Love You But Not In Love With You

Have you been told by your boyfriend, girlfriend or partner that they love you but are not in love with you?

In this video Coach Lee answers the question, "What does it mean when my ex says they love me but are not in love with me?"

It's a painful thing to hear from someone you are in love with but Coach Lee explains what it means and how you can respond in word and action to get back with the one you love.

As Coach Lee explains, it most often means that this person still cares about you as a person but doesn't feel for you what a lover would.

It means that emotional attraction for you has fallen, possibly due to your over-pursuit of this person.

You can still get them back, but you will need to follow Coach Lee's suggestions as closely as possible.

Through this and other videos, you can turn the heart of your ex who has said that he or she loves you but is not 'in love' with you.

The key is to rebuild attraction by giving them space, letting them miss you, not showing jealously, and showing attractive traits by improving yourself.

What does that mean and can you get them to be in love with you again?

[kimsikorski]

To me it is the honeymoon stage that people feel in love. Real love is when you choose to keep loving that person and making it work. If you go back 100 yrs ago they just didn't give up and throw the love away they worked on the relationship. Now days people throw away relationships after a few months because that honeymoon feeling isn't there as it once was. You can keep that stage going forever, you just need to work on things and talk to each other and let each other know what the other needs.
I think everyone should read the book called " The 5 Love Languages ". I think if more people would read this book it would help save the relationship.
But that is the point behind my comment, you have to want to.

[lala]

When my ex-husband told me that, it was the most devastating words imaginable. Thank you for this.

[matkrucek]

Coach lee.. we love you, but we’re not in love with you. I hope you understand.

[nathanfotualii]

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a (ESV) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. ... Love never ends

[tllczsf]

I said this to my ex when I broke up with him 2 years ago. I was so stupid. I’ve loved him till this day. Dont trust your ex 100%. To remind them that they love you, you must go NC.

[Longbyname]

Lee, this is me signing off.

After two months of no contact, word has got back to me that she has stuck with her decision and there is no hope. I did everything right, just sadly not worked out for me. I’m still in no contact as there is no point of even attempting any form of communication.

So thank you for keeping me going with your videos. They’re helpful and there gonna be very helpful for those in similar positions who may have a chance of reconciliation with their loved ones.

I wish you and everyone else the very best and big success.

[BananaPhone]

My ex told me "I dont love you. I woke up one morning and didnt feel anything." a year and a half into the relationship. This was On July 7th, nearly two months ago. Started No Contact a week afterwards when she told me "I wasnt happy, move on." This break up was out of the blue, we never fought, never disrespected each other in any way. She said i love you like a week before she left me, and always promised she'd tell me if i ever made her mad or upset. I struggle to understand how such a beautiful thing can come to an end so quickly. Her lack of feeling or empathy destroyed me and i am now living the rest of my life making sure she made the wrong decision. I fell in love with this girl and wanted a future with her, and i still do.

[MrQuagmire]

It often means that she cares about us (love as in caring), but are just no longer infatuated. That initial "in love" stage or honeymoon stage is ultimately sexual attraction/infatuation. Finding a good partner is also about identifying red flags. The "feel good" chemical can blind us and contribute to us ignoring red flags along the way. Love is eventually about finding a partner that we can stand being around long term.

[marcvslicinivscrassvs]

What he is describing about the addictive feelings is the prime reason you need to go at least one month no contact

[tonymontana]

if you really love a person, no matter what you will be together, through thick and thin. (obviously not when partner is abusive) these days, love is only for few months or years. then break up. when we ask the reason for the break up, no answers given!! wtf!

[reneesimmons]

Be careful when you do go no contact and they reach out only to dump you again. Lesson learned big time!

[ashvee]

My boyfriend of 6 years recently broke up with me about a week ago & I feel like I’m dying inside ever since then. He told me that he doesn’t feel like how he did before & wanted to focus on himself. I exhausted every effort to get them back. But I realized I can’t force them to love me. I’m glad I stumbled upon this video. I needed explanations and this helped me understand. I think i am ready to back away and move on. Even if it doesn’t work out like I want to in the end, hopefully during this no contact I will become stronger & it’ll be able to let go.

[beerguzzler]

Exactly what my ex-wife said to me After sharing our lives for 10years it felt like a knife going in me. Once I found out she cheated I wanted out more than her! I will never marry again!

[Phadasmagoria]

Coach Lee, thank you very much about this no contact "tactic".

After 7 years of relationship and after 2 months that we moved to live together, she wasn't feeling ok with us and ask me if would be ok with leaving her alone for 1-2 weeks to be ok with herself.

After 1 month of her asking me to leave her alone, we arranged a meeting to talk. After some pressure from my side she said the : "I love you but i think I am not in love with you".

That was one of the toughest moments of my life until now, I am 34 and I was speechless I think for about 15 minutes at that moment.

After that, I was extremely lucky to woke up on this video of you and battle with the only weapon I could use, the "no contact rule".

I added something more that i think it helped a lot too. I left her a message that I came to the house to pick some things up because I was planning a vacation week with a friend of mine and I wish her a good summer time (wasn't true).

After around 3 weeks, she reached out to me that she can't live without me anymore and she want me back to house with her if I still want her.

We won :) . Now I don't know what i will do because the hard thing is that she broke my heart even if she sent the message to be together again. A knife in the hard like this "I love you but I am not in love with you" I guess need a lot of time of healing.

Anyways, I want to thank you for helping me with this great idea and video, because when you are inside a tough situation you can't see things clear enough and you were my angel :)

God bless you and good luck for you and all people that going through this very tough situation.

[Alden]

The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her.

- Bob Marley

[luismiguelferrao]

Lee. How about a video about how to show your ex you’ve changed?

[Whistleblow]

When I hear that intro and outgrow BGM, I just feel everything is gonna eventually be okay.

[BlackChanal]

your experience is crazy, half of the videos describe the situation perfectly.
humans are more simple than i thought

[Nickname]

Thank you, Lee. Your videos didn't help me to get my ex back but they did make me understand her more. I've realised now she's either a borderline nymphomaniac or a narcissist. Either way, I'm pretty sure I'm better off without her now.

[slw]

I've used no contact before and it does work, it's such a good feeling to be back with a ex. But, during no contact, I learned to let go, and a part of me couldn't go back to the relationship I had before. I knew the relationship had problems, and would return if we didn't change. I split up with this person more then once. It's too painful to go back and forth, and I got use to letting go until one day I didn't want to go back. I felt nothing. I finally let go all of me. I learned problems that exist in relationships don't go away unless we meet them head on, or we risk loosing..