Polygyny: Absentee Husband (Pt. 2)

It may sound like a myth but in some cases of polygyny, the husband is absent. Meaning that initial wives or even subsequent wives are practically abandoned by him in polygyny and communication is dangerously low whenever he's at another wife's home.

There have been times that I've been asked; 'Coach Fatimah, I don't know where he is! What do I do?'

In this video, I share some helpful tips on how to communicate and the damage absentee husbands cause not only for wives but for children.

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We are Coach Nazir, Coach Fatimah, & Coach Nyla. We are considered Black Americans and we were all raised as Christians. We have a keen understanding of the many facets of American culture and the ongoing challenges present within it.

Each of us accepted Islam as young adults and are practicing Muslims who follow the final revelation, The Quran, and the example of the Last & Final Prophet and Messenger, Muhammad ibn Abdullah (sws).

Coach Nazir & Fatimah were married for 15 years and had 6 children when he chose to practice polygyny. He married Coach Nyla, and our polygynous journey began.

Since then, 4 more children have been born, 1 by Coach Fatimah and 3 with Coach Nyla who has added 2 bonus children (step-children) to the family making a total of 12 children.

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[sinceresimiles]

Whether one supports polygyny or not, it is commendable when 2 co-wives sincerely work on maintaining a healthy & cohesive family unit rather than focusing on petty jealousies.

[wandametcalf]

Everyone deals with trauma differently. Honestly, sometimes I have to remind myself to live in the present and not dwell too much on the past hurt. The laughter deflects away from the pain and allows me the space to heal and move forward. I choose to be happy. Period.

[taliahaamatulhaqq]

Absent Husband!!!
As Salaamu Alaikum Coach Fatimah
🤲🏽May Allah reward you with good for tackling a very difficult subject, “Narcissistic/Absent Husbands” Hopefully from all of the gems that you dropped REAL MEN will step up to the plate. Men can not continue to be flesh & body whipped by an initial or other wives. Man up brothers, realize that you have an accountability with Allah (who is watching your every move) whom you should fear, not knowing when you’re going to die and under what circumstance. “AT LEAST ACT LIKE YOU HAVE GOOD SENSE”

[MaryamShamsWayMaryamShams]

This is so very true regardless you are right my dear sister and thank you for all your sharing of your wisdom and sharing your experience how you're personal experience worked for your family is a wonderful encouragement to our community and more jazakallah Khair 👑🥰❤️💕💕💕

[glynisrobertson]

Yes, “run away” dads corrupts good intentions of men who stand up to be husbands and fathers as excellent support systems to their wife or wives. Life is already hard for many struggling families. I remember when I was in a polygyny family, I loved the children that were made through those relationships and I loved my co-wives but it was the husband that failed us, now those children are adults and I hope that they weren’t damaged through the negligence dealt by their father. The means to overcome the negligent father is to speak on the fact that some men do and have hidden behind practicing polygyny. The gem that I received from your word is to know that Allah doesn’t approve of neglect or abuse at the hands of absent fathers from the home. So, yes expose the predators who use Islam as a means to corrupt good intentions.