What did your parents say about you that made you sad? 🤔😢

[BMac-qbxo]

this story could be a fake, but in reality this happens all the time.

[Sahasra-ux]

Similar situation. My family always has this tradition where a family should always have one girl and one boy. My entire family loved the birth of my older sister, but they refused to believe that I was their second grand daughter. They cried, sodded and hated my birth because I was a girl. They wanted my parents to switch me with a cousin who was one month older than me just so they could have a male grandson. My parents refused and that resulted in distance from both families. All of my family members refused to take me as a girl and always told me that I should act like a boy and I only look good in t-shirt and jeans, not skirts .Years later all my aunts and uncles gave birth to girls and boys and I was left alone. The most heart breaking part of this is that my own mother had to tell me this just to give me motivation to get my grades up so I could make my grandparents regret trying to have a grandson that was barely related to them over me.

[weltschmertzz]

My family preferred boys. Growing up, i did not have new clothes, just hand me down from my brothers. If my siblings and I fought, my parents would always side with my brothers no matter what. This is reality for far too many families. It may not be said and sometimes verbally denied. But the reality is that boys are preferred.

[jazzerzzz]

Yep, about 5 years old my mom couldn't hide her hatred for my being female. Im 32 now, she never got over it, she had a son first, just didn't want a girl. My dad was my best friend, he passed when i was 28. He made up for a lot of it. She accused me most of my teen/adult life of sleeping with my father, she would do anything to ruin that father/daughter relationship, thankfully its the only part of my life i refused to let her take or ruin.

[firebirdfang]

For me it's what my mother didn't say.

We had a fight about my boyfriend one day and I asked her twice if she cared about my happiness. I got silence for a few seconds then she went back into her rant about how he wasn't good for me and how I needed to find someone rich. I had enough and left a few months after that. Looking back I'm so glad I didn't leave him. I'm now happily married with a child. And she's no longer in my life. But that conversation still hurts to this day. That silence felt like an eternity.

[pataoyang]

I was a teenager...maybe 14-15? My dad had demanded I go do the dishes and I guess I didn't get up fast enough for his liking to go do it. His response to me not getting up and doing them the very second he demanded it of me was, "had I known how useless you were going to be, I would've had your mom abort you while you were still in her stomach." I've never been able to connect the same with him again, and it's been over 20 years.

[Phoenix-mheo]

My parents had my sister and I (also female) at 23 and 21 years old. Many years later, they got oopsy pregnant again at 44 and found out it was a boy. Everyone was like "aren't you guys SO HAPPY you finally get a boy?!" my mom was pissed off by the implication and had secretly been wanting another girl because it was what she knew. My dad was super ambivalent about gender and was only concerned with having a healthy baby given their ages. I appreciated both of their responses, and that they clearly hadn't been disappointed by never getting to have a boy (until that point, obv, but another pregnancy was REALLY not the plan).

[sgfrmindia]

I was 8 years old when I heard my mother mention to a relative that she wished I was born a boy instead of my brother as I had a ugly face . That day onwards I never felt bad if anyone called me ugly, cause I had accepted even the woman who borne me seen me as ugly. I never asked anyone if they thought me pretty.

[angeliasalah]

I was born in the 80's. I was supposed to be a boy, according to the ultrasound. My father treated me like a boy and bonded with me until I was around 9 and hir puberty and got boobs. Once you could tell that I was girl, he wasn't interested anymore. But, he did teach me how to change my oil, a tire, and put all the fluids in a car and read a map.

[Dumpstr.Dver]

Yall know you can remember from younger than 3, right? Usually recalling an event. Search up “What’s the youngest you can remember from” and you’ll see. 😭

[ishratjahan]

This happens to many many girls though we want to believe it's a lie
There is still sexism alive in our society some severe some mild

[trinadubya]

My father already had a son, but he was dismayed when his second child wasn't a boy, too. We've been disappointing each other from day one.

[vvitch-mist]

Girls are wonderful and that mother should be ashamed of herself.

[Lithachrismas]

I had something like that growing up, except my stepmother actively abused me because I was not born a boy. She always kept my hair cut short, yanked and pulled on it saying how much easier her life would be if I was a boy. When her nephew (my cousin) came over for Easter one year, she showered him in gifts and praise and even tried to give my bed and room to him (in the house, their was only my bedroom and the master bedroom, so she wanted to have my sleep on a blowup mattress so that her “precious boy” will sleep comfortably. My father stepped in immediately, thankfully, but I learned as a kid that the only way to be treated decently in this world was to be born male. I even considered transitioning into a man in junior high. The only reason I didn’t was because my father assured me that life was just as hard for men as it is women and I found I preferred my feminine nature.

I was born a lady, and will always be a lady, but I still wonder what would have happened if I went through with the transition and became a man, not because I felt more myself as a man but because I was raised and taught that men were superior and are treated as such. Thankfully, she has been out of my life for about 7ish years now? As I embrace my femininity over the years, I still find my struggles, especially since I work in a male-dominated shop, but I am learning that there are benefits to my nature.

The point is, to any other little girl who is taught to be ashamed of her femininity regardless of her true self, you are beautiful and perfect just as you are. If you feel you are transmasc, know that you are loved and supported by so many on here, but only transition if you feel it is your truest nature. Not because someone has made you feel shame about how you were born. You are who you choose to be.

Love, light and peace to you, reader 💜

[starbruner]

It is my number 1 goal in life to make sure my daughter NEVER EVER questions if she is loved and wanted I want that to be as much of a fact to her as the sky is blue

[nonamemf]

"Poor girl violently murderered her parents.. What could have possibly made her do this?"

[LouiseChib]

My parents never wanted to find out my gender but hoped for a boy. They already have my older sister so when I was born, a girl, my dad was apparently unhappy with the news. I can’t remember what my mum said but I think he walked out of the room or something like that. I was also supposed to be named Louis, after my grandad, but since I was a girl they changed it to Louise. I always knew that my sister was the favourite child and grandchild since she was also the first and oldest of the cousins. It’s sad…

[randomfandoms]

My mom actually has made multiple comments multiple times about not wanting me to be fat and making comments about the food i eat. Im a picky eater who only eats junk food, but have a higher metabolism i guess and am in marching band so im skinnier than my parents and most of my siblings. It annoys me every time they mention it

[holden_mokok]

I remember my parents talking about them hoping that I was a boy and was apparently sad when I turned out to be a girl, I heard this when I was just a youngling, aroung 8-10 years old. That wasn't the first time they've hurt my feelings but it definitely changed the way I looked at them. But years later, I'm now 17 when I found out what they meant on hoping I was a boy. When my mom was carrying me, her bump was different than when she was carrying my two older sisters, and apparently even the doctor thought that I was a boy because of her bump, and when I came out, it shook everybody in the family. It wasn't as bad as anyone else went through but it just sucks how many people treat their children like that.

[redhood]

I remember hearing that my Dad call me the 'least disappointing disappointment'. Maybe it was supposted to be meant as a compliment, I never got up to any trouble unlike all of my siblings, but that really just stung. Even if I was better than the others to him, I was still disappointing.