whatever colors they want, coloring books can be a good way to relax and be creative without having to make literally every decision.

[allienicole]

I would LOVE a 10 must haves in a Montessori home video.

[koalawellington]

How refreshing to see content sharing things we DON'T need as opposed to the so many videos telling us what we DO need! 😍

[charliepeterson]

I want to give my own perspective around colouring books as an armature artist and teacher. Creativity is a bit miss understood. Our brains are incapable of creating anything truely original. Creative minds are simply capable of reorganising material that they have seen before in more ways than non creative minds. For example, a non creative person will simply draw a dinosaur that they have already seen. A creative mind might combine different elements of different dinosaurs to create something "original". Children arguably have less creative potential then adults because they haven’t experienced life and so they need more help. And this is where copying comes in. The more a child copies, the more their creativity will start to show.

[karabeaner]

The only one I have to really push back on is ABC/123 for toddlers. My son is 23 months and he has really started gaining interest in counting. I didn't put this on him, he just started repeating numbers at me one day. Now, we don't have counting toys like described. Our counting play is in the form of counting stairs, shoes etc, but some kids that age are definitely developmentally ready.

[peronne]

I think the biggest difference for our home is that we did not use a floor bed before age 1. Dr. Montessori unfortunately died before SIDS was identified and research on it could be done, so she didn't have the knowledge we have now on sleep safety. Waiting until age 1 to ditch the crib, per AAP guidelines, was totally worth the wait for us!

[Thelilmissbz]

Love from HTX. Thanks for being so educational! I love your videos. My husband and I have a 13 month old and she’s our first one. It’s so interesting seeing her take the reins and doing things independently just as a toddler! It’s crazy, we don’t give them enough credit!

[asiafoster]

It’s so interesting hearing mom’s different perspectives! There are some here that I’m totally into and some that I may not be. But it’s cool to hear different opinions and reasoning to see what I end up loving for my own little 🥰

[ashleighh]

I have a montessori background and I've done a little research into children playing with guns. There have been studies that show it does not enfluence aggressive behaviour it can actually result in children developing problem solving skills and better self regulation as an adult. Just like playing with swords if you have boundaries and limits in place it is completely okay for children to play with guns at the end of the day it's a sport. You can shoot a target. It's all about the language used and modelling appropriate behaviour.

[hollyyoung]

I love this! Not only does it align with our thinking, it highlights some areas for change (in our home) that I hadn’t thought of. This is a really great way to ‘explain’ to friends and family why we don’t want them buying certain toys and gifts. Thank you so much!

[yuma]

Great advises for mamas that do NOT work and own big houses. If you are working mama and need to feed your kids, do what you need to do and buy all devices in the world that will help you survive.

[TheMntnG]

the „what I don‘t buy“ videos are so important in this crazy consumerism world

[bwj]

Just wanted to comment on what you said about babies and toddlers not being developmentally ready to learn letters. My 21 month old has shown a great interest on her own since she was around 16 months old, just through books and puzzles and us pointing them out to her (we don't do light up electronics toys either), and can name many letters. So I do think babies and toddlers are little sponges and can absolutely learn them and are interested too if we show interest in a natural (non-forced) way.