How can I say 'No' as a people pleaser?

This question comes from someone who's realizing that they are a people pleaser.

While many people who come to this realization tend to focus on the why, "Why am I doing this?", I encourage listeners to instead focus on the what, "What can I do about it?"

There are steps you can take to start shifting the focus from pleasing other people to making sure you're happy and it all starts with paying attention.