'I'm 30 And Have No Friends' (Why This Is A Problem)

"I'm 30 And Have No Friends" (Why This Is A Problem)

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[loujon]

It is very difficult to keep friends as an adult. People are very selfish and also fairly very busy so it’s tough

[Lancelot]

I used to be a real social butterfly but after my second deployment in the Marines, I’ve become real reserved. Deleted social media, stopped partying, and I’ve found my life is more at peace that way.

[vincentortega]

I'm 62, and have no close friends. I have some close relatives and a few people from church I see yet they are not close friends. I enjoy being single. I'm never alone. I always have God with me.

[grumpybeck]

In my experience people who are super quick to try to be my friend just want to take advantage of me. People who end up being great friends always took a little more work at first, and since I am naturally shy, it took a while for me to learn that.

[dixiegirl]

I'm 59 now & either my friends have passed away or I just outgrew them due to maturity or other interest. Too, as you get older, your realize who your real friends are. Unless I meet someone at church today, it's just hard to meet other people.

[JoshHitti]

Hey Ken - thank you for walking through your thoughts on my original video from a couple years ago. Also, I appreciate the kindness you showed to the second woman.

One thing to note is the lack of context from a single short clip. In future videos I discussed the toxicity and bullying that occurred early in life, specifically with those groups of friends. Tie that to an emotionally unavailable father and there's a recipe for disaster haha. Things have been much better now and if I didn't openly discuss what I was facing and move past the stigma of being a man with emotions, I would still be in that place.

Cheers,
Josh

[ingridb.]

Being friendly is not the solution, I try at work and I just ended up betrayed and quiting my job for crappy people

[olgasuner]

Your status is identified by the number of friends you got in certain circles. But with age you learn quality takes over quantity. Now I have few but true friends at heart and that’s what matters.

[changurelf]

I'm a loner, too. I cut people out because I realized that I need to take care of ME AND ONLY ME. I'm done helping my friends and family around me. Friends and family are just anchor in our life, and if you wanna grow mentally, you're gonna have to leave the loved one behind.

[dianvandevyver]

I don't have friends, and I'm living my life better.

[Christina-kqii]

I’m 31no friends as well. I resonate with the woman more so. It’s much more peaceful less drama and we don’t have to worry about them screwing us over in the end. Working from home has really put a spotlight on it as well.

[amireallythatgrumpy]

Having friends is more of a problem in adulthood than not having them

[PickledHam]

No friends. Whats the problem? i'm 55 with no friends, no family, no wife or kids or pets. I am as happy as I have ever been in my life. I get to vacations to Europe (13 countries), take cruises whenever I want. I'm a loner that enjoys doing thing on a whim. Never get lonely. No one to take care other than myself. No one to check in with. No one to argue with.

[BryceJohnson]

I'm 34 and have never had a best friend. Everyone still hangs out with their HS or college friends. I feel like it's just too late. I will likely die without close friends.

[cjk]

I’m 32, married with a kid..have a full time job and I just don’t have time to hang out with friends anymore. Most of my friends don’t have kids so hanging out with them anymore isn’t the same.

[markwint]

They both are young adults and sometimes your better off without a lot of people in your life. Don't be robotic just always have your guard up.

[BostonRoger]

I’m 35, same boat. We moved very often while I was growing up and then after I got married, we moved from Massachusetts to Texas.
I have acquaintances but let’s say I was at the mall and my car wouldn’t start…I have literally ZERO people in my phone I could text to come help me out (other than my wife).

This has been my truth since I was about 25 so I focused on my career instead of friends. Now I work with people who are 20 years older than me and we can’t relate.

[Wuncler]

For me it’s not that there isn’t people who want to be my friend, it’s just I’ve outgrown them. I had plenty of “friends” when I was going out and doing what most do. Once I really started growing, got into a relationship and changed my focus it’s like I’m starting over from scratch and doing so as an adult is tough. You don’t trust the same as you once did in your younger days before things went wrong as well.

[Vintage_Papers_and_More]

My husband and children are my only friends. My childhood friends moved away and do their own things.

Over the years my adult “friends” turned out to be gossipers and only invited or included me if they were bored or needed someone to show up for their direct sales parties. When I would invite them for coffee or dinner they would come up with an excuse not to come over or meet. However, they had time for my sister 😂

[diggernash]

Maintaining multiple relationships is an annoyance with little return on the investment. 3 friends is far better than 30. I've never felt lonely.