How To Get Kids To Focus Better

Does it take you 12 times for your children to listen? Understand that kids have the skill to listen to what interested in and are good at filtering out what they need to listen to and what they can ignore. How do you get your kids to listen the first time you say something?

I'm going to help you today how to turn your words from garbage to gold. Increasing your consistency and how you approach your kids will make all the difference.

[deangoddard]

The consequence doesn't always have to be negative. In fact, positive consequences (or "rewards") are more effective at getting your child to display the desired behaviour you expect. For example, say to the child: WHEN / IF you do this [clean up toys or whatever]... THEN you can do [play] or get [reward], or even, THEN we can eat dinner! Then start the countdown! Say 10, 9, 8, 7 (and so on!). Also, praise them once they have displayed the desired behaviour! Doing this will increase the chances of them responding with the desired behaviour more quickly next time. And always remember to keep it CONSISTENT! ;-)

[jesielcarimbocas]

I am going to turn my garbage into gold. I really lose patience when he loses focus. Thanks so much for this advice.

[nellygottabelly]

This is the first time I've watched something of yours. As soon as you said "diagnosed as childhood" I knew you were a winner! Thank you so much for the videos and the info. It's very helpful!

[thetiredworker]

Hey man. Thank you. I am excited to put this forth as I started homeschooling my children this year. This is something that has always been in my mind but, often gets the boot because I am stressed or lazy. Parenting is not a spectator sport. Gotta be in it to win it!

[roxanatalmaciu]

Diagnosed as childhood....😆😆😆just what i thought when the teacher said my child doesn't pay attention. Thanks doctor Paul! 🤗

[andfoundout]

Initially, the only consequence is fear. The better way is to a) give them a time frame before the transition, b) ideally give them a choice of two acceptable options (" positive consequences")(gives them agency), or explain clearly what needs to happen, and c) follow through on the threat of a negative consequence

[MariaandMontessori]

📣"They're good at focusing on WHAT THEY'RE INTERESTED IN" 📣 👏 It could just be removing everything from the pantry, but focus they will!
Follow the child, ladies and gents!

[zacharyward]

My son is failing 1st grade. He does the typical mild back talk or eye rolling at home when given instruction for small task but otherwise mostly follows instructions. The teacher says he doesn’t need tutoring and doesn’t exhibit ADHD mannerisms but he simply just zones out and won’t do the work. She’ll walk him through steps and at the end it’s like he never heard her. Common core math is destroying his grades while basic math facts are B or better. He can read fairly well but almost zero comprehension because he isn’t interested. He blew my mind one day on the way to baseball game because he sang word for word Michael Jackson’s “Billy Jean”. I had the words wrong this whole time.🤷🏽‍♂️
I don’t want to hold him back because he turned 7 this October and it will put him in class with his younger sister and I worry about self esteem issues later. I don’t know what to do to make him want to learn.
Edit: This whole year has been turned upside down due to Covid. He missed three weeks due to Covid in family and his kindergarten year was cut short by over a month. Other kids in his class seem to be doing fine. He seems very insecure about a lot of things I’ve noticed and constantly craves positive attention “you proud of me daddy” “did I do good daddy” Could his esteem make him unwilling to put himself out there in a class room setting with 16 other kids?

[luckmorelobo]

One of the best decisions I've ever made as a parent is stumble upon your videos! You're practical and take an interesting view on common parenting problems. I've benefited from applying your techniques to for example dealing with a difficult child and it has proven to be gold!! Thank you for all your efforts and I can't the value that we've reeceived from just watching these videos free as parents. Keep doing what you do Doc!! I'll come back to this with feedback on the outcomes of applying this technique. The parent who had to shout 12 times was lucky, we currently shout at out double that rate...

[makermarx]

Speak in the Charlie Brown adult voice first - -Mwah-wha-whaaah... when they look up all confused, trying to compute, then you got them. Works every time, almost.

[bfdkdcz]

As a therapist I teach my parents the "Focus or Distracted Technic". Something simple but works. The key word here is consistency.

[natasavasic]

Thank you very much for sharing your knowledge and your experience. This video is beneficial for both parents and teachers. Very useful advice! Consistency, we so often forget how important that is.

[trentweston]

Hi mate, YT showed me one of your videos a few weeks ago. I've been watching 2 or 3 of them each night!

I love your delivery and humour, I'm seeing what I'm doing right and hearing what I'm not doing or even simply had never thought of!

[ewave]

Idk what to do, I’m drowning. My three year old is driving me crazy. I’m so hard on myself for yelling but man she doesn’t listen to anything no matter how I say it. Their mother is diagnosed w personality and bipolar disorder and im currently going through a custody battle as she’s also an addict. She’s basically been home alone w my little ones and when she wasn’t passed out she showed my little one how to lie and sneak and keep secrets. I want my girl to see that IM the parent and damn near the one person out here that cares and loves them without question. I’m missing tons of work bc my mom, the only one available to help me while I look for daycare, can’t control this girl at all.

Im at the point where my go to is to shout and I’ve been watching these videos daily. Shouting is the only thing that gets her to pause enough for me to intervene or whatever. She’s not safe, she’s 3, so I’m just worried about everyone at work. So worried I’ve lost like 20 pounds in a couple months. I can’t even eat anymore.

I know that her behavior WILL BE less than ideal for sure, she’s 3. I don’t expect full compliance. I just want the bare minimum. Something I can work with. I feel like I’m just failing her in every way and it’s literally physically killing me.

[Lubnadraws]

This is so helpful, I want to teach some kids and I want to know before I start how to make them listen and focus and I found your video, your channel is so helpful thank you 😄

[Kerplunk_]

LOVE the slot machine/vending machine concept. i found my self nodding like this video was made about my life haha. thank you for sharing this

[shantelzee]

A mom with 2 toddlers here, & I’m definitely a new subscriber

[Jeremy-vbtv]

Have watched several of these videos and you talk a lot about concepts and principles, but give little to no practical use or examples. Not everyone knows how to apply these great principles. It would be great if you could include some real practical examples of applying such concepts. So... in this case, how would you apply the consequence? Would you mention it at the same time you are asking the child to do something AND then every time you ask them to do something as a preemptive warning? Or mention it once ahead of time and then apply it as needed without mentioning it with every request?

[AnimeManhwa]

I need this... First time parent I want to be a better parent. Thank you so much ❤️

[Ms.DY]

I ‘ve just found ur chanel, I laughed a lot, as if describing me.I’m a mother of 7y old son.He sits doing homework long, not concentrating, I get tired telling to start doing.So sad 😞 He s very smart, but difficult to push him to sit and do.