Polygyny Problem: Someone Else is Controlling My Marriage! (Pt. 1)

No matter if you agree or disagree, one thing is certain; the initial wives have power. Meaning that, regardless of all of the subsequent wives that come after her, the initial wife often has the final word or she's considered the 'favorite' in polygyny; and this needs to be called out.

[venuslila]

Am a first wife. I liked the video but I don't understand why the second wife needs first wife acknowledgment. Husband got married to her not the first wife, nor the children.

I think it depends a lot on how polygyny started, it might take time for first wife to be comfortable and fully cooperating in this new way of life.
But the incoming wife can still mind her marriage with her husband and her children. What is happening between first wife and her husband including their children shouldn't be incoming wife concern.

Thank you for your video! I really hope one day we will be as happy in polygyny as your family. Masha Allah!

[barakah]

Salam
Allahuakbar, there are countries where most of the times the incoming wifes are the ones who are in control and manipulating, desrtroying marriage. I am from Gambia 🇬🇲 But I dont blame them If the man can not sort out his family and put boundaries, who will do? I dont think that anybody going through this will ever allow her children 🤔 going with the manipulator, but they are not just manipulating they come with hate towards you (in a hypocrite way) and intending that initial wifey leaves the marriage, in some cases it happens the marriage breaks, but in others don't because in Gambia peoplentend to talk to the initial wife advice her to be patient have and die with SABR. And I would like to say that I believe firmly that when you don't have evil intentions Allah Subhana Wua Ta'Allah will show you the way, sooner or later no matter what type of human being comes on your way.
In this life what keeps us going forward is Allah, SubhanaAllah. May Allah Guide&Protect all of us 🙏
Coach Nyla if every one had good intentions like you polygamy will be easier 💯 (there are not many like you) You are one example to follow. You are a star 🌟
Coach Fatima is a 🌟.
Much love ❤️ Much Blessings 🙌
What I said real and seen.

[aisham]

I totally understand where you're coming from! Jazakallahu Khairan for speaking the truth about some aspects and challenges of polygyny 💚

[taliahaamatulhaqq]

P.S.A
As Salaamu Alaikum Coach Nyla,
Excellent topic and gems. Initial wives should really be careful. The table could turn for all of us. Illness and accidents are unpredictable in this life. We should want for our Muslim bro and sister what we want for ourselves, Ameen!!! “Remember Allah Ta’ala Is Watching!!! He Knows What Is In Our Heart And Mind!!!

[sinnari-]

PSA
Question please, as a man, how do i make orders in the sense that i do consult my wife/s to and not turn out to be like a boss and oppressor at the same time my wife/s don't look at me like why are you not acting like a man and asking us always. Note that i presumed that they will say why are you asking us always be a man, I'm too much influenced by western media so i need Muslims expert help. Do i consult always when i don't know what to do, do i consult even if i know what to do, what to do in both cases
And thank you very much in advance 😌
Also waiting patiently for part 2