6 Texting Behaviors That Are Red Flags

Texting habits can reveal a lot about someone's personality and emotional availability. 📱 From inconsistent Vanishers to passive-aggressive Backhanded Texters, this video dives into texting red flags you should watch out for. Are they emotionally unavailable, self-centered, or just plain toxic? Learn how to spot these behaviors and protect your mental well-being. 🚩💬
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References:
Elite Daily. (2017, December 21). 8 Texting Red Flags That Signal This Person May Not Be Worth Your Time.
Bartle, T. (2022, November 7). 17 Texting Red Flags From Guys You’re Better Off Avoiding.
PsychMechanics. (2022, October 21). How to text an avoidant (Tips for FA & DA).

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[Eudaimonia]

It’s sad when a friend goes from being hella invested to obviously no longer interested in texting you anymore.

[SergieRachmaninoff]

As someone who struggles with texting, please don't jump to conclusions with people based on texts. Texting is incredibly mentally taxing for me, to a point where I rarely engage with it nowadays, but if you want to call or talk in person, I'll always be there. Not everyone finds the same things easy, and them withdrawing can be about their own mental state, not a form of manipulation.

[daniellaizekemoe]

0:41 Ghosters
1:43 Low Priority
2:11 Disinterest & Dismission
2:56 Egotistical
3:24 Criticalist
4:15 Undertones

[rhaulsparrow]

some people have texting anxiety, or sometimes cant think of what to respond. so they step away to think about what to reply. happens to me sometimes, and then i worry that the person might think im showing disinterest or something bad. then i feel bad about myself and become even more distant. it can be a vicious cycle

[selma]

I dont wanna go too into detail on why I think this video has so many flaws and biases tbh but a key point I want to say: context and communication are what matters, Ask questions, don’t just assume, no one knows whats really going on in someone’s day to day life for why they aren’t responding quickly, responding at certain times, or being dry.

[FableTheWolf]

There are so many people in the comments here who are thinking they are toxic people just because they don't put texting at the top of their priority list. That's really sad and not fair. This topic has a lot of nuance even within generational gaps. No you're not a horrible person for not talking with everyone you consider a friend every second of the day. How woukd anyone get anything done otherwise? I get that it feels hard to navigate relationships with others in these days but this really isn't it.

[dotdedo]

I don’t like the first one. To say it’s always a form of deliberate manipulation is cruel. Ghosting texts and forgetting and coming back like nothing happened is a big sign of ADHD and I do this too. I usually say sorry, but to say I’m manipulating my friends and family on purpose in order to control them is hurtful.

Edit: if you don’t agree with this comment it wasn’t for you

[Ancient_]

Texting is the worst.... I prefer live conversations while my partner prefers knowing what's up on the spot

[bramble-]

I'm not sure if I fully agree with this video. I've learned over the years that texting is much more complicated than that. Someone could not be texting you because they have adhd or are anxious or depressed or something like that. It's not always because you're an afterthought. Some people genuinely forget or start overthinking so much, and it's really not because they don't care. And I think different people also have different ideas over how texting should go. Some people look at it more like sending letters, like back in the day just to put it simply lol. And other people expect a reply within a few minutes.

[mohaha]

I’m a night texter only because that’s when I have time to myself. In fact, this comments being written at 3am. The point is, I love my friends more than anything but responsibilities may get in the way. Of course I will always try to be as quick to respond as I can and I’m currently still working on it but I wouldn’t at all call the ones I’m texting a low priority. They mean the world to me. Moral of the story, don’t be quick to assume the worse.

[tile-maker]

I think denoting these patterns as "red flags" is very lethargic and dismissive. You are looking for somebody without asking them about themselves. How ironic is that!

[mahxylim]

Texting is very new and a lot of people don't fit into texting social norms. We should not expect texting will be the same as face to face interaction or it will lead to more misunderstanding. Red flags here only means a sign to investigate and seek clarification.

[McHuTaoManager]

I have had a best friend for like over 7 years now and we used to talk alot but now we just skip a whole moth without talking and we both come back like nothing happened and start jokes. I once confronted her about this, for me it's normal because i feel like I've secured her as my best friend "forever", and so when i asked her she had the exact same reason and i just knew she was the one. 😂❤

[nerinablais]

I'm an introvert and a night owl, so I naturally struggle with conversation as it is even face to face. I try my best, but when I can't get a word in edgewise with face to face conversations, I forget what I was trying to say in the first place and don't even bother trying anymore. The one time I did try to participate in a conversation with my dad's family, my dad interrupted me and said that my story was boring and no one wanted to hear it. Meanwhile, I'm sitting there thinking to myself, "Yeah, and how many boring conversations did I have to sit through over the years? The one time I try to participate, you interrupt me and you wonder why I never join in any conversations."

[jarmoliebrand]

I sort of relate to the first one. Sometimes I just need to retreat and recharge from things and that leads to be not looking at (and sometimes avoiding) my texts. I've never done it to try and string anybody along, I just need that break sometimes.

[fierymoth]

I pull back only because I feel like I'm the one that often tries to reach out to someone. Idk, but it feels frustrating and sad when you feel like uninteresting or unwanted. That's why I pull away and come back when I'm in the right headspace.

[amnesicss]

One of my friends told me, "there's always that one dude who doesn't have to text first". Dang

[Itellpeopleyouareloved]

Honestly I don't get it, I have friends, but they never seem to actually text me first.
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[JDiology]

I miss the 1990s when there was nothing of this.

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Don’t take these ‘red flags’ to heart, many people may have other reasons for these ‘red flags’