the good men are OFFLINE

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In this episode, Elle discusses the concept of there being plenty of good men, providing evidence to support her claim. The episode features a discussion on the 'Princess Treatment Competition' and the idea of the 'Divine Masculine Man'. Elle shares various videos that provide examples of healthy, supportive, and respectful relationships. She also discusses the importance of emotional intelligence in a man and how it contributes to a successful and balanced relationship. Elle emphasizes the red flags to watch out for in a relationship, focusing on the negative effects a wrong partner can have on a woman’s health and stress levels. The episode also delves into societal changes, noting that with women now having access to education and money, men are facing a loneliness epidemic, largely due to their lack of emotional intelligence. Elle ends the episode by highlighting the need for men to develop emotional intelligence and provide emotional support, not just financial stability.

[lawschoolgirly]

My bestie in law school just got engaged to her engineer, spiritually aware, provider man in Zermatt, Switzerland on a ski trip he took her on! He fully supports her as she is full time in law school. He is a great man - and all his friends are, too. THEY ARE OUT THERE! She is a feminine, spiritually, loving person who deserves a supportive & loving partner back <3

[ayamempress]

A masculine man, never has to declare himself. It's in his presence and demeanour

[toscadonna]

I cook for my girl friends and female relatives; men have never appreciated me going out of my way to cook, so I stopped doing it for them. Even my husband put down my efforts to make fresh bread, meals, and to give him healthy versions of things like pizza and noodles which I made from scratch. Never again.

[jeronimamoreno]

My boyfriend now husband paid for my college tuition and asked me to stop working and concentrate on school, I completed my B.A. in Economics and managed to appeal my financial aid package to get more grants and scholarships, In the end, the university paid, and reimbursed my tuition which allowed me to paid him back knowing he was not expecting to be paid back.
He is also a nerdy man and is not interested in impressing other men.

[copperredd]

A divine masculine man is very attractive. But u need to have the self development and growth to bypass all the other red flag men

[prettyprincesslexi]

Exactly the kind of content we need! There are good men and it feels good when you're around them because you feel safe, secured, and cherished.

[MrsTruthTeller]

I'm 37. I've been dating for a long time and I've dated a lot because Im a pretty attractive woman. Of the MANY, MANY men that I've met, I can say that only two of them would be considered the CREAM OF THE CROP type of men. So ladies, yes, they are out there but the pickings truly are slim. Dont try to turn a frog into a prince. Please learn to stay single and happy if you don't meet the cream of the crop man.

[coolbreeze]

Be careful because guys are good at manipulating and pretending until they get what they want. They can say they're working on themselves and all that stuff they know you want to hear. If someone is right for you, they will be consistent for a long period of time and there will be no rush or pressure to get into a relationship with them.

[vegito]

“We are not training grounds or rebounds for men to learn common decency”❤

[terresa]

out of all the red flags, the worst one for me is immaturity.

and the opposite, the biggest green flag is maturity, the best thing ever in a man.

[Zullala]

I've dated several men who had no invested friendships... Several of these friendless men relied on me to fulfill every void. Way too much pressure and energy usage on my end!

The other guy was just an ass who was unlikable long term and no one would remain friends with him once they saw how self serving he is.

I learned my lesson and refused to date any man who didn't have at least one long-term friend. I found a guy who has several great buddies and many outer circle friendships. He's the best guy I've ever been with. Incredibly thoughtful and loving. He also doesn't need me to entertain him 24/7

[oldankh]

I'd like to let other women in the comments know that I was paid around $50, 000 a year when I was a cook professionally, and I only did breakfast and lunch service.

That's the bare minimum amount for your labor you are putting in, your labor and effort has VALUE!

[snippetx]

"You can't grow in survival and softness at the same time" is exactly what is wrong with a lot of the paradigm of men's spaces regarding women.

[ilona]

It’s great to see some positive content about good men for once. Toxic masculinity has traumatized us

[IWasFirst]

I wrote a paper once while in college about how men and women are treated in the world of cooking. Example could be how men’s cooking shows are “hardcore”, and shows geared towards women are “domestic, ” creating an expectation that has lasted forever that women should cook because it is “expected of them” while men should do it for “pleasure and career.” It was an interesting paper to write about, and I even got asked to present it at a symposium.

[maura_the_rose]

I think a lot of men expect to be treated like they are the “divine masculine” without doing any of the heavy lifting of actually being that. When a guy is in that divine energy he empowers his partner and suddenly she isn’t expending energy on worry, frustration, shame etc, and is instead able to put her energy into loving on herself and her partner. Divine energy coming from both sides should make your lives easier, not harder. ☺️❤️

[anarcho-communist]

Cooking is considered a woman's job because it's "unending, hidden, and unpaid." Exactly right. Same with child care.

[DaughterofDiogenes]

Exactly. Decent people are not chronically online. They don’t spend hours on YouTube, they have hobbies and interests and friends that they spend time with. They work, they do a ton of stuff that isn’t uploading every terrible experience they’ve had on TikTok.

You are so very correct. They exist. You just have to be cautious and keep your eyes wide open.

[RebeDrawsStuff]

I just realised that I've met two good men in my life who genuinely tried to make things easier for me yet I refused to date them because I had this terrible mindset that the love of a man only matters if he makes you suffer first.
I no longer have that mindset. Sometimes I feel guilty for those mistakes from my past but now that I have a new perspective I won't let that happen again (or at least I will try my best).

[godlikebae]

Your videos are so healing! My husband just asked for a divorce after 10 years. I did all the childcare, housework and organizing. Me asking for the bare minimum was to much. You will not support him trough his struggle, he will simply feel supported enough, for him to stop working on himself. Spare yourself, your emotional labour will not heal him.