5 shocking things narcissists do that you NEVER saw coming

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November 1-3, 2024

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[sushmayen]

Now I'm not shocked by anything they say or do. I only think..oh I should have seen that coming..

[saririkallpa]

I never understood the shame I have always felt, now I know it comes from how my parents acted with other people, now I understand. Also be ignore by someone i though I loved and see this person treat others in my presence so nicely, feeling ashamed and invisible.

[lauragrolla]

An apology is just a delaying tactic. It’s strategic. It buys them time and confusion.

[gerdine]

The psychopath I met treats his friends badly, except me (which baffled me), but it was only a matter of time before he started treating me super badly too.

[sharonducci]

How about the narcissist you’re married to for over 18 years that pretty much dismisses that you even exist but treat everyone including the waitresses with such respect and kindness

[nugget]

Horrible to others but nice to you might mean that they are love bombing you.

[APS-fqoz]

I haven’t ever had an apology. Their awful abusive behaviour is never discussed. They only hold grudges themselves.

[Makingmovesfromhome]

It is part of the “love-bombing” that fades over time and then you become the villain and they eventually turn on you.

[FunkyVibesStore]

Am friends with a my exes but when the narc asked for a friendship, i declined that offer on the spot and I didn't even know what NPD is. Now am so proud of myself right there. Psychotic is when someone wants your friendship yet they treated you horribly

[cats]

Feeling relieved but panicked. You just described him to a t.

[AutisticKecil]

My mother issued an 'apology' via my brother. A generic 'sorry things didn't work out' fauxpology. And a free lecture from my brother about how brave that was of her, and how difficult it was fór her.

[jrr]

My ex did actually apologize using 'I' statements. But not until I had left him. And he was vague. "Sorry I ruined everything ". And he didn't commit to making any changes.
And anyway. The apology didn't mean anything to me. I would not have believed him even if he gave a perfect apology. Because he has apologized a bunch over the years and never changes his behavior. So I have realized that I will believe him when I see long term, genuine hard fought positive change.
I'll never go back though. That ship has sailed.

[l.]

I had a boss that was nice to me because I made the most sales, and she was brutal with other staff. I had thought that I had earned the woman's respect and that's why she treated me well but I discovered otherwise. I am not one to stand by when I witness abuse so after she made a young staff member cry in front of customers, I cornered her in the back room and simply told her "I do NOT like to see my coworkers cry". Boss looked daggers at me. From then on she picked a new 'favourite employee but not before calling a staff meeting and falsely accusing me of something she herself had done. I quit and got a much better job. I wish I had quit much much sooner. It only gets worse with these creatures. And as soon as you establish a boundary, they will call YOU a narcissist.

[bakaratn]

"If they do it with you, they'll do it TO you." This is a statement often used in terms of cheating, but it might work with this topic, too. It'd be only a matter of time until the chosen one trips into the cross hairs. 😢 And if this is a family of origin context for the dynamic... then siblings even start turning home into Thunderdome ... 😞

[DominieRobinson]

The one I am dealing with sizes people up. figures out what they need, craftily morphs himself into whatEver it is they need, poses as their "savior" relishes in the adoring grattitude, but became vindictiveand covertly retaliatory as soon as they didn't cowtow or bow down to whatever it was he thought he 'needed' in the moment . For me, it was confusing as all hell and mindfukery to the Extreme !

[sandyw]

I've seen that happen where the narc actually told me how he treated others and then told me that he'd NEVER treat me like that. I said to him, "but it's in you - what makes me so special" yet I stayed. And I was right - what a pos he was after a time! Thankfully, I walked away.

[SherryTomlinson-ry]

My friend is well to do. Her father bought her a home in the same neighborhood as doctors and lawyers. For 5 years her x narc wants to come back. They do have a child. It took forever for me to explain to her- he has always had his eyes on her money. Finally she caught on! Narc was like a pit bull won’t let loose. She finally got a good lawyer involved! Yes, I remember feeling shame when my narc father mistreated others. It was awful! It’s crazy being raised in this mess.

[elizabethstarrivytech]

They do a "fake" apology to just try to keep you on the string. The minimum. A breadcrumb.

[saturdayschild]

I had this experience in grade school and throughout college. The bullies treated me really well and treated others really badly. I did nothing to solicit this treatment. In fact, I avoided them because I’d fought off bullies many times before. These bullies were women, mean girls. It’s always a setup before they attempt to humiliate you or get others to treat you poorly since they are so mean.

My dad’s mom is the worst narcissist I’d encountered growing up. I went no contact several times as a kid. My cousins hated me because she was so nice to me and hateful to them. My dad was her only son. I saw what was happening early on. The relationships with my cousins never recovered even though I removed myself from the situation.

It’s like they choose certain people to destroy any potential for a support system very early. They get people to hate you because of their behavior.

[Davinblatan]

They are fake and shallow inside. Leave them alone if you can and focus on your life as much as you can ❤