What if your partner doesn't want a baby and you do?

[dergluckliche]

Then break up. No way to compromise on the life-long commitment of a kid.

[sararichardson]

I'm going through this right now. My boyfriend and I are so utterly in love and couldn't imagine our lives without each other but he doesn't want to ever have children and I do. I don't want kids right now but having children is something I feel very strongly about and he feels very strongly about not having kids. We've had several in depth conversation on this topic. We both aren't willing to break up right now over this. We're only a year and a half into the relationship but very serious and committed. I'd rather live our life together and cross that bridge when we get there. But that's so unfair for both of us as well. It breaks my heart so so much. I don't know if I could live without starting a family one day. I also don't know if I could live my life without my partner. I'm so so lost in what we should do. I pray so so much that he will change or that maybe I'd end up being able to give up my dream of having kids. I'm not ready to let go of this relationship.

[ReginaGrace]

I adore my partner very much but she doesn’t want a child. I eagerly want a baby and show it the beautiful world. The reason I have worked so hard is to give my future baby a good life. I feel stuck and regrets having spent 3 years for this relationship.

[phillmarshall]

Then accept his decision? It’s unfair to push.

[crazymic]

Probably should've discussed this before getting married, just sayin'.

[birbbirb]

I'm 35 now and we were together since I was in my 20s. It was always later later later. Now he has accomplished little and still has a grand future. My dad is dying and won't see his grandchildren. I don't want a damaged child bc of my maternal age. This has destroyed me and he doesn't understand. I have nothing. I feel like I'm going to die.

[jeffreyburney]

That’s exactly why I had a vasectomy done. I made that decision as a single man of course I have children but I wanted to take that option off the table. I can never see myself ever having any children with any woman ever again. I’ve made my decision it works well for me. I will tell women straight when we start dating but I do not wish to have any kids if they bring the subject up.

[hellobot]

How about you don't push people into having a baby? If they don't want kids don't force them to have kids. They will hate them and you for trapping them

[russelwestborked]

My partner and I both started as "maybes" when we first started dating four years ago. Unfortunately we have both gradually moved to complete opposite positions on this topic. It's heartbreaking because I think we have to end the relationship over it. Everything else in the relationship is great and she is the most amazing woman.... But I fear resentment on both sides.

[russellakm]

6 years ago when I was a teenager I would never have searched or watch this video, now here I am. Lately I have been seeing someone, and we've had a few deep conversations as to what what we expect of a potential relationship - marriage. Last evening I mentioned about would like to have kids and she didn't seem very ok with that.
I did not want to open up that much on that topic, so I plaid it off. Since last nigh I have felt really depressed and I just start to realize it's better I talk this out with her once and for all before emotions get too strong and we can't handle it anymore. I think I just have to be straight up with her from the start.

[leosicairos]

Most people are just bad at choosing a partner. For both women and men, it really comes down to what you want from a relationship. You have to make your intentions clear from the start.

[afrosamurai]

The first decision is if you can financially have a baby.

[criscorny]

I am in the middle of my heart breaking abortion. I keep weeping. I don’t even want to be with my partner anymore. Just because he didnt own up and became a protector of our purest love. To me that has been completely uncomforting. I don’t feel like I love this person anymore. And now my dream of marrying him has vanished. I really regret not having my baby right now. I am also regreting being in this relationship. I didnt think I was wasting my time. And I thought aborting was going to make us happy, but now I feel so bad. I don’t want to be in this. I am so hurt. I feel rejected and like a piece of meat. This man is not for me.

[GuitaristGuyJames]

I can’t say this enough guys, if you don’t know you want kids get a vasectomy. Better then her using birth control and it’s reversible. Otherwise you are highly at risk of getting into something you don’t want. kids don’t come with a return policy.

[jasonsmith]

This should be the first question on your first date.

[wassclewabbit]

Going through this now. My partner wants a baby I do not

[raleshkumar]

This issue has really brought my dating life to a halt. I strongly believe that I never want kids.. my last 3 serious relationships have all ended due to the fact that the women couldn't see a life with me without starting a family.. I'm starting to feel like I have to either live My life alone or I will have to put my views aside and have a child because the person I love wants one as Im feeling like I won't really find someone that shares my views.

[speakfreeley]

The answer is simple. You're not compatible.

[blafonovision]

If you disagree on progeny, you need to break up. Simple.

[zigzag]

My partner already has a child from previous relationship and I don’t. I’m in a stage in my life where I desperately want a baby and he says he’s not ready. I’m 30yrs and I feel like my life is on hold. I want to move on but I love him