Frustrated with your sexless marriage? A Urologist explains what to do about it

Is Sexless Marriage for real?! Is your relationship over when you don't meet the “right” or “healthy” amount of sex that every couple needs to be having?

This might be a trivial issue for partners, but not having enough sex can impose a threat to your relationship.

Know how to deal with it so make sure to watch this video til the end.

Thanks for watching!!

00:00 Intro
00:07 Sexless Marriage: What can you do about it?
00:15 Definition of Sexless Marriage
01:38 Why are people having sexless marriages?
02:52 2 Different Types of Desire in Relationships
06:41 How can you repair sexless marriage?
09:04 Take Care of Yourself Merch
09:10 Conclusion

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Rena Malik, MD is a urologist and pelvic surgeon on YouTube to educate people about all things urology including erectile dysfunction, how to increase testosterone, problems with sex, premature ejaculation, urinary leakage, or incontinence, overactive bladder, urinary tract infections, prostate issues and more.

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[theautodidacticman_]

Intimacy is the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship.

[cyu]

It never gets better. It stays the same or gets worse.

[galinstan]

The real issue is not so much lack of sex; it is lack of affection. Does anyone really want sex with your partner when it is a chore for them, i.e., they throw you a bone now and then to shut you up. The presence of rejection is far worse than the absence of affection. It is better to be alone by yourself, than to be alone with another.

[MrTifmik]

When you think about it, a married person’s spouse is their only sexual outlet. It’s very cruel for a spouse to withhold sex from their partner. The terms need to be agreed upon BEFORE the marriage. It’s so selfish to withhold sex and demand faithfulness.

[jhollie]

40 years of this. Wife always said she would change. Yep, I’m a fool for believing that.

[andy-tizf]

from reading thru the comments this is a way more common problem then most people realize. thank you for talking about it DR Rena.

[freakyp]

I was in a nearly sexless marriage for almost 20 years. Not the only reason for it to end but I definitely wasn't happy. Now I have sex 2-3 times a week, sometimes more. That's amazing in itself. Beyond that I am actually greatly appreciated as a man and husband. It's all around a better marriage than my first.

[gregorymanchester]

I'm 67 and wife is 61. We've been married for 36 years and still have sex twice a week. Make the time to stay connected! Keep your partners needs and happiness before yours. Even if we don't always climax being connected is a great feeling.

[richardcesarano]

I’m 69, been training at gym’s for 44 years. My wife 67, has been training for the last dozen or more years. For us, it’s self esteem and never taking each other for granted. Of course there are issues in 47 years of marriage, but we communicate. That is definitely the key. I think for men we are definitely more visual. She excites me still, and we been married a while. I keep myself in excellent shape for her, because I feel women after so long are not as visual as men. So you make her proud of the way you look and take care of yourself. That works for us.

[frankburgo]

The last time my Wife and I had sex was August 2017. I was 58 yrs old, and she was 55 yrs old. She blames it on coming out of menopause, with no desire whatsoever for sex. But she has wanted sex, less and less since 2014. Extremely frustrating because I'm now approaching 64 yrs old and even though I want sex a few times a week, I continue to go without. It's only a matter of time that my libido will no longer be, and I feel like I've been cheated out of sex for the last 9 years or so.

[scotthavishaven]

Married 20 years, no sex the last 15. It's probably the sole reason I drink, cuz it just frustrates me to no end. But a divorce in my state always rules to her favor, and so she'll take everything I've worked for all these years. And she knows it. Thanks for this, Rena.

[strategygalactic]

My wife stopped having sex with me. I just stopped doing things around the house. I even removed her from everything that I possibly could dealing with money.

[peecmkr]

A very important topic. There are so many unhappy marriages where the two people simply exist with each other. It's purgatory.
Divorce is the better choice in my opinion.

[renaissanceman]

Let me make this very clear... vast majority of these cases involve the wife that no longer wants sex, often past the age of 35...
- the fact is that she simply doesn't want sex with you.
So if you can get out of the relationship without too much damage, especially if you don't have kids, do so. don't waste your life in a marriage that isn't fulfilling.
I will add that talking about it will more than likely make it worse. why? because SHE doesn't want it and talking about it is akin to exposing her. doing that nearly always accelerates issues

[martinlewis]

I would like to have this conversation with my wife, but she feels very uncomfortable talking about sex even though we’ve been together for 30 years so I never know how to approach it without her becoming defensive and it ending in an argument

[protectork]

Talking about it will always lead to huge argument . Trust me, there is no way of brining this up

[marlonbravo]

"Always take care of yourself because you are worth it!"

Words of wisdom!

Thank you Rena! <3

[pablo]

Things I have learned in my own experience:

1) You just *can’t* make someone desire you, regardless of how fit, well groomed, connected or invested you are in the relationship;

2) Sex for many is like cleaning your baseboards—it’s something you know you *should* do, but it is all too easy to just keep kicking the can down the road;

3) It’s time to start collecting stamps.

[jamesstrachan]

It is extremely selfish if one person refuses to meet their partners needs. The person not giving sex then doesnt want the person to look outside of the marriage.

[johngy]

My first wife was once every three weeks if i was lucky and a good boy ...She has been replaced best decision i ever made, Don, t waste your life in an unhappy marriage