Overthinking: How Improving The QUALITY Of Our Thoughts Can Fix QUANTITY Errors

[andrew.gardiner]

Thank you, Heidi. You did NOT miss your calling. God bless you for leaning into your gift, and for showing up so kindly, so vulnerably, and so authentically. TBH - every single video that you have carefully & thoughtfully created contain multiple insights, lessons and teachings that are each so incredibly valuable, relevant, and HELPFUL. I’m 62 years old, Heidi, and TBH - you have taught me more in a year, than the lifetime of all the formal education, ‘therapy’ and coaching that I’ve received. Please keep up the good work. You are making a profound impact on me, and surely countless others. XOXO Andrew

[joshliam]

Anyone else need to listen to a Heidi video twice before it sinks in? There's just so much to take in, in the best way, because every video is a masterclass. Thank you Heidi.

[lynnperry-smith]

I have been stuck in ruminating thoughts for the better part of two weeks. I finally asked myself what would help me to shift out of this dysfunctional endless cycle. Almost immediately this video came up on my feed. I learned invaluable information from watching this video. Things I wished I would have known sooner in my life. Thank you for these teachings. I realize I knew the answer all along and the things I thought were bothering me we're not the real problem. I already feel some relief in my body. Infinite blessings and gratitude!

[havenmotel]

Being autistic I often find it difficult to articulate my thoughts in conversation. I’ve been told that I overthink or say too much to make a single point.

This might be because I struggle to determine what’s relevant (as you say). When it comes to being autistic, I have to be consciously aware of the context (vs it being unconscious or automatic), making it very difficult to know what’s pertinent in a particular conversation. It doesn’t help that people often imply meanings rather than stating them directly.

Anyway you’ve given me something to reflect on and another way to explain my propensity to overthink. Thanks!

[tiberiusruiz]

I landed on your videos by accident 1 year ago after a break up, I wanted to desperately heal and I was so confused about my thoughts and did not understand how I would feel so broken, I hated myself for my inability to process emotions and falling into substance abuse often to regulate…1 year forward I will have to say that there was a pivotal moment where your knowledge and voice provided the regulation I needed, iv learned so much and I’m forever thankful that your videos and your willingness to genuinely help are here, my life could probably have tipped in the wrong path if I had not stumbled into you, my therapist has helped me stay afloat but you have helped me understand how I can love myself best and be less critical, I’m sure I’m not the one that has been impacted like this, you have a natural gift and I hope god or the universe or whatever you believe in, gives you all the success in the world, cause you deserve it, Thank you from the bottom of my heart Heidi you’re the best friend/mom/spiritual guide everyone needs

[cloudsurvivalnote]

Bro I was literally overthinking and thought to find a video on it to calm myself down and the first thing I see on my YT page is this😂 I love you Heidi!

[TamaraTkacova]

Your videos have sigle-handedly changed the trajectory of my life for the better, you are such a treasure. Thank you for doing what you do ♡

[prashanthireddy]

hello heidi preiebe, you are the reason i am alive 😢❤ thankyou …, FA here 😢 still making mistakes

[bobbyc]

My favorite thing about Heidi's videos is that I feel like I'm developing with her. I started out watching the videos from 3 years ago, as I was able to identify so many of my issues through them. And now I'm here. Listening to Heidi deconstruct thought itself, and taking down the dichotomy between logic and emotion. I'm so here for it. Thank you Heidi for sharing these videos with us.

[Datb]

Genuinely calmed me down from my overthinking lol

[adribbs]

As someone who over thinks, it's always two things that get me: Not knowing how people would react and how would I be viewed. Instead of checking internally as to why I feel this way, I would be more worried about others' feelings. Not to say being concerned for others is inherently bad, quite the opposite in some cases. However I never took proper care of myself emotionally and just chalked it up to, "If everyone else is okay, then I'm okay." I truly realize that's not the healthiest way to handle situations. Your videos and some self reflecting has helped me become more emotionally in sync than I've ever been. I'll always be a work in progress, but I'm more comfortable expressing myself and understanding the why I feel what I do. Thank you Heidi.

[My.Own.Flashlight]

This week I said to myself I will step out of the house everyday - even though I had no reason to do so - just because I said I would do it. Just for one week.

On the first day, it was just 10 minutes but it made me smile inside upon returning home.

Today is the third day (I said I would venture out to the shops nearby with a camera) and I almost succumbed to my brains saying, “It’s been such a lovely morning, why not continue staying inside. No one will know”…

…then an image of Heidi’s face popped up, “Do it even though you don’t feel like it” 😂 So I’ve kept the promise to myself so far 🎉

Heidi, I hope you remember how you’re helping so many people (waving hi from Malaysia).

I wish you well, peace and lots of love back too. And your inner child too.

We all love you loads 🎉❤

[Alex-jslg]

I suppose where I get stuck is that I understand the problems of a traumatic/stressful situation I'm trying to cope with, but I get so dysregulated just from thinking about it. I can put distance between myself and the situation, but I can't leave it entirely, and the more space I take, the more guilt I feel about not helping as much as I should/could. I'm trying to basically rebuild my life at the same time, and while I have some of the necessary skills to assist with the situation, my complicated history with one of the involved people leads to me dissociating. I'm already overwhelmed/burnt out just trying to deal with my own issues, so I think radical acceptance is necessary, but trying that approach leads me to a lot of unhealthy coping mechanisms to cope with the emotions that result.

I can relate to your trail mix story! That's how I feel any time I have to buy something for someone else: what's the _perfect_ gift, meal, destination, etc. I think that's me trying to solve an emotional problem (anxiety) logically (by weighing options).

[lokihiggs]

babe, wake up, new heidi video dropped!

[Judymontel]

Whooo, boy! Grice's maxims set off so many alarm bells... when you are dealing with executive function issues, it can be challenging to sort it all out!! So much to chew on - thank you!

[SusanaXpeaceu]

This is helpful. I feel SO hurt when friends all have better friends. But they don't OWE me anything. It's just so painful though. It hurts more than it should because my mother gives me the silent treatment for not seeing things through her lens.

[sentencemaker]

This video illustrates a terrific application of methodologies from the fields of pragmatics and DA to the field of clinical psychology. Heidi, you rock.

[ericniles]

You really struck a chord with me when you brought up emotional regulation in relation to the need to express ourselves in a relevant manner. I feel I’m often at a loss of how to exactly express myself. With a little self compassion and an eye toward honest motives, I think I could sort out some of the issues in my life that are emotional, but perhaps unfocused. What a great lesson!

[vazzaroth]

[INTP] I used to think I overthought. After years and years, and ADHD dx and a bunch of both therapy and psychedelics I've come to realize it's overly agile, IE overly ACTIVE thinking, not necessarily OVER thinking. I can't stay on a single track to save my life unless I'm doing what I'm doing right now which is actually physically write it out into tangible reality in one line. I'll decide "I will do X" and by the time I've even moved my foot 1 inch to go do X, I've already had not one, not two, but three other thoughts. So of course I feel like I'm confused all the time, I'm branching out my thoughts in all directions at once, all the time.

There is no particular point to all of this besides that it's my solution for a novelty seeking brain that is chronically under stimulated and is an adaptive mechanism, I theorize, for a world that told me 'sit still and stop overreacting' all the time since I was never DX'd or given any professional help during my rural upbringing. I do somewhat fear it's kinda just engrained forever now, but also know that even if that's not true my REAL issue that I LIKE being this way WAY WAY too much to authentically want to change.

[Alex-jslg]

On the topic of existentialism, I think belief systems are an answer to the larger questions are unanswerable. Being aspiritual and areligious, I think I spent a year or two obsessing over the origins of the universe, the mechanisms that create our reality, the nature of consciousness, how time works, what happens after death, and whether free will is real or perceived until I finally arrived at my own structure of beliefs. I still go through phases of consuming as much information as I can on some of those topics, but I find comfort in the notion that death will likely feel the same as the 14B years that happened before my birth. And you know what? I suffered less during those billions of years than I have in the last few decades.