Would I Recommend 2 Under 2? | Short Age Gap Pros + Cons

I had 2 under 2 for 9 months — and now that the craziest days are behind us, I'm sharing my honest thoughts on the 2 under 2 age gap. In this video you'll hear all my personal pros and cons of short age gaps and whether I would actually recommend the 2 under 2 life!

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[BethGraceMoore]

Did you have 2 under 2? Share any of your life w/ 2 under 2 tips below for any mums that will have this age gap soon! ❤

[bekahstairs]

I feel like the small age gap was definitely the hardest early on, but with each month it gets easier and easier.

[lore_]

I had two under two. The biggest con for me was how hard it was on my body. My second pregnancy just wrecked me and it was so difficult caring for a baby during the third trimester. I have never, ever been so deeply exhausted. I also dealt with some pretty serious pelvic floor issues and I wonder if those might have been avoided if I had given myself longer to "bounce back" from the first pregnancy and birth. Luckily, all of that is/was temporary--and I've seen a great physical therapist. The age gap itself has been wonderful. Love how close my babies are. I am already dreaming of a third, but feel like I should give my body a little more time to fully recover.

[jessicasmalls]

We had 3 under 3 and in a few months we’ll have 4 under 4! We love it! It’s definitely hard at times, but that doesn’t mean it’s bad! They are the biggest blessings ever and bring us so much joy. My best advice is to create routines and schedule cleaning/cooking into them, or it won’t happen! You create the normal, so teach your kids what you want normal to look like early. It is so fun having close age gaps! (We have a 12 month gap and two 17 month gaps)

[lilygreen]

I’m about to have two under one in a few weeks (they will be 11 months apart), so these videos are absolutely amazing! Thank you so much for sharing them!! I’ve been binging all day lol. Blessings to you and your family! 💗

[ninabntz]

Yes, yes and YES to all of it. I have two girl under 2 (12 months apart)
I don’t regret having them so close, is challenging but I love how they interact with each other and how they are growing together

Can’t wait for potty train videos ☺️

[redhot]

I think the only reason I wouldn't have 2 under 2 is I'd like to replenish the nutrients in my body and give my cesarean scar the recommended 2 years to heal. I love the idea of not gaining back freedom and then losing it again. Once you gain more freedom back it will be more long term.

[ashlyn-marie]

I am so glad I found your channel! Our second is on the way and we will have two almost exactly two years apart and I have only heard negative things about how my experience will be. This is encouraging!

[indsandemilia]

I had my two children 18 months apart, although it is challenging I do love it! I love having them close in age, as she does love her little brother. It’s super sweet, it has been hard mentally and on my body but I wouldn’t change it! ☺️

[emilyjoerger]

The way you talk positively about this but really it was hell on earth😂

[milo_thatch_incarnate]

My mom had 9 of us, mostly back to back -- all but one sibling gap is less than 18 months -- and let me tell you, it's hard, but it's SO doable! What people don't realize is that, while it's hard in the first year when they're too little to do anything, as soon as they get old enough to help around the house, you don't HAVE to do everything yourself. As more kids kept coming, each of us older kids took on different (age-appropriate) responsibilities and chores. If you have multiple kids back to back, you're NOT going to have to take care of all of them AND everything in the house for long. They can help! And it's good for them to! And it's not just about chores; they occupy each other too. We all played with each other throughout our childhoods, and we're SO close-knit now as adults and teenagers.

[hayleyblake]

We had two 21 months apart and it has been challenging and amazing, depending on the hour! Personally, I wouldn’t do it again next time (if we have a third we want a 3ish year gap), but I definitely am glad we did it between 1 and 2. I mostly feel like physically I need a longer break this time.

[kylakyla]

We just found out that I’m pregnant with baby number two! We will have a 16 month age gap 😅 trusting that the Lord knew the right timing!

[kaylafixesthefunk]

I also had 2 under 2 for a short period of time back in 2018, early 2019. They are now 6 and just shy of 5.

Love all these pros n cons. Thanks for sharing.

[hannaniklaus]

I feel like the cons you mentioned are very general.. Even with a bigger agegap you'll probably have to deal with that. I was sick for 9 months with my first and I'm kind of scared, that it will happen again.. but again, no agegap will be "perfect" for a 9 month-sickness.
But I want to give my body time to heal, do the gymnastics (in switzerland it's recommended to take 10 lessons special physical-gymnastics for recovering after fiving birth, so you can get your body ready for more pregnancies/ back to a good health) and prepare some routins that will be beneficial if I'm sick again. And maybe my body will allow to be pregnant again after some months.. and maybe not.. that's okay too, god has better plans for us than we have for our own :)

[Petalsandpups]

Loved hearing your perspective! I accidentally had a 4 year gap between my first and second due to secondary infertility and I deal with a lot of these cons too even with such a large gap! I’m so ready to be done with the baby stage so I’m hoping to get to experience the 2 under 2 gap for this next time! 😆

[helmisilvennoinen]

Thank you, this made me cry because I am having a second when our first is only 19 months and I’ve been terrified. But this gave me sense of relief❤❤❤

[AmB]

This video is very encouraging. We just found out we’re having our second, they will be 25 months apart and I was worried about a few things…that you actually covered as pros, which is fantastic. Thanks for this. Feeling better already

[annika]

My first 2 are under 2. I loved it but I did feel guilty toward my first for not giving him enough one on one time. He’s never known anything different and never experienced sibling jealousy. I had exactly 2 years between my 2nd and 3rd and that was harder to me.. we definitely had some moments.. now baby 3 and 4 will be the same under 2 age gap as my first 2. It depends on your childrens personalities and what your family dynamic looks like if you will love it or hate it. I personally love it. Hoping for a second set of 2 under 2 buddies. I will soon have 4 children, age 5 and under. I hope they remain close and grow up together with a wonderful bond. They all share toys, books and like the same movies and there’s always someone to play with!

[kayla]

I have a 2 month old and 23 month old. It has been challenging to say the least. Mostly feelings of guilt and sadness that I can’t give both of them my undivided attention. It’s SO hard when they’re both crying and you simply can’t attend to both at the same time. Also not being able to carry them both. I do it as often as I am able when I’m baby wearing, but my 23 month old is 35 lbs on his own, so I can’t do it for long! Hearing that yours are now playing together gives me something to look forward to!