The Narcissist’s False Self: Why You’re Just a Sacrifice

[l.c]

So many people are enabling a narcissist without realising it, because they do not understand that they are actually dealing with a narcissist.

[QX-xquj]

This explains why my ex became more grandiose and daring until I realized it became dangerous! He not only told me many times how great he felt, but every time I questioned his bad behavior he flipped out because I was no longer supporting his delusion!😮

[tammyhollis]

They feel more powerful as their delusions are believed or accepted. When someone destroys the delusion, the narcissist becomes enraged because he's so extremely shattered.

[alexkuieh]

The more narcissistic supplies the more grandiose and dangerous narcissists get.

[jaygrambling]

This is a very important point being made, especially for those with codependency or codependent tendencies to realize. Otherwise, they'll find themselves in the repetitive loop of abuse.

[haroldlazarus]

They're not mental they are Possessed

[alexkuieh]

touching on the danger of validating the fantasy of narcissists. touches on the danger of validating the fantasy of a mentally-ill person

[strangequarkproductions]

Just described all of our celebrities.

[lovefaith]

Hmmm why my ex still hacks our network, has a drone sit over our house & follow car. After 28 years of marriage, 2 poor kids😢, 10 years divorced, hes remarried yet still does this dumb illegal shit. So awful w him & his new wife, friends & family are doing exactly what youre saying here. The perpetrator plays such a victim & good guy fallacy that they feed into, its sad, pathetic, funny & scarey how much bullshit he makes believable out of make believe. You are spot on Richard on everything you say. Im a 56 year old woman w kids who all have cptsd from his traits & abuse, all the classics….where was all this info back then? Bless you for what u do here🙏🍀

[Prometheuspredator]

Anything and everything is seen as a tool to use and then sacrifice to meet their needs. To encourafe and enhance their ego and grandiosity. Everyone is seen as expendable to the narcissist until they nolonger want or need them. You must be eliminated when they become bored or you hold them accountable, or just having a simple diffrence of opinion. You are seen offensive to their nature, character, ego, and being as they think they are of omnipotence. They are grandiose and see everyone wants to be who they are, especially when they are settled in their ego and grandiosity phase. Their false self is sacrificed when they experience an narcissistic collapse.

[jeanettebrichta]

I’m blown away right now. It’s like everything else with them, it fits right in to the narrative. You have always been able to put those puzzle pieces in to make it all make sense.❤️

[spiritbirdsuninyoureyes]

Thank you so much for all the information you provided. It actually helped me a lot. My partner was keep telling me I’m a narcissist. And I’d never heard it before. He was also physically and mentally abusing me. And when I went to more deep research I realized he was the one who is narcissist. This was an experience that I could never imagine before.

[craigmerkey]

Thank you! I learned as a very very young child my family members who display NPD traits were unavailable have purposeful interactions because the voices in their head were too loud!

[alexkuieh]

The fantasy of the narcissist is upheld the more supply they can get.

[valf]

Wonder why they don't work towards who they wish to be. Objectifying: I wish for a better car I work for it, I want for more body mass I work for it....

[sarahmarsden]

Well I have a mental illness and I’m dating a narcissist. It helps my illness go away through distractions . This is not good though as I’m locked in a narcissistic spell

[SoulForce-JiK]

I didn't know yet, but i sincerely gave a compliment being impressed about his lifestyle and I wanted to learn from him hence feeding him in his grandiosity hence devaluation and disgard and so on. But it was not my intention. Guess I should not give compliments anymore.

[sage_forensics_]

Another "twist" on this, if you will, is when a Narcissist uses YOUR mental illness and MIRRORS it to obtain supply. How would this work? Well, a few years ago I had a neighbor who lived with his mother. She was elderly, and I tried to look out for her at first. We were "neighborly" and eventually became friendly.

Over time, I mentioned that I was studying Psychology, had C-PTSD, and hoped to help others in the future since I could relate to them. Wouldn't you know it...he also had PTSD (the neighbor); however, I always found it odd how his presented.

Many, many other things happened in a very short time that clued me into the fact that he was very controlling. I knew I didn't want to deal with that. I started pulling away and setting boundaries...he didn't handle that well, at all!

Additionally, I felt he was BOTH watching me to copy my PTSD (or I could look back and see where he had possibly done so and repeated my behavior) as well as "acting" like he thought someone would--really bad acting, too.

So, he was attempting to create a "false self" with bad acting and mirroring me...very creepy!

[fxdpntc]

I’m glad that more people are saying it out loud. Cluster B’s are mentally ill.

[theresafreis]

I’m watching this EXACT movie right now l