What happens WHEN YOU GO BACK to a narcissist?

What happens to you IF YOU GO BACK to a narcissist that you left before? IT TYPICALLY GETS WORSE! When you go back to a narcissist they start to treat you badly and feel vindicated in everything that you have done to them. You might also feel bad about yourself and start to go into shame and depression.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[lindabaker]

I went back many times. They will never change. Now I am almost 11 months no contact.

[hindwidad]

There two choice when being with a narcissist. You either stay and put up with abuse, or you leave. No in between, they don’t change

[chelini]

It gets worse. The best thing you can do for yourself if you do end up going back is being radically accepting of this person, understanding their behavior will most likely never change.

[AmericanMaeve]

Thank you for this reminder. Four months of being 100% no contact today, and I miss that abusive jerk very badly sometimes. The trauma bond is REAL.

[MeaolaOrg]

The “honeymoon” period gets shorter every time we go back. THEY CANT grow or change. Took me 6 times to finally get it.
The pain was real and debilitating so much. It caused me to face many childhood wounds and heal though. Today I am thankful for the experience because of the healing I was able to get.
We can get out, heal and never look back.
Don’t get into another relationship until you have done some deep work on yourself or the same cycle will start with someone else. ❤

[tiheshakp]

I can attest to this...IT ONLY GETS WORSE! THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE! It took my dumb a** 13 years and countless times of breaking up/getting back together to realize this. I know it hurts, but I promise you, it'll get better. Find a new hobby, take a trip, go to counseling, pray, but DON'T GO BACK! Take it one day at a time and watch Lee's videos. They're getting me through right now.

[FSheppard]

Been told by friends that they can’t be there the next time if I go back to him.

[vickymoore]

If you go back you are winding the clock backwards . You don’t spring forward you fall back . And more pain is sure to follow ! 😢

[agibby]

He actually said to me… “I can’t believe you are even talking to me after everything I’ve done to you.” … he always said I was the first to leave… I put up with so much just to prove that I never would leave him ever and to prove how much I love him.

I went back time and time again. Praying for full recovery.

[aprilvaughn]

You know what happened to me my body will not feel good when I was around him too long. I must say once you get out of a relationship with a narcissist just stay away.

[jamiewatchorn]

I gave my narcissistic ex a second chance after how he treated me. It was the worst mistake of my life. He behaved like it was my fault things ended and then cheated on me and said it’s none of my business until it happens. Because I caught him and called him out he told me I was a sociopath, stalker, narcissist and control freak. I explained calmly when his ex he met last year after we split did it to him how angry he was and said she did things the wrong way, and he said I was gaslighting him. I’m so done with it. It was never right since we got back together as I just couldn’t trust him to stick around. Still now he says it’s my fault he cheated. It’s ridiculous

[tashie]

This video came in perfect timing……confirmation not to go back!!! 8 months clean 🙌🙌

[jackiecolbert]

Lee you are so crazy. Everything you said was true. I felt like a drug addict because I couldn't stop thinking about him. Thank God 2yrs divorced and I dont want him back. He left me and its good. I still have sad days but I never want to feel like that again.

[Mary-tpp]

The ‘love’ of a narc is poor quality ‘love’. That is why it’s important to have a male friend who is healthy so you reexperience what’s normal interaction between a male and female in a friendship setting. It resets your balance when the chaotic messy narc behavior puts you off center.

[neversaken]

God blessed me & gave me the courage to walk away after 31 yrs, I will NEVER disrespect God and go back. I was so mentally messed up, when I left I had no one but God to depend on. I had cut ties every EVERYONE even my family. For many years I was confused, disoriented, bitter, miserable, depleted, was a horrible parent & grandparent. I literally cut ties with everyone but my children and when I left the relationship, I had NO ONE. I moved away to a new city all by myself. But God, Thank you Jesus, I’m healing & I feel so much better.

[ahoufebabs]

Thank you for doing this video. A reminder of why NEVER to go back to a narc.

[LisaFrench-mm]

Watching you through the trauma bond…SAVED ME…when he came to mind…I watched your videos…9 weeks NO CONTACT and I’m functioning well…NEVER GOING BACK!!! THANK YOU!!!!

[nikkyluv]

I was told by the ex that he doesn’t deserve me… years of pain later I’ve learned when someone says that to you… believe them

[IsabellaPiesch]

You can´t change that person. And I personally totally accept that. You know I really tried many years and it got worse and worse. I got to know a totally different person at the beginning (I thought that it is a decent and honest human-being really I thought that)... But I know now otherwise. For me it is a hard pill to swallow that I betrayed myself such a long time (but I just didn´t want to see what is happening). But my eyes are open now and I really learned a lot. But I know this person will never change. One has to want to change but this person will stay the same and the whole universe will be at fault but never him. I don´t go back because I build up my life from scratch and I am totally independent and fine now.

[brendaplunkett]

You may feel you have to try it again but nothing gets better. Stop even trying to figure them out. They are emotionally ruined and they were before YOU showed up. You can't save them. Let them go...and YOU GO save yourself. The Calvery ain't coming.