Narcissism and impulse control

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[indigovj]

Yes, I can agree with the, “they are always angry”. We accidentally touch upon a trigger of theirs and they get so mad and hateful at that time, like opening a faucet of hate upon us. Leaves us wondering if they ever had a good thought about us even during the good times.

[JA-koxu]

Narcissists will never control their impulses, because the desire to do so relies on a concern or respect for others--which they just don't have.

[liesldowdeswell]

Sitting YES... YES to everything. It's that private life that nobody sees, and all the while you are hurting.

[liudmilaaleagaaguilera]

I experienced this and it was horrible, their reaction happens suddenly💔 The cursing, yelling, name calling at a grocery store, on a flight, in my house and locked me out, in his house throwing things around, threats through text, emails....Thankfully ended the relationship. Thanks again Dr. Ramani in the healing process❤

[jackychuplis]

My ex is exactly like this. He used to flip out and want to jump out of the car and punch people in the face just for looking at him “the wrong way” when most of the time they were just looking in our direction to cross the road. And then he directed his anger at me when I told him to stop it. He also couldn’t hold a job because he always wanted to punch his managers in the face. That is just the tip of the iceberg. Every day was so stressful. Thank you Doctor Ramani ❤️

[janeloraine]

I wish I had this information decades ago when I was trapped in an abusive marriage. Vindictive, entitled, always raging (when the right people weren't around!)… Every point described my ex! So grateful for your wisdom and willingness to share it with us - makes me feel more sane!

[kathrynhamblin]

I've read so many posts from people describing the utter terror of being stuck with a narc in a car.
I've been there too. Cars really seem to be one of their top weopons of choice.
...And you can't even throw yourself out of a moving vehicle in desperation. They've put the central child locking on.
Oh yes, they've thought of that already.

[fruitopia]

The oppositional defiance disorder makes so much sense now!! And it explains why I always feel like I’m dealing with a 4 years old except my son was so much kinder at that age than my 33 year old narc 🤦🏼‍♀️

[SamSolasdonSaol]

Your thirst for knowledge and educating never ceases to amaze me. Thank you sooo much for helping the dots to connect and shining a bright light on this wicked darkness.

[beatrice]

Thank you for being realistic on these issues. I’m often called negative or off putting because I see people for who they are instead of who the can be. Let’s be realistic, it’s so hard to change yourself when you’re aware of your issues. Everyone is work in progress if they want to do something about their behavior. I can’t stand when people tell me I don’t give enough chances like it’s my responsibility to make it easier on everyone else at my expense.

[klfannbbb]

My ex loved to project and tell me I had oppositional defiant disorder. The beauty of claiming someone has this, is that if you argue with them about it, they say you're proving them right 🙄

[emilyloucks]

I second the request for the DOUBLE BIND scenario. "Hey let's plan a beach day!" You are damned if you do and damned if you don't. If you say no, you get you get uncomfortably dismissed "fine, whatever", devalued "you're not that interesting anyway" and raged at "guess you never want to talk to me again! I thought we were friends but I guess that's just BS", then the silent treatment (which is a blessing in disguise). If you say yes, you are sucked in to their manipulation tactics. If I have one more narcissist try to force me to be friends with them I'm going to lose my mind.

[PaperMario]

Another great video. People treat Narcissists like they are just an annoyance, and that might be all they are to coworkers and friends, but many are dangerous and sadistic behind closed doors.

[LyndieLouWho]

Aggression and lack of Impulse control is not always angry outbursts. Covert narcissists use passive-aggressive tactics; they attempt to wear you down by doing nasty things on the down low in hopes that their target will lose their temper so that you will look like the vilian and they get to play the victim.

[malaika]

thank you for this doc! My soon to be ex is very angry, has road rage and has no impulse control. He is also physically abusive. He has even attended anger management classes without any change in behavior. In fact, he got more angry because it was court ordered after he was arrested for domestic abuse.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

This totally describes an ex I was in an abusive relationship with. I am doing trauma therapy but it helps to have it defined more because I struggle with understanding what was wrong with him and why he did what he did to me. Thank you for the information. 💖🙏

[raginaldmars]

... as a Biologist - it is about self defence. With Social Awareness Skills we train to carefully observe the triggers for aggression. Then we train - when to run fast away - as any animal does. Those who stay - will be in trouble...

[peterknyk]

Wow, Dr. Ramani! This sounds like suggestibility, narcissistic control, narcissistic rage, and narcissistic pouting all wrapped up into one! Thank you for this video as it continues to enlighten me on my journey forward and recovery from narcissistic abuse! ❤️🙏🕊

[wolfgangk]

First I heard of carrying the diagnosis of ODD into adulthood It makes perfect sense.

[nicholasschroeder]

I spent an entire day with my narcissistic mother. When I wasnt angry, I was analyzing. Most of it was hanging with a mean child. All of it was defending her ego. It's sad, but it's exhausting to be around