15 things to NEVER say or do to a Disabled person!! [CC]

I promise this is not proof that disabled Eliza is a fake so here are 15 things that you should never say or do to a Disabled person. Unfortunately, most of these things have happened to me at some point in my life and it is something that is very difficult to navigate! So please don't say or do these things to a Disabled person going forward!

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[Lus]

I will add two more to the list:
1) "Aww you're too young to be disabled." It can happen at any point for any reason.
2) "You can walk just like the rest of us." No, that's why I use my wheelchair/cane/whatever else I need.

Loved the video! Thank you for the info. :)

[TheSnowdogsShorts]

It freaks me out when strangers grab my wheelchair, I feel violated and vulnerable when this happens.

[Golden_Egg_Cookie]

I have autism. One time I told one of my teachers after I got diagnosed and her reaction was “Oh! I’m so sorry!” As if I told her I had a terminal illness. It was more confusing than anything honestly.

[ixykix]

Not long ago I had "YOU have kids?!" Erm, yep, parent, married, business owner. No-one needs to do any or all of these things, but many disabled people absolutely do too.

[TheSnowdogsShorts]

I think that people say we are faking, because they have no concept of what it is like to be disabled.

It is good that they don’t know what it feels like, but they also need to take our word about how our disabilities affect us.

[AaliyahGariri]

Number 3 is simular to blind or visually impaired people, because it happens a lot when stranger "want to help" and just pull you in a direction without asking

[melzlovly_]

i can’t even imagine someone pushing you without permission that must be so annoying and im sure it makes u angry.

[TheSnowdogsShorts]

When people asked me “what happened?”

I will happily go into graphic details.

One of my disabilities relates to my intimate parts, and it tends to gross people out when I talk about it.

The lesson here is, be careful what you ask, because you may not want to hear about it.

[glamethyst]

I've been blind since birth and I swear the ignorance is rampant! At least once a month, someone will take my white cane out of my hand or try to use it as a pointer for me so that I can see where to go I guess, I don't know. Pretty much every item on this list that can apply to blindness has been said or done to me and just this morning, one of my Blind friends texted me that her professor asked her a sign language question. Honestly that one makes me laugh because just wow. But yeah anyway, thank you for making this video and bringing these things to light.

[jamesbest]

As an autistic person the worst thing I've gotten is "you can thank vaccines for that"

[GeekChicPolitiq]

My favourites are is "yeah but that's not DISABLED disabled" and "oh everyone forgets words sometimes/is tired after a long day!". Yes, you are correct. However I'm talking about my MS symptoms and we're not talking about the same things?

[jamesbest]

I can't wrap my head around accusing someone of faking.

[Jacob-kxgo]

10(don't pray for us without our permission) This is also very annoying for me as a trans person, for entirely different reasons though!

I hate how often I'll be told I'm a sinner, and how other people will try to say we need to pray or they'll pray for us. It SUCKS, we are not sinners for being who we are

[andeeharry]

The one thing that gets me is the famous '''you don't look disabled, or ''why can't you walk'' when I tell people that I am disabled and have learning difficulties. It beats me to wonder why people say that. There are different types of disability, hidden ones too and it it isn't just restrictive to lack of leg use.

[donnamcdonald-gn]

My husband and daughter say that about my disability benefit payments. They say I get 'free' money but I think I'd rather be working than have to suffer constant pain, tiredness (for no reason), stress and anxiety. The money I receive is to help with daily tasks, like cleaning, travel, getting dressed, eating, hygiene. I have to pay someone to help clean my house as I am no longer able to get down on the floor or scrub surfaces hard to clean them. I ask people how they would feel if they couldn't reach a spot on their body that needs to be cleaned and how embarrassing it is to acknowledge this to people.

[RDrawzDragonz]

this may be a more specific one but, "Get well soon / i hope you feel better! "
for context i live in australia and am a teenager who uses a crutch, in australia (idk about other parts of the world) crutches ((especially for teens)) and often associated with a temporary sports injury like a broken foot or smthing... Due to this i get alot of "get well soons" this this annoying af because im not gonna get better, this is a permanant disability !!! ima be living with this for the rest of my life !!! + its also really annoying because they normally dont have bad intentions, they just dont think im disabled cuz mobility aids arent normalized for the young at all !!!

[wendylawrence-willer]

I have several conditions affecting my mobilty and my whole body, I use a walking stick all the time and sometimes need a wheelchair, but everyone always asks "what's wrong with your leg?" One: it's not just my leg and Two: none of your business. Why strangers feel they have a right to know your detailed medocal history I will never understand.
Great channel by the way.

[EqualOpportunityDestoroya]

Faking disability is one that gets me. My mom could walk a couple of steps before she needs her cane.

[jimiwills]

"we're all a little bit [insert disability here]"

[ameliab]

I personally perceive the prayer thing a little bit diffrent than you. I'm Christian, but had once had a Muslim friend on the internet. One day he asked how I've been, I told him that I've been good, but then he asked about my family, something like 'Is your family okay\healthy', and I told him that my grandma had just been diagnosed with cancer. He told me he was gonna pray for her - to a god, that I, obviously, don't and didn't believe in. I felt a little bit awkward because I didn't know exactly how to respond, but I didn't perceive it as something negative or troublesome at all. I ended up saying 'Thanks for your concern' - because I didn't believe his prayer would do anything, but I was grateful for his good intentions. Of course, that was different than coming up to a stranger, *touching them* and praying for them aloud - that, I think, would be uncomfortable for most believers, let alone atheists\agnostics\people of a a different religion than the praying one. Doing such a thing without consent is super weird and wrong. However I think there's nothing wrong in just saying that you'll pray for someone or just praying for them silently. I think that people who don't hate religion or have religious trauma won't have a problem with something that they see as ineffective but costs them nothing. I think if someone says that they'll pray for you while you're an atheist or don't believe what they believe, it's best to see their words as a sign of kind thoughts and general 'good energy' being sent to you (not necessarily like in some Wicca\New Age stuff, more like just some good vibes and care).