How To Teach Your Child To Behave

[Sophie-P]

“If you’re angry when disciplining your child, you’ve waited too long” is something I’ve felt but didn’t know how to say. Thank you Jordan, I wholeheartedly agree with you.

[crondawg]

“If you’re angry…you’ve waited too long”

This is good advice for setting boundaries with anyone

[marcy]

‘With 100% certainty’ is the key - you have to follow through. Great video!

[rootlori]

As a mom who ended up becoming a single mother when the children were very young...7 months and 4....I lacked consistency. This greatly affected my children and I totally regret it. They are now in their 3O's. We talk about it now. I have apologized. Most important thing I know is choose the parent of your future child well and do the work to stay married!

[maia]

They WILL test your boundaries. Consistency is Stay consistent and if they push it, follow through with consequences. It hurts, no one enjoys seeing their baby cry, but it is important for their development and safety.

[TJ-umce]

Damn Jordan... "If you're angry when you're disciplining your children, you've waited too long." This is PROFOUND 💯💯👏👏

[lisamm]

No is a word some parents need to learn to say. It's not abuse, it's discipline. Thank you Jordan, Master of every subject! 😊

[ninelives]

That's actually how mother monkeys teach their young.
They hold them by the leg or tail, and each time she let's go, if the baby heads back towards the "no no" she holds his leg again. Eventually, he stops and throws a little tantrum, then lies on his tummy defeated. Then she brings the baby into her arms and holds him lovingly.

[abblebabblez]

I had a similar conversation with a friend who asked how my kids (I have four aged 6 and under) had never broken a tv or computer monitor.

I was stunned, and responded with “because I taught them to not pull at things on tables, and also not throw things in the house?”
I can’t recall how many times I had to tell them “no” and redirect them, but clearly it paid off.

Everyone mentions how pleasant my kids are to be around, so I’m very thankful that I’m raising decent kids.

[ayannathomas]

This is what I would call true gentle parenting. You as a parent understanding that you are the adult and you need to teach your child to be the best person they could be. You don’t have to do that with corporal punishment or yelling or anything else. Just be firm, calm, and keep your consequences consistent.

[Veran]

I have always stuck to two rules when teaching discipline to young kids:
1. No means No! 100% of the time.
2. Have more determination to teach them, than they have stubbornness to resist being taught!

I will now be adding a 3rd:
3. If you are angry at them, you waited too long to deal with it.

Thanks Dr Peterson.

Edit: point 2 originally said ‘be more stubborn than they are’ but folks seemed to get riled up about the word stubborn, so i have expanded upon what i meant.

[georgedavis]

Discipline is the most important thing in life. You learn that as you get older.

[bv]

In my 36 years teaching experience, there were many examples of parents who told me that their child behaved "childishly" because they were a child, and when they were adults, they would behave maturely. There is no magic day when any child starts behaving responsibly and maturely. The magic happens when parents consistently discipline in love. That's why parenting is another full-time 24 hr job. There are no shortcuts. It takes a lot of time and putting one's self out of convenience or what was planned. The rewards are amazing and last beyond a lifetime!

[ggpmf]

Consistency is exhausting but the eventual peace it brings is priceless

[thisworldhasgonemad]

When talking with younger parents who are frustrated, I tell them that consistency is key. Also, hold to your word. If you say they are going to get a timeout, give them a timeout. Don't just threaten without follow through. They have to know that when you say something, you mean it.

[RivetHead]

Just a few hours ago, I was at a store, waiting in line to check out. I could hear a child screaming and crying “I WANT IT!!!” Over and over. Probably a good 5 minutes, while waiting (one cashier, and there’s always that one person in line that for some reason makes it go slower)

After a few minutes I hear “if I get it will you SHUT UP?!” That woman just taught her child “scream really loud for 5 minutes and you’ll get what you want”. Pretty much guaranteed she’d have to deal with this over and over again.

[izzytyler]

Yes, only works if total consistency is adhered to. Jordan is so brilliant. Such a wise and interesting human being.

[StanleyBaker-yvbg]

He's said this numerous times. I feel like this may be the most relatable and simplistic way to put this. Many of the topics covered by Jordan are difficult to understand, including this one. This short perfectly encapsulated the art of behavior modification perfectly at the toddler stage.

[anaderol]

Absolutely excellent advice! AND this type of discipline MUST commence during the baby stage - some parents allow their kids to grow up undisciplined and then expect them to behave when they’re 10 / 11 / 12 ++ - too TOO late. The ship has sailed!!

[Lovelylaura]

Exactly what I did with my kids. I loved it because I could have a playful sweet attitude with them because they were adorable and yet... They learned mommy's the boss and she knows best😊