If You Love Someone Let Them Go... Does It Work

If You Love Someone Let Them Go... Does It Work

Today we are going to discuss if letting an ex go is a viable strategy to getting them back

If you love something let it go
if it returns, it’s yours
If it doesn’t, it never was
If you love someone, set them free
If they come back, they’re yours
If they don’t, they never were,

This quote has been a basis of romantic comedies and philosophies for years, but today were going to look at real life data if that method actually works.

So the question, does letting an ex go, to get them back;
It does to a point

In 2015, I created something called the ex-boyfriend recovery podcast where I would take a question about getting an ex back and answering it. I wanted to see how successful the podcast would be. But one thing that struct me is how open people were about their intimate stations. It taught me about what is working right now.

A woman had been a long-time reader of my website and she had been trying to get her ex back for almost a year, she moved on and started a new business started dating casually. Trying to move on from the first break up had caused. She called in and asked a question. When she moved on and started living life, he started coming back. He wants to be with her all of a sudden, why is this?

What’s interesting about this, it’s a pattern I noticed on a longer-term basis. If you notice when you are trying to get your ex back doing all the things right the odds were not in your favour but when you started to show signs of moving on, their ex would start to show signs of wanting to come back.

This is where I called it a term, moving on without moving on. Moving on alone is not enough to make an ex want to come back to you. I have identified four things that have to happen if you want to get your ex to want to come back to you

#1 – Sometimes your ex will need a little bit of a push
I’m a big believe in causation or cause and effect. I don’t believe that letting your ex go and moving on is enough to make them want to come back and one of those things is that you need to give your ex a bit of a push. For some it can be just seeing you be successful. Sometimes you need something to change to make your ex notice you

#2 – Change must occur
These two are interconnect, for your ex to want to come back to you, something has to change. As Albert Einstein staid, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result each time”. if you don’t change a variable in the equation then your ex is going to look at you as the same person. They have these preconceived notions of who you are. They will view you in a new way if you make the changes.

#3 – Don’t base your whole life around your ex
So in the end this really comes down to priorities, there is something very wrong about you making your ex priority number one, I tell my clients you have to be willing to lose the guy to get the guy. Love is just a small section of your whole entire life. And that is where the Holy Trinity comes in. You have your health, wealth and relationships where you have to make sure you are focusing on all areas of your life. Instead of one focus on your ex and throw all other things to the side.

#4 – Looking for an ex to make you feel good? Not the way to go
So they did studies on children where they said if you were to over praise or under praise a child it can be harmful. So what do I mean by over praising. There is a realistic type of praise. A lot of clients see their relationship as a way to cure all your problems in life. Which is where a problem is created. Where your happiness relies on other people. Make yourself happy first. Before entering a relationship.

[ksburner]

If you let someone go with the hope that they will come back, you haven't let them go.

[petarpericki]

Quote works in any case. Quote doesn`t say that if you let your ex go they WILL come back. Quote says that if they come back they are yours and if they dont come back they never werent yours.

[pscjr]

I let her go and she said that she found someone who understands her heart and soul and that her chapter with me is closed for good lmao

[kamacazi]

If I let you go and you come back is don’t want you. It means I was a back up plan cause your actual choice fell apart🤷🏽‍♀️.

[-cb]

Letting them go means increasing your immune system.

[helenstokes]

You shouldn't love someone because they get a new buisness, . Being in love with them because who they are, not what they have, .

[rebeccajohnson]

Space and Time is an easy way out to decide on coming back and break up.

[mariacharteris]

Its like "its better to love and lost than to never love at all"

[erikalopez]

Make yourself happy first... That was so on point. Thank you ❤️

[nancywilson]

God will send the right man my way if, I wait patiently on him for however long it takes!😇😇😁☺️😎😎☺️☺️

[DaRyteJuan]

Why are people so concerned with getting *their Ex* back? People act like *"their Ex"* is their *property.* But BEFORE they were "your" Ex, they were *their own free person.* You didn't create them. The *Universe* did. The *Universe* granted you both some time together. This person existed *BEFORE* you met them. And this person continued to exist *AFTER* you met them. But when this person becomes "your Ex, " you tend to still think of them being your property *"that you're trying to get back."* Give up on that idea. The Universe has plenty of other stuff out there for you to experience. Maybe that's all there was to this relationship and it's time to grow and get to the next level. Don't be so attached to the past.

[bintissa]

Why is always like this ? When you've moved on, they come back.. why? Is it some kind of energy or..

[christinalewis]

Disconnect your energy from him everytime I would think about my ex he would text me when I was dating someone new they were almost texting me at the same time even I stopped seeing the new person my ex would bring him up then the guy would text me it was the most weirdest thing ever

[Mari-lvrd]

No it does not, especially if you change your number and location.

[SuperQdaddy]

It works cause shes already with another guy....I let them all go

[yacovmitchenko]

An ex coming back to someone who has become successful: a delicate issue. That's a dubious scenario because the return is largely based on the other's perceived success. That might mean that were the other to become less successful in the future, the returner may lose interest yet again. No, I wouldn't recommend that reunion because it looks opportunistic; at the very least it's on shaky grounds. A truly nourishing relationship must have stronger foundations than material success. There may be others factors involved besides the person's new-found material success (which has attracted the other's attention), but the return seems suspicious; the primary incentive for it still appears to be that person's success.

[seenafasihudeen]

Hi Chris, I have been prioritizing my love relationship more and more than once my love has put me on hold and then when I try to get hold of myself and move on he comes back again but now I'm getting tired of breaking myself into pieces all the time and then going back to that relationship this time I have decided not to do that mistake again cuz this will be the last chance I'm gonna give him as I don't wanna go through pain again

[kazzahotpink]

Thankyou, needed to hear this about now!

[foodieexplorer]

what if it was only one sided and now since he has blocked me i am unable to cope up what to do in such situation

[sfanjk]

Great video
Just what I needed to hear today.