'I Wish I Knew This LOVE Lesson Sooner!' - The ONLY Dating Advice You'll Ever Need | DeVon Franklin

I am so excited to have Devon Franklin joining us again for another powerful conversation. Whether you are dating, divorced or happily single, we’re diving into the love lessons you need to build a long-lasting relationship. And let me tell you, it’s more about you than the partner you choose to date.

Devon is a preacher, success coach, and award winning film and tv producer who’s back on the dating scene after a recent divorce. This conversation is about empowering you to prioritize yourself in order to create the healthy loving relationships you deserve.

*****Bonus Lesson in Love with Julie Piatt*****

And because so much of what Devon and I speak about in this episode is about self-reflection, self-worth, and knowing what you value, I’m including an incredible episode I recorded a while back with the spiritual wellness warrior herself, Julie Piatt. Her story of divorce, love, pain, and lessons, and cherished memories is a powerful reframe to heartbreak and lessons learned.

Chapter Markers:
[00:00] Evaluate Before You Date
[12:57] Be One of One & Worthy
[17:47] Love Hungry Manipulation
[24:12] Open to Abundant Love
[32:41] Acknowledge Reality Not Delusions
[45:36] Who You Attract Is Revealing
[48:36] Conflict, Problems & Truth
[53:59] Use Words Carefully
[59:48] Why Men Cheat
[1:11:00] Make Him Feel Appreciated
[1:32:32] Find the Right Partner with Julie Piatt

Devon Franklin Quotes:

“A lot of times, we have this belief that love is enough, and I don’t believe that it is, [...] love is not enough to overcome differences in core beliefs.”

“Pain brings a lot of clarity if we choose to accept it.”

“You’re one of one, this is about you. This is about who you are, what type of life you want and the love that you want to have in yourself first.”

“If I can be content all by myself, within myself, it really doesn’t even matter if I’m in a relationship.”

“If I do not believe the best about myself, I won’t choose the best for myself.”

“Live in the belief that the best is available to you, all you have to do is wait for it.”

“People mistake commitment for control.”

“I have to make the decisions that are going to set me up for the life that I want and part of that decision making process is resisting the temptation to point the finger.”

“It’s all about accurate thinking. The more inaccurate our thinking, the more inaccurate our life.”

“If someone or something leaves because of my truth, I’ve actually gained, not loss.”

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[LisaBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[dimarisortiz]

“The man who is healthy, is looking to serve. The man who is toxic is looking to be served.”
This! This hit my soul so hard. Dealing with a man who only wanted to be served, it was the most draining experience. I just thank God for bringing me out.

[b.w]

Don't compromise in your core beliefs. He was spot on with that statement.

[donnajojean]

Faith based people MUST have a partner who has the same values. Agreed.❤❤❤

[ChosenDulce]

Wait… wait! 🗣️ “A man who is healthy is looking to be of service. A man who is toxic is looking to be served.” 😮‍💨🎯💯🙌🏽💎💎💎 That part alone! 🔥

[largmargeuryferg]

"love is not enough to overcome differences and CORE beliefs" yes!!! Amen! Recognize! Truth! Fundamentals❤

[fabianafran]

"Instead of looking for love, be ready to receive it". I´ve always believed in this! We live in a world of vibration and attraction. 👏

[elenarotestan]

This entire interview goes to show how important clear and active communication is in relationships. Do not expect your partner to guess your wants and needs.

[asteriamoon]

Always listen to your gut. Don't allow anyone to cross your boundaries and if they do, I hope you have the strength to walk away. Get to know yourself, spend time alone, heal, work on yourself and then everything else falls into place. We are always growing and learning.

[coreenacorbett]

To hear a man openly say he’s working on himself and not passing blame on any past mistakes but learning and evolving through the pain and using the wisdom gained from the pain to evolve into his truer nature and character is incredibly inspiring, amazing interview on core beliefs and not compromising who we are to obtained the relationships and connections we feel we need to be whole and validate our existence. 🙏🏽👍🏽

[q_d]

I'm proud of him. He's doing the work.

[cwhite]

I'm not sure how people are so QUICK to be back in the "Dating Streets" without spending time HEALING! HEALing is process!

[trinjuwan]

I've often shared this message with women in my circle..when a man approaches you attempting to date you (& there is mutual attraction) the discovery phase starts upon him opening his mouth. As soon as his language does not align with your standards/core beliefs(assuming you have them bcuz you know your worth) dont proceed any further. The short term lust & excitement/good time being offered is not worth the wasted time & 💔ache you will experience when the 🔥 goes out.😢

[dannigirll]

God is using this man!! God is going to connect him to his forever partner, because he has learned so much through his past relationship. I respect him for truly being intentional and doing the work!! I’m on the same journey as him! You gotta love you first, work on yourself and be willing to receive when GOD shows us our partner. I’m excited for what GOD is going to do, because I believe I’m worthy to have the BEST!! 🙏🏽

[mocouzens]

I SO needed to hear this!!! Being a woman with 28 years of sobriety & unfortunately a few have tried to date social drinkers & even marry one & it doesn't work for me. I am healed from my past, I have worked on myself for all those years of sobriety. I just needed the reminder that my sobriety & positivity IS a lifestyle & a core belief & I NEED that in a partner! Thank you!

[hggirl]

Taking time to rebuildi my self-esteem and self-ide😮ntity, post divorce, has been one of the most profound and important chapters of my life. At first, it was dark and painful. Now, three years later, lots of counseling, meditation, writing, embracing sobriety, embracing a Higher Power and changing what I eat, my Self and world have entirely changed for the better. DeVon's share is awesome .

[JocobsComments]

I really feel bad for this dude. He really wanted and worked hard for that relationship. Glad he is moving forward and rebuilding. Stay strong bro.

[tiabeesmiff]

"What about getting into a relationship with yourself ?! " Period.

[maryihezie]

I love how Devon Franklin truly knows himself, his core values, and is self-assured. I admire that he doesn't do things just to fit into the culture. I can imagine there are plenty of women aligned with his core beliefs and values. He will find that special woman ;) ❤

[AllThingsSoul]

Great quote: "I love you and now I need to learn you." Communicate your expectations to each other. Devon is handsome, brilliant, and dedicated to growing himself a person so he's a better man for his next love. She will be a very lucky lady and I hope it happens for him very soon!