Marriage Advice For Parents | Ustadh Abdulrahman Hassan | AMAU Academy

BarakAllahu feekum.

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[AmegakureRain]

SubhanAllah. 100% Agree. May Allah make it easy upon us

[DeenReport]

May Allah keep us steadfast on the Deen and grant us righteous children, Ameen

[annahollander]

The problem is that these days puberty, that is the physical readiness to be married, comes way before the mental readiness to be married. The great problem is how to bridge this gap without the youngster coming to harm.

[ashaw]

Imagine 3 different brothers telling you that they’d marry you then turning you away.
The most ‘serious’ brother wanted to take me to a courthouse to sign papers without my family’s permission.

Wallahi every girl in my community wants marriage young and their parents support it.
Our parents literally talk our ears off about how important it is to marry. Then tells our brothers they aren’t ready yet.

Even when the girls want marriage they can’t marry themselves. The brothers have to be ready and willing to take them from their home in the most honorable way. (Not secretly marrying them)

[Leon-bcyw]

As salam o alaykum, should NOT be sending Muslim girls to Mix schooling any ways, In-sha-ALLAH

[airriderz]

We as Muslims really have to teach our men the characteristics of the Prophet as described in the Sunnah, what is required of us from the Quran and Sunnah, responsibility, entrepreneurship, emotional intelligence and intuition.

We have to start ensuring that our men can actually handle raising a family by the time they reach 16-20.

We as parents also need to be accommodating of our children if they find someone to be married to, to give them roles and opportunities to gain wealth so they can accurately provide for their families.

One of the biggest problems we as an ummah (especially those who migrated to the western nations for financial opportunities) have is: expecting a return on the investment of raising our children and not remembering that they aren't guaranteed financial success early in their lives or at all.

[sanamashraf]

Education is also important, there shouldn’t be either or. A father needs to see to her education and to her martial life. “Seeking knowledge is an obligation upon every Muslim”. You see that’s the thing with short clips it can put an emphasis on one thing but leave other in vague

[nlb]

Tell this to my husband ! Allaho mosta ´an

[SuperSar]

What if no one asks for her hand in marriage she needs to learn about patience and what’s haram and halal

[OneWorthyofWorship]

One of the biggest problems in the Ummah right now

[sidounanky]

Thank you for the advice Sah😅my daughter is going to University next year ☝️🤲❤️☪️🐝🕊️

[jetx]

The Head Director of Education in our Masjid said something like: We should encourage our Youth to study hard subjects so we can have them being Lawyers and Doctors… He said it in front of the Imam and the Youths… La ilaha ila Allah. Where should we start.

[imaslowlerner]

That's so common. Big problem. Then when they are 35-40yrs old. Nobody wants them.

[dimreaper]

Marriage for our children is so important not a force’s marriage but defiantly a marriage at the right time we should look at the age of maryiam when she had prophet isa a girl is of age when she hits puberty but it’s on us to raise our boys and girls to be men and women ready for marriage as well nowadays boys are not mentally prepared at your ages to take care of a wife

[MrsNiqabi]

This is why we should raise them so they are responsible in a young age, so they can get married young. Teach them cleaning, working, cooking, and give them responsibility - do they areactually ready for marriage.
The problem is they want to get married young but don't want the responsibility, because they get babied and not tought resposibility.

[SafiaMoffatt]

Marriage is half of the deen. In this time it is just as important to marry young if possible. Especially if men are showing interest in her. She needs to marry. She can complete school as a married woman insha Allah.

[Observer-qneg]

Sad case these days is people get a degree for a field they will never work in.

Waste of time and money if you’re not Gina use those credentials later in life!

[purplelilly]

So she can get abused after marriage.

You talk to her help her say strong and tell her have faith someone is destined for you at the time Allahswt has written.

That's what a mother would say to her daughter.

Real issue is the boys that pester girls too much!

[HAli]

And then get divorced when the physical gets boring lol..and then have a broken family and a broken society.

[paulshinh]

What a load of shit. If they have good foundation they will be fine