5 signs you have poor boundaries#shorts

Many of us have poor boundaries without realizing it. One way of knowing if you do is by noticing how you feel in your interactions with others. Do you feel anxious, pressured, or stressed? Or are you able to be yourself, feel calm, and at ease? If the former, you may have poor boundaries.

Our boundaries are developed during childhood. When caregivers respect our boundaries (e.g., our space, our time, our emotions, our thoughts, our needs) then we typically devleop healthy boundaries.

But if we are pushed to do things we don't like or are uncomfortable with, are guilted or shamed for not complying or having a differing opinion, or punished for disobeying or getting upset, then we likely develop unhealthy boundaries.

Basically, poor boundaries indicate you don't know where others end and you begin. This confusion carries into our adult relationships and causes distress and anxiety.

If this resonates with you, have the courage to pause, consider your own needs and feelings, and assert your needs. Know that nobody is going to get mad at you. That was the past. And the more you practice putting yourself as the main character in your own life, the more you'll experience that it is okay to speak your truth and take care of your own needs.

Save this post for when you need a reminder. ❤
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