Can Obsessively Loving Someone Ruin You?

Are you experiencing a love obsession or limerence? If you’ve ever felt deeply connected yet overwhelmed by feelings of obsession when it comes to love, dating, and crushes, know that you’re not alone. In this video, we’ll discuss the psychological facts about obsessive love, how it manifests, and help you understand the signs of obsessive love. We will also be talking about limerence and obsessive love disorder.

Whether you’re navigating a challenging romantic situation or simply seeking to better understand your feelings, these obsessive love facts will offer valuable insights and support. Remember, it's perfectly okay to seek help and understanding along your journey

If you’re struggling with obsessive love, know that healing is possible. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore your feelings, understand the underlying causes of your obsession, and develop healthier relationship patterns. With the right support, you can navigate your emotions and work towards a more balanced and fulfilling love life. Remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength, and you don’t have to face this journey alone.

Disclaimer: Please do not self-diagnose. If you’re struggling, we encourage you to seek professional help.

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon
Animator: Suu
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Previous Title: 7 Surprising Truths About Obsessive Love and Limerence

[Psychgo]

At some point, many of us have felt an overwhelming attachment to someone, leading to behaviors that aren’t healthy—whether it's constantly seeking their attention or going to extremes to stay connected. This kind of obsession can take a toll on our mental health, sometimes leading to things like substance abuse or distorted thinking.

We hope this video sheds light on these experiences and creates a space where we can openly share our stories, support one another, and encourage healing. If this message resonates with you, please consider sharing the video to help spread awareness. This could possibly save a life.

[CrystalPlays.]

For timestamps for people who don't have time, and wanna know how to spot obsessive love:
1:12 Constant Thoughts
1:17 Needing Constant Contact
1:22 Jealousy
1:26 Controlling
1:30 Worrying about safety
1:36 Ignoring Boundaries
1:42 Sensitivity to Rejection
1:48 Difficulty with Rejection
1:54 Monitoring Behaviour
2:00 Invading Space
Hope I helped!

[Mystic_Paths]

When love becomes obsessive, you may begin to lose your sense of self. Your identity can become entirely tied to the other person, making you dependent on them for your happiness and sense of worth

[lizzZoO]

many ppl seem to fantasize abt this like "i want an obsessive gf/bf" but the truth is, theyre immature once they realize the cons of having it, but many ppl seem to have issues of being obsessive the other way too, my personal experience

[Manzlaughterr]

I think that obsessive love should be a recognized disorder, obviously I don’t have any licenses in psychology but, it ruined my life, and still affects it now. I managed to partially get out of it but I still think about that person at least once every few days.

[RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose]

As a Japan fan, I love the _Mirai Nikki_ anime reference in your thumbnail because it is also about obsessive love. You guys rock! 😂👍

[BillysFingers]

This is one of the best Psych2Go video's ever. I have a friend who i feel an overwhelming sense of attraction to that's not reciprocated and will never due to the age gap if nothing else. The video explains why i have these feelings (childhood neglect i'd say) but i really value her as a friend and really want to just see her like that without these torturous feelings i have.

[mikoswhackgameandstuffvids]

I'm not obsessed with the girl i like, i give her space and i respect boundaries. She's my bestest friend, and sometimes i think to myself, there will never be a woman like her again in my life. She makes me happy and comfortable. She's a good friend and person. We met 9 years ago and our friendship is still strong

[PosiMind]

It's crucial to recognize when attachment crosses the line into something unhealthy. I believe having practical steps on how to detach and rebuild self-worth would add even more value. Learning to love in a healthier way is something we all can work on.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Obsessive love looks like 0:25
2). How to spot obsessive love 1:03
3). Love nd other drugs 2:04
4). It's not just about the person 2:43
5). Self-esteem plays a role 3:16
6). Attachment styles matter 3:45
7). Rejection makes the heart grow fonder 4:37
8). Healing is possible 4:58

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[nekimi__]

calling someone old now has a whole new meaning

[Shary]

Thank you very much. This video helped me to understand myself and the mischievous cycle where I'm sadly trapped...

[creepypastadetective]

My ex bf was SO obsessive to the point where it scared me. Like we were only dating for 2 months and he was already so obsessed with me.

[MrNuschelowski]

I think in times like these people tend to rush when it comes to relationships. In the end you have to find your own speed and a healthy way to deal with dating, first dates, sexual interactions and most important commitment as well as communication.

[AC-nigt]

This fits what the Japanese call "Yandere". It doesn't matter what gender the yandere is. The yandere is an obsessive love-sick person.

[dantepatel]

I think another thing about the anxious prepccupied attachment style is that they admire an independent person for their independence. They envy that character trait because they don't have it. So, the love interest is a symbol for what they wish they had. Hence, the obsession.

[JuguitodeUwU]

This sounds pretty much like limerence, a concept originally coined by Dorothy Tennov (1979) I am currently working on that topic to develop an intervention for my master's degree, there is an article by Bradbury et al (2024) that might help :3 However, what I want to point out is that limerence is NOT love, it is obsession towards obtaining reciprocity and nothing else, it has mental rummination as the main characteristic and if anyone who is reading this feels identified then should work with that rummination through Acdceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Metacognitive Therapy or Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. I hope this helps ♥

[IamStempie]

Ive been obsessed with a boy who broke my heart for the past 6 months. I think about him all day everyday.

[DjO]

I felt content and secure when I began seeking relationships. After so many attempts of some relationships not working out, I found someone and quickly moved in with her, caught feelings quickly, we worked together, but simply were not “public.” She never opened up to me or reciprocated feelings, so I just started losing my self worth. I forced every ounce of myself to be worthy and seek security/validation, doing things at the cost of my financial and mental health. We had no private time away from each other, and both of us texted constantly, even telling each other when we would leave a location and arrive at another. The negativity, insecurity, and jealousy started to climb, and eventually we broke off this relationship path. I still suffer from the heartbreak, and it doesn’t help that we still live together. It’s much more painful seeing that she moved on or didn’t even react the same way I did. I still believe I can heal, but damn this shit hurts

[elisekim]

I used to be obsessed with my past crush and past partner but not anymore because I have my goals for my future. I know my worth and I'm setting my boundaries.