How Narcissist Experiences His Collapse (Grandiosity Bubbles and Delusional Solutions)

Collapsed narcissist fails to secure narcissistic supply or even self-supply and they lose all their Pathological Narcissistic Spaces. Narcissists then switch from one type to another (type inconstancy: cerebral-somatic and overt-covert) as a means to secure supply. When type reversion fails, it leads to narcissistic mortification, grandiosity bubbles, decompensation, and Borderline-like personality.

These hysterical endeavours sometimes result in boom-bust cycles which involve, in the first stage, the formation of a Grandiosity Bubble, replete with self-supply. Long-term, this can lead to Binary Narcissism.

If even these don't restore supply, externally or internally, the narcissist opts for one of these solutions: The Delusional Narrative Solution, The Antisocial Solution, The Paranoid Schizoid Solution, The Paranoid Aggressive (Explosive) Solution, or The Masochistic Avoidant Solution.

[NarcFreeFinally]

Your programs should be made mandatory in high achools and colleges. Also, JUDGES should be well educated in these people so that the many families affected by them can get away from them and get peace and healing without repeated victimization and the loss of one whole side of their families with lies.

[Longhunter]

I started studying narcissism over 30 years ago. I recognized with my first intimate relationship, I was living what I had learned. Scoured the book shelves looking for answers as to what the Hell was I dealing with. Read M. Scott Pecks books. The People of the Lie being one. Being raised by two narcissists that bounced against the psychopathy border. What a trip it has been! 0-8 The Golden Child, 8-20’s the Lost Child, 20’s till 40 the Scapegoat. My reading and your reinforcing videos have me fully educated or as much as possible. I had a very fulfilling non drama laden marriage of 20 years. The marriage ended in my wife’s death in 2018 from cancer. Living a quiet fulfilling life of self care and self love now. Thank you Sam. I feel I can use your first name as a friend. Thank you Stephen.

[elainesmith]

Prof. Sam...You have just explained my deceased narc husband's end of life. Thank you for the insight. His explosion was hard to watch. Will no longer feel as though I failed. But thankful that I survived through my faith
Grace and strength were imparted to me by The Lord each day to maintain peace in my soul.

[martagarciacarrio]

Listening to this has made me sick! They are miserable personality disorders. It is a painful condition for themselves and for the people who get closer in their life.
Perfectly explained.

[vzcorner]

Doc..your subject should be introduced in schools. It's so important to understand why some people (narcissistics) function the way they do. It would save so much suffering. Only respect from India.

[lindapelle]

The narcissist I was dating for four years, kept my own place because I knew something not right…Called me out of the blue after 10 years when his aunt died. I had left him and stop taking calls. It took him 10 years to call and say he had been thinking about me and wanted to get together, used his aunt is an excuse because he knew I liked her. 10 years? Seriously? I thought wow he is really digging deep for a narcissistic supply. Sad

[oilselevated]

After 32 years of marriage, my husband’s fantasy (with some trash in another city that didn’t mind being a dirty little secret), and reality crashed. When his cancer spread and he needed me to take care of him for the last 4 months of his life. He tried to make amends but can you ever believe a pathological liar? So sad all the way around, if he were still alive, my torture would be ongoing

[lahomabickford]

As long as his mother is alive, he will
Have supply

[katherinel]

I listen to all of your videos and feel like I’m attending University of Dr. Sam Vaknin. I learn more from you than I did in my master’s degree in counseling regarding issues of personality. I experienced a relationship with a narcissist who presented as covert. Both at the end of and after I ended the relationship his behaviors were sociopathic and he broke the law multiple times to try and harm me - all the while telling me he was justified in doing so. I was bullied, yet felt sorry for him because of his childhood abuse. It was your video that said that someone behaving this way needed to be held accountable to the highest extent of the law and I wasn’t the one to help him. Hearing that helped me to fight for and finally be successful in getting a restraining order against him. I have spent the past few years, single, looking at my own contribution to the relationship so I could change, improve my boundaries and be a healthier person as I consider myself responsible for learning from this in order to do better. My question is - if someone can become APD in response to loss of narcissistic supply then weren’t they always APD? I’m in America but agree more with the ICD dx of personality issues having a lot of overlap between what we consider here to be specific cluster B diagnoses. Often when I listen to your videos I hear elements of the behavior I saw across multiple diagnoses. You are brilliant and I am grateful for all I have learned and continue to learn from you. Thank you Dr. Vaknin.

[margaretstewart]

You have described my own inner experience unfolding gradually, daily, even minute by minute. This concretization of processes matches my self observation of my own collapse and its process. I am grateful, at least, to been seen and understood through your analysis and description. I realize I am using this video as supply, just as you describe in my desperation to garner supply by becoming the center of my attention.

[junkjunk]

""in short, he is sam vaknin"", funny self deprecating humor ...
listen up kidds, this man is sharing deep wisdom

[Wanda]

Incredibly insightful. I only recently became aware of how much narcissism was present in my own family. This video described the last 4 years of life of my elderly aunt, who, unmarried and the last surviving member of her large family, experienced this drying up of supply and progressively disintegrated. She went the implosion route you describe - withdrawal, bitter disappointment over everything, paranoia (she couldn't make friends or socialize because she thought everyone would try to steal her stuff), constant talk of wishing to die, etc. Now I can see what was going on, but at the time I had no idea how to react. I kept trying to talk her into a better frame of mind; even if I'd known what was happening, I probably wouldn't have been able to do anything about it. Oddly enough, she left my sister and me a large amount of money in her will and had distributed a lot of money to other relatives a few years before. It's as if she gave up on living life while she had it in favour of a sort of posthumous existence - as if she'd be guaranteed our love and appreciation after she was dead. It's too bad; she had so many talents, but just let everything lapse in her old age.

[jeffvaljean]

Yeah authorities across the world should be teaching this subject in schools

[anabandana]

I cant believe this topic is the one unexplored by me through the years.
As the beloved narcisstic in my life of 11 years took his life a month ago, on the heels of this exact summary of this video. Thank you Sam, for showing me the truth about something so hard to witness.

[carylpark]

Sam there is not a single person on YT who can explain the mind of all these personality and mental disorders as well as you can. The 3 N in my life, derailed completely and it was very painful for me to witness the death of 2 of them who died from alcohol related complications and the 3rd is going down the same road. Its still very sad for me to see. But I truly thank you for putting me on the right track. I now live peacefully, happily, healthy and free of all CPTSD symptoms THANK YOU. 🙏

[vallip]

What you describe as the self destruction is what I've experienced with my brother...he is hell bent on self abuse..crying out for attention... I could not help in the end I was forced to give up. But I say this, to see a person abandon his mental and physical health is the hardest thing I've had to do...an d to be sure I'm still not sure how a person can get to this stage...so desperate... desolate...it's the saddest thing and possibly in my brother's case...the end game. Thank you Sam your knowledge is profound in its truth, and yes it helps.

[alastair]

The professor is the real deal , I wish I knew all this years ago, I can now put the jigsaw together and understand the dynamics the first step to healing.

[ubaccount]

What a beautiful masterpiece. I am a living example of what you described and analyzed.

[dawnday]

Thank you Sam, love interacting with feel like you are a friend, since we've been together the past 5 years, and by taking your advice, listening, and acting.... I am now free.

[LadiesOfThePleiades]

The schizoid malignant narcissist is by far the saddest creature that roams the earth. I am witness to the disintegration of such an individual. I’ve stopped praying for him which I think is a paralleled experience of such sadness. My heart breaks. He is such a beautiful person beyond this evil.