Ways To Recognize Toxic Friendships

Could you be in a toxic friendship? Whether a taker or a giver, we've listed 3 of the worst kinds of toxic friends; Users, unaware and fakers. We've even included how to handle these kinds of friendships. If you recognise you or someone you know as one of these, let us know how you deal with bad friends in the comment section below.

[nico-hpoi]

Just got out of a toxic friendship. It was the best decision I’ve ever made

[SLKibara]

I recognize myself as an "Unaware"
I try to help but everything I do tends to make it worse.

[ghostofbex]

I ended a 14 year friendship with my best friend 2 years ago. I had the decency to tell her why in an honest way. She had nothing to say other than “Sorry you feel that way”.
Her response showed me exactly how she felt about me and I knew from that moment, I made the right choice. Thank you for this video!

[blackcatt]

i just dropped a toxic friend two days ago and it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders

[ghostbaby]

I used to be the Unaware friend, but overtime I'm so glad my best friends didn't dump me and actually helped me see that sometimes I was going too far. Yeah they may have knocked me upside the head a couple of times for it but they're honestly helping me grow and teaching me how to be a good friend. I'm trying my hardest to give them that kind of care in return, though I know I suck at it sometimes 😂

[angeliquehorne]

Toxic friendship even when you realize it’s not good for you it still hurts to leave.

[fistoffries]

I would strongly recommend against the odd belief that all relationships have to end with some sort of formal discussion. Particularly with someone like a user or a faker, its best just to fade or simply become "busy" so that you no longer have to deal with them. This person doesn't deserve to plead their case, they will most likely use this sit-down to take their final digs at you and attack your vulnerabilities.

[auroredumal_]

Very toxic things toxic friends do or say (no matter if they are unaware, users or fakers):
1. *We are friends - you owe me to do this for me!*
You don't owe them anything. Tell them that you have your boundaries and therefore you can't or don't want to do certian things for others.
After telling them they might say, that you are selfish but remember: Putting you wants over other persons needs is selfish. Putting your needs over other persons wants is self respect! If you currently can't meet your friend because you need to take care of yourself (whether it's mentally or physically) YOU TAKE GODDAMN CARE OF URSELF HOE

2. They dare you to do things that you don't want to do.
You don't want to drink alcohol? You don't want to date that person? You don't want to go to a specific place? A real friend accepts your boundaries, even if they don't understand them, A toxic person will dare you to do things, that you don't want to do, either they are threatening you, or using specific phrases like ''Oh come on, you gotta try some new things!''

3. They don't respect your privacy
You have the right to have a privacy and it's secrets. You don't owe a friend to tell them personal things just because they are your friend. If they dare you to tell them something you are uncomftable with, they are clearly crossing your boundaries!

4. They hurt you on a regular basis and don't care about it
To be honest, we all do things that are not okay, but it's totally natural. But a toxic friend refuses to apologize for their mistakes and toxic behaviour! Even worse, they might be mocking you or using common phrases like ''Dude, it's just a joke!'' Even when they know, that they've hurt you badly.

5. They freak out when you call them out on their toxic behaviour and deny everything
Yeah, the title is saying it all

6. They threaten you on a regular basis

7. They tell lies behind your back

8. They only text/call you when they need you.

Look out!
I hope, this helped.

[IMcLovinurDad]

I was literally thinking about this yesterday and needed advice

[huffrhea]

What about the person who is always there for that toxic friend? The one who always is their buddy, the one who will listen to their school drama, and will help them through their problems? Because that's what i am to everyone I know at this point. I give up everything just to make sure that they are happy. But they still choose their school friends over me.
Lol I'm coming on the internet to complain like everyone else.

[jenotstupidthing]

Actually my "friends" don't clarifies as these types... They simply constantly ignores all my tries to make our bonds stronger. Also they don't give me anything beside our laughter... And really often forget about me...

[Myprincess-]

I was friends with a guy that fits the description of “unsure” at first I just accepted him for who he was, then realised our relationship was toxic and cut him off. Haven’t looked back since! Great video.

[dumpstercub]

I'm a bit scared I'm becoming the unaware friend, people tend to come to me to vent or for advice and over time I've become a little nosy. I'm a very blunt person so I often I say things that come off as rude.

[drinasun]

I'm selective when it comes to friendships. I got out of several toxic ones once I learned they were users and fakers. I cut them off after graduation because I refused to be their doormat for one more second. Their requests became overwhelming and ridiculous. I started to build resentment. My judgment was so poor that I thought the people I hung out with at school were good. They started only talking to me when they needed something from me. Don't say yes so often that people start taking advantage of your kindness and using your good nature against you.

[murlock]

I choose very carefully people who are my friends, so it takes verry long time to make friendship with me, but then i am sure they are not something like fakers or users. Its better have few friends than those toxic types.

[sal]

When you're a popular, you have *all* of these friends.

[alonewolf]

Who needs friends anyway no friends no problem :)

[Jake-ktws]

I just cut off my toxic friend and I'm scared of how she's gonna act when school starts back because we have a lot of classes together and she was one of my only friends.

[jamie]

I looked this up because she I don’t feel like she cares as much as I do and she proved that today.

[hello]

There is a boy in my school. He is really sweet and nice because he wouldn't do any harm to anyone (he'll only distance himself from them if the other person does wrong to him). However, I treated him so badly a long time ago and I don't know how to say sorry. I really feel bad about myself, because he doesn't deserve to be treated the way I did. I'm often scared of social situations, so saying sorry costs me a little bit more than the average person. I don't want to be a bad classmate and neither a bad friend. What do I do? ;_;