Where Did All The Good Men Go?

[adamfritz]

And we're also hiding in our homes after working. Because we've been hurt or devalued for too long that we'd much rather be alone

[logandarklighter]

Where are all the good men? Staying the HELL away from women who ask that question! That's where we are!

[mr.jenkinsawesomecoolteach]

And don’t actually want them, like they said they did. My ex wife said she’d make me the happiest man on earth. I already was, until she decided to leave.

[artmay]

All i require of my husband is to be happy in whatever it is he is doing that day. He was miserable at a job that brought him joy but the management and owner were horrible. He wanted to quit. So i told him id support whatever he chose to do. So he did. He was without work for 3 months because it was off season for his field. Season came around. He went to a new company and man the difference in his happiness since quiting the old place and getting in this place is tremendously better. Though he kept thinking he was doing wrong by me and i had to reasure him that i had us til he got back on his grind. Hes my partner and ill be damned if i ever tell him he has to stay somewhere that makes him miserable. Ill gladly take on some OT so he can find some hapiness because i know hed do the same for me.

[darrenskjoelsvold]

Don't forget home. When not at work men go home. All our stuff is there.

[cannabub]

We're constantly reminded that we're not good enough, so we ensure as not to burden anyone with our presence.

[TheRealBelisariusCawl]

Well, I was at work. Then I crashed into a guardrail and wrecked my car because I fell asleep at the wheel 2 states away trying a case. Of course I was alone at the hospital because- well I’m a guy and we just deal with it. And of course it was “the right thing for my family” not to travel.

And then I went home and back to my 100 hour work week building my practice. Then my wife asked me to give up my hand-built 300 gallon aquarium because “it was a distraction for me” so I sold my last hobby trying to do “the right thing for my family”.

Then my doctor suggested a brief hospitalization due to nervous exhaustion and being underweight from constantly running around. I said no because it wouldn’t be “the right thing for my family”

Then one day the police showed up at my home with a TRO from my wife claiming I was abusive. I leave, go to a friends. I don’t contact her, etc. it gets dropped because even in her testimony she doesn’t allege anything that amounts to abuse. Out of respect I don’t even return home and I think we’re working things out. I was wrong, she filed a second TRO that was just as ineffective. I filed nothing except an agreement to continue to give her the majority of my income because it was “the right thing for my family”

*THEN* I found out she had been planning to divorce me for over a year and that everything she had said and done for the previous 16 months had been to that end: encouraging me to work myself to death, selling off my hobbies, changes to investments, the TRO’s, etc had all been delaying tactics so she could loot the marital estate and restart her life as a (albeit wealthy) “victim.”

I lost everything I spent a decade of blood and pain building because I loved and trusted a woman. And *my story is a lot more common* than you think.

If you travel to North Korea and get arrested people ask “well if you’re dumb enough to go it’s your fault.” If a man gets married today it’s exactly the same thing. The risks outweigh the benefits and any man whose thinking clearly is done with any permanent relationships.

Thanks for letting me rant and my apologies the rambling

[giant]

Minding our business. Living alone and not bothering anyone. Taking care of ourselves because that is honestly all there is now for most of us.

[alexsanderrevemark]

She knows about the "nothing box".
I love it❤

[LeenBeenTheSecond]

I love the box.
I like thinking in the box.
The box is simple.
The box is pure.
The box is nothing, so there for it is infinite.
The walls are simple.
The walls are calm.
The box is stable.
The box is nice.

[blmdhs]

Here's one for you. My Ex complained that there wasn't enough money for bills despite having all these new items show up in the house. I then started putting in extra overtime. It got to the point that I was working 84-87 hours a week.
She then had the audacity to complain that "You love your job more than you love me."
I couldn't win.

[RonJustDiggingLife]

As a man, I approve this message!






Ohhh chit here come the boss gotta go....

[purgerdoom]

Those 30 minutes looking at my wall at 5 am it's what's keeping my brain together

[nimarus]

I remember money was hard to get for a while when I was a little kid. I was the youngest of three kids and Mom stayed home to take care of us (relatives would drop off their kids for Mom to babysit sometimes). I remember my dad worked so much that I never saw him. He left before I got up and came home after I went to bed. The only hint I got that he was around was he'd occasionally carry me to bed when I fell asleep on the couch. At one point, my brother and I noticed we hadn't seen him in weeks and we wondered if he died. It just so happened that he came home early that day due to rain (paving highways for DOH). We ran up to him and yelled "Dad! You're alive!" Fastforward many years later and I'm in my early 20s sitting in front of a burn pile with my dad. He asks me if I remembered that day and I said yes. He told me "You were too young to realize it back then...but that really hurt." He was working so much to provide for us, financially, that he wasn't there with us. The day after that happened, he went to his boss and got his hours changed. From that point on, he got a day or two off work to spend time with us.

We lost him to covid in 2020. I love you Dad.

[bradhiebert]

I'm head of maintenance at a beam factory. I go home to a peaceful, quiet house ever since my wife left. I make a coffee and go on the deck. I have birds, moose and deer often on my lawn. Life is good since she's gone.

[jackknight]

Love the support you have for men. Deeply appreciated.

[vincelorino]

we were told to "leave women ALONE!". got the memo.

[RobPento]

All the good men may seem to be "gone" because when they interact with people who are judgemental, they make a fast exit and don't associate with those people.

[CaptainLongbeardTuds]

I work. We have a 1 income family of 5. My wife calls me lazy despite me working 50 hours a week. Case in point.

[sageoldmann]

I got off the plantation 15 years ago. And I’ve learned spending my money and my time doing the things I want to do is way more fun than spending it on woman.