Making Friends as an Adult (ft. Friendship Expert) | Episode 01

↳In Episode 01, Erin interviews Danielle Bayard Jackson (aka @thefriendshipexpert ) a certified Friendship Coach and Educator (and PR expert, business owner, speaker, AND author!).

➞ In this episode:
0:30 Introduction
2:10 Rapid fire background Q&A
3:25 Why Danielle switched careers
5:11 Being the shy/mean/popular girl in high school
7:03 How Danielle got out of teaching and into coaching
12:50 Is working from home killing our friendships?
16:22 Dunbar's Number
18:00 Making friends as a remote worker (or else you'll get weird)
19:00 Harvard 100-Year Study on Happiness
20:35 What are "quality" friendships?
21:42 Introverts vs. Extroverts
23:10 Female vs. Male Friendships
29:40 How men can make more friends
31:19 The stress of picking bridesmaids & groomsmen
37:05 Types of Loneliness (+ how to get more friends)
39:30 #RealAdvice Time!
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→ Mics are Rhode 🎙️
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Welcome to No One Knows What They're Doing, a brand new show from Erin McGoff (aka, AdviceWithErin). Tune in as she introduces you to new people, new careers, and new ideas to inspire you to confidently design a life that makes you truly happy. In this show, Erin dives into topics that are top of mind for folks in their 20s and 30s ranging from career advice and financial literacy to relationships and self-esteem. Erin will bring on experts to give advice on questions like, "Should I move to Europe?" and "How do I negotiate my salary?" and "How do I find a work-from-home job that isn't a scam?".

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[AdviceWithErin]

Episode 01 is here! 🎉 thanks to @DanielleBayardJackson for our insightful conversation. ❤

[meiling]

“If I don’t get social, I get weird” 😂 that is a very valid point. I started working hybrids since Covid and I do get very comfortable at home, however, it is easy to forget how extremely important being in the office in person and interacting with people outside of our team really is. Thank you so much for your video. It’s a great reminder.

[Axlette]

Building friendships as an adult is not talked about enough, as an introvert, I appreciate this

[Sanvalho]

8:01 "we're all trying to figure out how to navigate friendships" it's so comforting to hear!

[jennifergoldberg]

I think it’s so important that you brought up the fact that not every friend needs to be a best friend. Sometimes we have such a strong desire to get closer with people, but we need our fun-time friends just as much as we need our deep-talk friends!

[theultimatewazum]

Having friends as an adult is pursuing what my inner child always wanted to do but was afraid of being judged, and meeting people with the same experience can be life changing

[Barbara-koru]

This part blew my mind - Our brains can only maintain 150 social connections, we only have the capacity for 3-5 ultra close, but we also need ALL the rings of connections such as fringe friends. - This whole part changed my mindset on friendship. 🤯💡💚💯

[alexandra]

I love how she explained that it doesn't matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert, we all need quality people. Growing up, as an introvert I used to feel a bit embarrassed that I didn't know lots of people, specially compared to acquaintances who had lots of followers or followed many people. As I grew up, I would tell myself that it didn't matter because I had my handful of beautiful meaningful relationships. It was interesting to hear in the way it was formulated. The difference between extroverts and introverts is the fact that extroverts just enjoy more social time.

[Vinduri]

I like that your content is focussed not only on carreer advice but also in wellness. It is a good reminder that we are human and need human connection. Thank you.

[Cyberlifewithash]

As a self-proclaimed introvert and homebody, I feel healthfully challenged to broaden how I approach social connections. Friendships in your early 30’s feels so hard and next to impossible, I will be more intentional this year and try to open up again. Sending love from Arizona ♥️🌵

[WonderV]

Saving this to listen to again. I just moved to a new city and also work independently and KNOW that my sudden lack of circles is affecting my mental health. Thank you both so much!

[lillianb.buonocore]

I loved the "I Am" statements to recognize where you might be missing community. There are so many parts of ourselves that deserve to be seen and validated and cared for. Thank you for the amazing advice!

[hannahv]

I love that Danielle was a teacher (like me!) but her career didn’t stop there! Gives me hope for other career possibilities. ❤

[sanoraabidkhozhayeva]

Wow, that's extremely useful, thank you!
I'm 31 years old and just lately realized that I suffer of not having meaningful relationships with other people. I became a part of a club. That's increased significantly the level of my satisfaction with my life and with what I'm doing. Thank you again for having this episode!

[taraspeak]

The advice for what I identify as and figuring out where relationally I'm lacking in those areas is completely changing my perspective on how to tackle this loneliness problem. Also the advice for how to support men in my life looking for friendships, was very enlightening. Loved this episode and I'm excited for more!

[TomDierenfeld]

The point about the different circles of friendships is so important. Imagine telling your colleague at the coffee machine every little detail about your life and listen about theirs. My brain would be soup before the first meeting. But that quick chat about favourite coffee brewing techniques really lightens both our moods and helps me through my day

[michaelkowalski]

Erin, your content is so genuine and wholesome. Excited for this new series

[PeaceLoveSmile]

Quality of any relationship is sooo important whether it's family or significant other. For friendship, it's so tricky because unlike family or significant other, you either really know your friends deeply or on surface level/acquaintance status. I truly believe that the quality of friendship can determine whether person is happy or not since it takes both side to reach out and genuinely get to know each other. Which is hard to do nowadays but kudos to people who really are putting themselves out there.

[kazuo]

I've been finding it harder and harder to make new true friends, especially as an international moving from Brazil to the US. However, pushing yourself out is the only way to build new friendships and grow relationships that are so important for our well being and mental health. Loved the episode, I'll stay tuned for more!

[ibolyap]

Great that you mention we need more connections. I like to help/talk to people in shops, even if it seems insignificant, it might make someone's day or just smile, doesn't matter. Every little help, costs nothing :)