Dementia Do's & Dont's: How to Stop Repeated Questions

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[wsn]

Yup, you'll get sucked into the loop of "no I didn't" or "no it's not" if you argue. Redirect or distract them for your own sanity.

[AnnaBanana-rqvh]

We bought my mom a digital clock with HUGE numbers that showed the date and time. When she asked we just pointed at the clock. Amazon.

[penni]

I worked with Alzheimer/dementia patients for over 30 years. I remember when we, a staff, were taught "reality therapy". then it switched to "Patient reality therapy"

[mrtee]

My grandma has dementia and I'm kinda grateful for it. She speaks her mother tongue, and I'm not really great at the language. So I'm always grateful to hear her say smt I understand over and over again and to be able to answer.

[tiner]

My neighbour had dementia. I will never forget listening to her DIL cuss her out because "Why didnt you meet me in the parking lot as we agreed".
The family was refusing several offers of good care homes, because they wanted the one right next to where they lived. Meanwhile, another neighbour was staying up at night to keep her from leaving in freezing weather and no jacket, several times a week. Us with children had to remove our doorbells, or she would wake up everyone ever 20 minutes on a bad night, asking for a ride home. Once she was in my bed room in the middle of the night because we forgot to lock the door. We did help her with alot, but night duty went to the childfree retired one, so dont think we were evil😅

[sharonm]

I'm a teacher. This was one thing that just didn't bother me! So much easier to have patience for my sick granddad than the seven kids who just didn't listen when I told them the first five times 😂

[kegirl]

I always told my grandpa that 'you know what, im not sure myself let me check.' So i would check my phone and be like ' oh wow its 12pm when did that happen.' and we would both laugh😅

[JennyG.COW]

Oh my gosh!! This is so helpful!!! 😁👍
My Grandpa has had a stroke and he often repeats questions to my Grandma. He also calls her wife "Mom", probably because she's been the main caretaker for him like his Mom did for him. Plus, I'm sure he referred to her as Mom sometimes when their own kids were growing up.


Thank you So Much!!! 🤗❤️

[lanettedavidson]

So helpful. I live in a community with a lot of Senior Citizens that live close by, and often when I hear of a situation that I watched from your “Show” I will try to give a suggestion to a weary caregiver or just suggest that they watch your channel - then I can avoid the “don’t give advise to someone who doesn’t want your help or suggestions.

[BekEhr]

My mil is in middle stage, and frequently asks us questions multiple times in the same conversation. I’ve previously worked memory care, and I love this video. Might share to help some of the family

[nicolehegarty]

My family was so impatient with my grandma when she had dementia! I took care of her and they wouldn't even visit even though they only lived a few minutes away and she spoiled them their whole lives ironically but not me however I am not mean enough to leave her alone because nobody else would do it they couldn't stand her repeating herself. So despite her being the worst grandma ever to me my whole life until the dementia I* am the one who ended up taking care of her until she died* because nobody else would. Ha. Her precious spoiled favorites ditched her. I had to move from Minnesota to Colorado to take care of her as live in help because nobody else would even though they lived minutes away from each other for years and used to see each other all the time to get spoiled by grandma until she got dementia. Remember that lesson. I know I will. Notice who is there for you when you are in need and who isn't. Treat those who care well. Don't treat them like door mats. Just saying. Oh btw. I got kicked out as soon as grandma died. The spoiled family owned the house and kicked me out. I was no longer needed as the live in dementia slave. So they ditched me too. I also got nothing from my grandma. None of her belongings. None of her ashes. I was not invited to the funeral. I will never forgive those spoiled jerks. They are no family of mine.

[jfrazz]

I think that I need to thank my volunteers who have special needs to teaching me patience and understanding about cognitive and physical difficulties.

My last visit with my mother we had the same conversation about 20 times. I never got frustrated. I didn’t take a break in another room to cry (but maybe I’m a sociopath!). I just struggle to find conversation topics that are tangible to her and meaningful for me.

[IndigoMystik]

You are doing good works! Blessings to you.

[theodorejade]

my dad didn't have dementia, just really bad memory, but he would do the same, and it's unfortunate i never really had the patience to do this while he was around (i was young). the arguments of "i told you already, " "just tell me again" and "how did you forget?" are really not worth it when you can just repeat it.

im so glad to see you post videos of simple kindness like this, it reminds me to keep it in mind.

[punkyfeathers]

My father developed dementia so quickly got so bad so fast. I wish I had been more prepared.

[khalicamoore]

My mother had a client who thought every day was his birthday. She purposely went in every day and said, "Happy birthday, just to make him happy

[stuckbiscuit]

This is called preservating! Its really helpful to know ehat jt is and how to respond to it, as its really overlooked in geriatric care.Thank you!

[Vivienwestphal]

I do all the dos and still end up saying the same thing in 1000 different ways, 10000 times during my shift. One patient was moved to an elderly home, despite still being able to take care of most of his needs. He would have been fine with home nurse coming to check on him a couple times a day. He just wants to go home. That's all he wants. His daughters already sold his home, and he has nothing to go back too. It's sad. Old trees shouldn't be replanted.

[DEBH-id]

Sounds like deflect, distract, and help do something else are the main strategies. I am at an age where a friend is beginning to act like maybe dementia.I can't tell you how much better these skits make me feel like we could still be friends and I will know help her a bit.