You’re Finally Over Your Ex (then they reach out)

Katie writes, “Hi Susan! Thank you for being you. For the past year, I've been letting go of people from my past & focusing on what I want in an ideal partner. There was a guy that I was hung up on for SO long & I decided to set myself free from him. Fast forward a month later and he randomly reached out to me. My question- Is this a test from the universe to make sure I've officially moved on?”

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[neuroticgypsy]

People like this ( those who hurt then come back) never end up happy. They usually get a taste of their own medicine as well at some point. Trust me. They will hurt one day too.

[invalidgirl]

Never take someone back who didn't want you

[lukem]

This JUST happened to me… and has been continuing to happen since! No contact is power. And even better? I don’t want to respond! I promise anyone reading this that your time will come too. Mental freedom does exist!

[joe-uyrv]

They really had power over me and when they reached out they said that they're lost and don't have any purpose, then I realized that they actually miss the rush of gaslighting me and pointing me out as needy and irrational.

[vitoasaro]

That's the devil sending his minion back to work is all

[hcoop]

They should have caught us while we cared. 🙌🤣

[stephenn]

It can be a lonely road when you live your truth and don’t chase people! I’m at the point now where I will reciprocate if people reach out, but I’m not wasting energy anymore. Whatever happens will happen and just going to let things come my way!

[ladyjade]

Just happened to me after a year of no contact. Just give up and get a dog.

[ashleyha]

my situationship ex appeared back into my life after he caused me so much pain and at first i thought oooh suddenly he actually cares about me but NOPE he just loves the feeling of being wanted and needed for the sake of his OWN validation. he reaches out and acts like he cares but he doesn’t do it for me. it’s all for him. he does NOT truly care about me. love doesn’t hurt. i’m gonna pass this damn test

[bassoonmusic]

Most definitely my experience was a test. He literally reached out on my first day at a new job, 18 months after blindsiding me and wrecking me for a while. He didn't even want to get back together. He just missed my friendship. 🙄🤮 I think about it often, but I know deep down there is nothing there for me, because he only ever cared about himself. Thank you!! ❤

[mlantieri]

Katie…….you need to respect yourself enough to realize that you deserve better. Don’t settle for “comfortable” or “familiar”.

[dawnowens]

I feel empowered because I have this group to share with.
I feel like most of the readers-community posters, understand more than less of what I been dealing with.

[_rabia_demir_]

GOOSEBUMPS throughout the whole video. You posted it just in time. Really needed this, thank you Susan, you are loved ❤

[Vanjuska]

Yes yes YES! I broke up with a guy few months ago. No contact., i said i wanted more. Im fine now, feeling free and calm. At peace and with fresh plans for life. This sunday gone he turned up at my door. Wanting coffee. Talk. He misses me he says. He s serious, sad and nervous. Calls himself an idiot. He s sorry for everything. We had coffee, talked, danced a bit, we had sex even. He stayed the afternoon and when he left i went to bed at night and realized Im really over him. I dont want him no more. He s boring old movie that has good start but the end i ve already seen. We re trough. All is good.

[chrisbeaty]

Just happened to me after 14 months of being apart. She reached out to me out of nowhere. It set me back when she both complemented me and insulted me. This was a person that I thought was my soulmate.. But got a person with BPD and got destroyed. I am still trying to figure out what the Hell she wanted..

[alejandraquintana]

This is true as heck. The day I decided to break up with a boyfriend because I said I wanted better, an ex came back to text me that same night and I was like the fuuu get outta here. I said no to that ex who came back too and then I got a man who takes care of my heart and my soul. 🥰🥰🥰

[Jocelyn_Jade]

He just moved out last week. It feels like I am keeping myself together because of Breakup Triage and your other videos! Thank you Susan! Training the mind to think positively has been healing.

[spreadthegospel]

Perfect timing! Was totally thinking about what I should do… now I know…
I will be strong, I deserve better….thank you

[blaqobsydian]

It hit me like a tonne of bricks recently that I was genuinely over my ex… the thoughts of how they treated me can’t be forgotten and I haven’t really forgiven them either. I went over and beyond for them… just for them to dump me in one of the coldest ways ever via text. Yeah… I can’t really forget that and them reaching out to “start over” is an insult really 😕😔

[DemGemN-em]

OMG!! 💜💙💚💚 you, Susan! This is right on time. I literally just got a text from someone I was seeing... believed to be a divine counterpart. Haven't been getting the personal time I wanted & finally decided to cut it off for good yesterday. Thank you so much for this confirmation! 🤗🤗