The Best Dating Advice You've NEVER Heard! w/ John Henry Spann

John Henry Spann and Matt Fradd give advice for how young men can lead their girlfriends in a way that is appropriate outside of marriage. Then John Henry gives some advice for young women on what to look for in a man.

[MC-zewj]

My husband and I weren't religious when we met but amazingly he had only 1 other partner and I had none BUT we didn't wait for marriage and we lived together for ~4 years before we married. Now that we converted to orthodoxy as adults I am actually a mix of grateful, and thank God it wasn't worse, but also sorry we didn't do better and we didn't get to experience as meaningful a wedding night together or a church wedding. For those of you young ones who have the potential in front of you please understand what a blessing that is to have the opportunity, the knowledge, and support of your church/ family! As hard as I am sure the path is, its a blessing!

[nein.]

well now there is only the problem that there are almost no devout catholic girls where i live.. i am german, and in germany catholics make up 24% of the population with only 6% mass attendance rate. and if you know the german catholic church, you will know that most catholics and even a lot of priests see no problem in s*x before marriage. i've seen/met only a handful of catholic girls that look my age in my city and i have yet to find one who is not in a relationship. please pray for the catholic church in Germany!

[dianenoll]

Awesome advice!! I love it! I have 6 grandsons and 2 granddaughters. I'm sharing this with all of them...thank you very much❤

[Zeero]

That's a clever turn of phrase. One shouldn't be merely willing to wait as if you would certainly give in if she just enabled you to do so. Of course, by being "not willing to wait", that isn't meant as a definitive surrender into sin, but rather, it is a recognition that it isn't your will to wait, but God's, and that is worth pursuing.

[kelsi]

He had us in the first half not gonna lie lol

[johndenver]

I needed to hear this. Thank you Mr. Spann!

[gunsgalore]

1:52 This is a huge distinction and very important. As a guy, if there was a woman who wanted sex before marriage, I would leave her. It wouldn't even be a question for me. It's an absolute deal killer. Even if she's "okay" with waiting until marriage; the idea that she'd want to do that just shows how different our priorities are. You have to marry someone with a similar set of priorities you do, and God NEEDS to be at the top.

[lIII]

Remember some girls don't want to wait also, and don't respect us guys who's only option is to wait.

[justxigoldenix]

Not gonna lie chief, this didn't make a load of sense to me. After trying my best to understand this, the best I came up with is "dont date a guy who relies on you to be chaste and to say no to him if and when he tries to advance on you before marriage, date a guy who will place the onus of chastity upon himself." I think I got it, probably, but man was the original statement waaaay too dank.

[MK--Ultra]

2:36 Frankly, if a man is struggling with porn and isn't past it, he is not ready to be dating

[censoredanon]

I converted to Catholicism and now I'm dating again, but I do not want to have sex before marriage. Big problem has been getting connected, or feeling connected. Used to get so much out of physical (non-sexual) affection. Oh well! Better to be holy.

[isawaninterestingthing...]

Where's the Thomas Aquinas profile picture??😢

[joshuacapstick]

This is great now I just need to meet someone 😕

[epxoodo]

Do you have any videos on catholic courtship 101?

[Pearl-cckz]

This is really fine advice for kids in their 20's, but for those of us who are single much longer, things are different.

A man who can respect that I want to wait until marriage is *almost* the most I can expect at my age and time in life (over 40). And frankly, those aren't usually the Catholic guys, who are often the first ones to say they will not wait.

You all have no idea how bad the dating scene is.

[famvids]

He seemed to invoke pride at the end... pride of being 'a man', and I think that's just as horrible. Pride cometh before the fall. Women should find a man who might have human desires but is humbling themselves and surrendering their lives to God as St. Joseph did.

[braveHoratius]

What are your thoughts on the enagagement ring, signifying ownership of the female by the male? Did not exist during the time of Christ. St. Joseph did not present marry with a ring. I think the practice is anti-Catholic.