Where Are The Good Men?

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[DiscoFever]

There are plenty of "good men"....that aren't 6 ft tall, don't have six-pack abs, and work jobs for less than six figures that they don't like. I'm glad I'm old, have grand kids, and don't have to deal with "Tik Tok" girl nonsense. I feel bad for young men today.

[Jumpyman_thegamerYT]

They always ask ‘where are the good men?’ and never ‘Does a good man want me to begin with?’

[Goliath_Stallone]

Meanwhile a successful lawyer friend of mine gets turned down all the time by his dates telling him he works too much. You just can’t win. 😂

[Vltron]

Every woman says she "wants a good man, " until she meets one who requires her to be a better woman.

[stargazer]

I asked the women I worked with to define what their definition of a "good man" is and they all said a man that treats them right, doesn't lie to them, takes care of his appearance, isn't conceited and respects women. I then asked them was their last boyfriend a good man and they all said no! So they chose the "bad boy" over the good man! Women will say what they want, but then respond to the opposite of what they say!

[real_fjcalabrese]

At 56, I'm older than most of the people in the comments.

My satisfaction comes from other sources than my job. Careers often go away.

[stanleymartins-os]

Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.

[Shawn-ohyq]

Loving your job is a luxury, and is largely outside of your control (boss, coworkers, work assignments are all not within your control). I had a girl reject me partly because I "wasn't passionate about my job". Like, sorry. I live in the real world, not a disney movie. Work is not always going to be something you love, especially when the expectation is that the man will make good money. High paying jobs are often stressful, require long hours, have mundane tasks, or you have a sociopathic manager. But if a guy loves his job putting fries in the bag, then they won't want him because he's broke.

[XaloGunner]

My dad had the same job for 31 years - some days he liked it, some days he hated it. And sometimes he told us that, sometimes he kept it between him and our mom haha. What mattered most was being there for his family. He worked to go home. His sweat equity kept us going to school and kept our tummies full.

There is an unbelievable amount of honor in that and probably 80-90% of the world is made up those kinds of people; they make the world spin.

[ragmer]

This video reminded me of something a friend of mine once told me.

Women don’t want to deal with the struggle. They wait at the finish line for the winners. They do not stand beside you for all the years of struggle it takes to become one.

After seeing many men I know lose their relationships due to chronic illness, unexpected unemployment, major injury etc I find it hard to fault his logic.

Also “not all women” for those typing angry replies. But the only girl in my life that has stood by me as I developed a chronic illness/disability is my cat. She’s a sweet heart.

[Chris-ozju]

As a 56 year old blue collar man, divorced and been told decent looking lol. My experience of most of my dates is being a blue collar man is a non starter for many women which leaves me concluding that they want a meal ticket and not a man.

[jonathangriffin]

I am 53 and I have been hearing the "Where are all the good men?" statements from women. And these are the same women who say that the "good men" are boring and they do not have anything exciting going on in their lives, but the thing I find amazing is the "good men" who were not interesting in the beginning are now the men that women are looking for when their hearts get broken by the men they find "hot" or "sexy". Meanwhile, the actual "good men" have either moved on or they make the decision to stay single. And most single men do well for themselves.

[kudzuvines]

I find it interesting that there's so much emphasis on this ambition toward career. I'm not happy with where my career is at 39 years old. I probably do complain too much about my career but there is nothing I can do about it until my daughter graduates high school. My wife passed away when my daughter was 6 years old and I've had to work with clients that pay more to free up more time to be available for raising my kid. I'd rather be a good father that's miserable for 3-6 hours a day than one who loves his career and is a terrible father for even one second. I work hard enough to be able to put food on the table, and the rest of my time, energy and attention go to raising a teenage girl, 9 years later. She's well-adjusted, shows respect, and is a 4.0 student ... so I'd say I made the right choice. I can focus on my career again at 42 when she graduates. Thanks again Courtney for correcting these extreme views, and introducing some subtlety into the value of men and women.

[ctVreZ]

Lots of them are around. They’re either not tall enough, not wealthy enough, or too nice for you. Never satisfied.

[joelpenigar]

Women that are actually good women know where the good men are, they recognize good men when they see them, and (most importantly) THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO GOOD MEN. If someone is having a hard time finding good people, that's usually a "them" issue, not the fault of the people they're looking for.

[dylancooper]

She should probably be asking herself, "How come the men I am attracted to are not good men?"

[ohjay]

Women used to love a man and support him even in down times. Now she's defining a good man as someone who already has everything figured out and she can just come in at the end. Also, your job wont matter if she isnt attracted to you at all to begin with.

[uninvited]

Under no circumstances does career fulfillment have anything to do with a man's character - which you also say in different words. However, a non-fulfilling career can have a negative impact on a relationship. In a "good" man, it can bring him down, and the whole relationship vibe can be brought down with that. In an "evil" man, it can make him behave in an unacceptable, even downright criminal in extreme cases, manner towards his partner. In any case, if a woman wants to see if a man is "good" or "evil", career fulfillment is definitely not the place to check...

[chefstevekirsch]

A friend nailed it:

"Where have all the good men gone?"

"They saw you coming first!"

[kenrickbautista]

I love your perspective on good men. And it's true what you said. Personally, I never like being someone who's in the position to be cruel to people, regardless. Being mean is not cool. Really wish people were more nicer.