MONTESSORI AT HOME: How to Stay Calm as a Parent

MONTESSORI AT HOME: How to Stay Calm as a Parent

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[rosalindreloj]

I absolutely love how you never put your daughters in a negative light. You use stock photos when you're talking about behavior that is frustrating. It is so dignified and respectful to them. You use pictures of your children doing things that are good or helpful. Very useful tips as well. Thank you for your continued well organized videos.

[tahoorashaikh]

Ashley, you have no idea how incredible the timing of this video is! I've been so on the edge for the past 4-5 days even though I'm trying so hard not to be hard on myself. The last part you added was JUST so reassuring to me. I'm a human. I'll make mistakes. I'll learn from it. You have no idea about the gratitude and love I have for you for this video ESPECIALLY and also the other content you make!

[skrcmama]

I literally just walked away from the dishes and was like nope I wanna sit in the tub while baby is asleep! Right before you said leave the chores and take some me time 🤣🥰 felt like validation that I was on the right path lol

[stacey]

This video came on time for me. I’m home with my 2 1/2 year old and 7 1/2 month old. I love my children to death and back. Everyday is so testing. From being tired to crying/tantrums to chores it’s hard for me to get through the day keeping my cool. I’m praying I’m working on it. I’m definitely here for the advice and I will be sharing this with my husband as well.

[MayanPrincess]

Thank you for these reminders. I used to be a child behavioral therapist working in an acute locked psychiatric facility with a lot of reactive patients. Parenting is so much harder. There are zero breaks, you never have time off. I’m struggling bc we have had both of my sisters move away out of state and don’t have any other family support. I’m on an island. Alone. Deep breaths don’t always come as easily.
What I’ve done recently is wake up earlier even if it hurts at first lol just so that I know I’ve had SOME time for myself otherwise it feels like Groundhog Day. Every single day.
Sending love ❤️to all the momma’s who have to do this totally alone. I get you.

[ForMyDaughtersandSons]

One thing that helps me, is to remind myself that I can’t control my child or how they behave, but I can control myself and my response to them.

[taral]

This video is so helpful and validating. Ashley has been my main source of parenting advice since I became a mom a month into the pandemic. If you see this Ashley, I am so grateful you share your knowledge and advice 🧡

[rosaliepeter-isenburger]

Great advice :) I would like to add, that if you have a reeeaally hard time calming down or a really bad habit that creeped into your behavior even though you really don't want to act that way, you can always seek professional help :) there is absolutely no shame in that :)

[bugalowSK]

Years later, there is no one who can put video like this! Thank you!

[lpnffchick]

I needed this. I'm in tears watching this

[jasminm]

Such an important video Ashley!! For self-care time we started to do "Mama and Papa" break. My breaking point every day is around dinner time. We are blessed to be able to have dinner as a family. And after dinner I get 30 minutes of "Mama break" while my kids have time with their dad who they don't see all day. And then we switch and my husband takes 30 minutes. In this time I paint and puzzle, I meditate or dance to some awesome music etc. That gives me sooo much energy and patience for bedtime. Can highly recommend it. Our toddlers also start doing their "toddler breaks" where we need to stay out of the room, they really enjoy it as well.

[tracyladams]

I just want to say thank you. Such valuable information and wisdom.

[sierra]

This is absolutely the most meaningful advice I have received in a very long time. I most commonly lose my chill due to fear. For example, the most epic breakdown is happening in costco and I am calmly talking to my child and modeling- attemping to guide, but the onlookers are harsh (verbally or visually), and I start questioningting myself and methods "am I doing the right thing?" "am I totally screwing this up?" Do you second guess yourselves in public places? Or even infront of family who has different views on authoritarian parenting. How do you deal with that? I find I am questioning my methods daily, which is rooted in fear. Thank you again for sharing your learnings and experiences.

[BrightonDestiny]

Definitely need to hear these things over and over again. I’ve also found that I have a lot of sensory triggers that make me lose my cool very quickly, so when I come home from work I change clothes so nothing fits tightly, I put in noise reducing earplugs, and open all the windows to cool the apartment down. Sound, heat, and touch are things I can’t deal with so I do what I can to help lower and remove the issues to give myself just a little more patience

[peamoo]

Look at all these amazing mamas getting better every single day 💓

[juliadoula]

belive it or not :D my best way to stay calm is water. If i feel the wave of getting angry, tired, overwelmed or whatever coming, i will wash my face, put cold water on my neck, wash my hands or feet and drink water. If i have a really bad day, i will just make a break and take a cold shower, its pure gold and so healthy as well <3

[tanial]

Thank you! So much needed advice. I am 5 days in my c-section recovery and the whole situation has been crazy with my 3 years old son. We are trying to calm orselves and give him some grace since we put him in this situation. Today we gave him more attention and he had a better attitude. Thanks Ashley, for being so real.

[SarasBites]

You give the best advice! My kiddo is 15 months today and sometimes staying calm is sooo hard 😭

[MdeInWndrland]

You're absolutely amazing. Your doing Gods work helping parents out there manage this very hard part of the job❤️

[ar_m]

Thank you for this video. It's a great reminder for me when im having a tough time to give my children, and myself, grace. I'd also add that for anybody who experienced abuse (including verbal because it took me a long time to realize it wasn't normal and to not dismiss it) or trauma (no matter how long ago it was) to seek help from a therapist. As you said, challenging behavior from our children can trigger a response that is similar or the same as how we were raised so it's imperative to work through the trauma(s) we experienced in order to move forward and break the cycle of generational abuse. It's hard work but, our children are worth it and so is our mental health.