if you'd JUST let them go, you'd have them

In this video, we're going to talk about detachment, and how it can help you to separate yourself from your specific person in order to manifest a relationship with them.

Letting go and withdrawing/detaching yourself from someone you love, can be difficult to achieve, but once you understand how it works it can be a powerful tool for attracting the love you want. In this video, we're going to explore the concept of detachment and letting go of your specific person so we can understand why it's necessary in attracting love.

So if you're looking for ways to let go of who you want to be with, watch this video and learn about the power of detaching from people.

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chapters:
0:00 - intro
0:09 - my experience with this
2:31 - pedestalization
4:06 - they know you want them
7:14 - my example
8:33 - why they run from you
9:23 - notice their insecurities
11:08 - de-throne them
12:08 - when you withdraw
14:11 - a final possibility
15:05 - marem ladson
15:52 - outro

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•Favourite Divination Card Decks•

[torileslie]

“If you treat them like a celebrity, they will treat you like a fan” best thing I heard

[bella-rjch]

It’s like when you stop having a crush on someone who isn’t really that great, and suddenly the fog lifts and you see all their flaws that you can’t believe you missed before.

[jackiek]

Stop chasing and become the chased! Amen to this sister! xx

[fr]

i was reading the art of seduction last night and a particular line came up that cleared the fog in my head “you cannot seduce someone who is already satisfied” i understand now that you will not feel dependent or reliant on external sources of validation, love, acceptance, etc when you are already satisfied with it from yourself

[ningningshining]

this literally works 💀, just wanna share my story for a moment. The moment u stop giving a fuck and focus on urself and realize u attract the people who u think deserve to be in ur life, u change ur mindset, have high confidence THESE PEOPLE COME RUNNIN BRO WHAT

[phmgmhc]

This is so true. Have had a crush on someone for nearly 2 years and nothing. The last few days, started viewing myself as being the catch and bingo……he’s changed up his energy toward me 180 degrees 😊

[SOPHIA-whuq]

I was manifesting a specific person and I wasn’t sure if i should or not and this is the message I needed I’m learning how to love myself and pour more into myself

[lilymulligan]

The idea of someone stringing you along because they like being admired and adored by you is real. I dated someone for almost 5 years, but never really "had" him because I put him on a pedestal. He was never gonna give me the commitment I wanted, because I was so desperate for it, and I ACTED desperate. He kept me around solely because I built up his ego and constantly gave him compliments. He even told me as much.

I wasted half of my 20s on that man because my self esteem was so low that I believed that if I could just make him love me then I could finally love myself. Don't be like me. My life has improved dramatically since we broke up almost 2 years ago and I stopped trying to mold myself into his perfect woman.

[salmasaeed]

The moment I let go entirely, the moment I lost all my feelings toward him, started thinking he wasn’t all that, he’s liking my pics watching my stories and god knows what’s next! I hate it. I hate that when you want something it doesn’t happen and when you don’t want it it happens. Because now all I want is another guy’s attention and I’m not getting it

[thisismarlonanthony]

This was an absolute beautiful video. For months on end I was trying to get my ex back and I put them way high up on a pedestal. After time I slowly realized that for one there’s really nothing you can say or do to change someone’s thoughts and opinions about you especially if you have made mistakes in the past. I also came to a realization that I was pushing them away instead of pulling them in with my desperate energy. I’ll just say this. I never thought we would ever communicate again but we are currently in contact. The only difference is that I became tired of chasing and I told myself you know what I’m done. If they don’t see me for me or see that I’ve changed then that’s on them. I still care and love them and maybe we will or will not get back together but that’s not in the forefront of my mind anymore. Ever since I changed my energy and thoughts about this person they have been way more responsive and more wanting to chat. I don’t know where this will go but if I had to give any advice from my personal experience is to seriously focus on yourself and stop worrying about another person. If they are meant to be they will be. You said everything right in this video Maleeka! Much love xx

(I wanted to add this also.. I still have my moments and get extremely sad… so don’t feel like you have to just “not care” you can care a lot but understand that you need to create space and value yourself.)

[ArpitRBesra]

Master tip to depedestalizing them: Be okay with not having them in your life. Be okay when you think of never ending up with them. Secondly and more importantly, do not let them in on so easily. Make them earn it. It's like, I've got a secret about you and I'm going to toy with you for it. It's hilarious.

[hollywoodprincess]

after spending a couple weeks being desperate and anxious, i realised it led to nothing but misery. the reason why me and my specific person aren’t where i want to be is because i was deeply insecure. i had super low self esteem and ruined the loving relationship we had. that was the problem! and that’s what i’m doing now, taking care of myself and taking them off this imaginary “pedestal”. your video came at the right time reinforcing what i should keep doing. great sign from the universe. thank you for this video, i absolutely adore your channel! sending hugs and light :)

[Laura-sdlw]

I have put somebody on a pedestal for one year and he couldn't care less. Somehow I have really improved my life during the year after (more money, more friends, trips on my own, a strong project). I was still seeing him at the same time but not giving as much and being focused on how to see him for who it was. Deep down I know the only way to save this relationship was to let him go in my mind and let him chase me. Trust me, he is now acting so well and doing the things I have always dream off. The fact that month after month he has seen me change, being more confident and putting me at the same position as him has really changed everything. Now I have to be careful to not go back to who I was !!

[medman]

I think if we're here watching this, it may best to move on. Focus on yourself and chalk up your last relationship as experience. Do your best not to make the same mistake twice.

[ajaybritton]

This was a breakthrough moment for me. I put the people i like on a mountain of a pedestal. I think irrationally high of them. Thank you for the clarity and self awareness.

[TalcomoelSol]

"If you're currently trying to manifest a specific person, you may have put them on a pedestal, because we only attempt to manifest things that we consider to be ideal."

Real Rap 🤚😎

[lorelai]

this made me realize i deserve someone that loves me as unconditionally as i love him. i love him but i deserve better, right now he isnt "better" and i deserve someone that would manifest me everyday for a year the same way i was doing. i think i just finally detached. thank you. i love you. i owe you my life.

[pilyangmaarte]

Been talking to this guy since January and been manifesting him for months too. I felt my SP is breadcrumbing me and put him on pedestal (based on what you said). I told him today we should stop talking.

I still like him tho but I don't want to be in a "situationship." I deserve a committed relationship so I'm letting go. I don't want to chase. If we're meant to be together it will happen. I hope I did the right thing.

[rockchalkmarie]

Good timing. I’ve really let go of my desire and attachment to them recently. I feel so much better without them on my mind. It’s like they were holding me back. So many more important things to focus on.

[BriannaGlenn]

While it is important that we never prioritize anyone and have a God like concept of them in our minds we also do not want to mistake talking to an emotionally unavailable person with being extremely open and available. One thing I’ve learned is you are never going to be too needy to those that truly love you and I have had my fair share of emotionally unavailable individuals and I can tell you now if you have to pull away your energy for someone to acknowledge you it’s not even worth your time.