When You're Not Attracted To Your Partner

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If you're not attracted to your partner, and that has become a big problem in the relationship for you, you have to either accept it, or get moving.

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[ste]

Option 4. Put your marriage first and openly share with your spouse how you feel and discuss if there are ways to help you feel more attracted to them again.

[mtenda]

The problem with this as a blanket statement is that it happens to everyone in every relationship at some point. If the attraction was once there, it can come back with some work from both parties. Not saying it always will and you should never leave, but if we automatically leave for this reason, we will all always eventually leave.

[planbmindset]

I'm battling this, but not because she's unattractive, she's literally gorgeous, but her attitude and how she treats others has turned me off.

[alexandrasalvagni]

My issue is- I’m worried about affecting my child

[ste]

This lady is poor advice. She has ignored or overlooked Option 4. which is to put your marriage first by openly sharing with your spouse how you feel, both recognise that the nature of the relationship changes over time and what you can do to become more attracted to eachother again.

[busybecomingmyself]

Remember that feelings come and go. Love is not an emotion. Attraction waxes and wanes. Relationships are work. Love is a decision. One that you and no one else can make. Just make sure you're not listening to the fake ideas of limerance that as dressed up as love in love songs and Hollywood. You're just chasing mirages if you are.

[skyriminspace]

Part of me gets this & your honesty is a breath of fresh air so props for that!

But another part of me thinks it's my own low self-esteem/unworthiness that is the root cause. I can't change her but i can change myself & somehow then my experience of her/us will change accordingly.

[mohammedalenazi]

lol good luck finding new partner every time you got board.

[mach]

Selfish world.. self gratification is why the world and marriages are going to hell..

[GAFB]

Here is the rub with her video. What if you are attracted to your spouse then bam the person gets a disease or is injured in a terrible accident and they lose their looks, hmmm.

This is why relationships need to be more than skin deep. The person who will be there while you go thru chemo therapy is a keeper!

Fyi... sometimes it feels that parents and their children are the only ones who can see past the wrinkles and scars or loss of hair or for lack of a better word, "the ugly".

[CULT]

Yea. How about option 4. Figure out if you’re attracted to someone before you marry them ffs.

[boardtodeath]

I woman can be a super model and if she doesn’t keep herself clean it can absolutely destroy attraction. If your hubby was once attracted to you, it is possible to get it back. Stop being lazy, making up excuses and just lose the weight. Get toned, slender and buy a tanning bed. That would solve most of your life’s problems. If a women is overweight, it permeates in every aspect of her life and all her insecurities stem from how she feels. Support her and do what you can to help her reach her goal. This is the only way.

[Roxee]

I disagree with this. People need to work on what caused the disconnect... It can be healed and attraction can absolutely come back. Your 3 options are lacking anything positive

[sarakoob]

Wait why did you marry a guy that you weren’t attracted to was it because he had money

[bradleyfitzgerald]

This is what is wrong with the world!! Its all about this why our kids are so messed up now. Marriage is a eternal commitment for better or worse. Selfish point of view. Sad

[timtyler]

I agree with her. If you married someone that you were never really attracted to, it's a high chance that you never will be. You shouldn't go through life faking it. You both will be miserable.

[garyr]

Same is true for men but they take nothing but heat for it
Women should always go with what they feel
And men
Just suck it up right?
If you leave you are labeled
If she leaves
She’s free to be her best self

[jeffreydavid]

This will happen in every single marriage. Marriage is through thick and thin, attracted to them not attracted to them. It's a life long comittment. You work on it. If you feel you deserve to always be with the hottest, most attractive man always for the rest of your life, you will never be happy. Attraction fades really fast.

[GrymeJr]

Arent you supposed to be attracted before you hop the broom?

[HrcoslaF]

Women file for divorces at 70% of couples. And you guys need coaching? Yes, yes you do...