How to become mysterious & stop oversharing

[ani]

I used to be someone who overshared EVERYTHING. I had a crush ? I shared it. Feeling down ? I shared it. Felt insecure ? I shared it. I‘m having a argument with someone ? I shared it. Someone broke my heart & trust ? I shared it. It got to a point where this oversharing thing kicked me in my butt. People started to switch up on me and broke my trust by sharing my secrets with people who shouldn’t be in my business. Or people talked shit behind my back but were friendly in my face. Some didn’t even care about what I had to say or what I’m going through. I’m pretty much on my own for a year now and I wouldn’t want to go back.

[LakhveerSingh-tjtn]

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[parlauchiha]

oversharing makes people feel so close to the point you see everyone easily disrespect you

[sukkubuz]

theWizardliz and Alessia saved my life

[chrisdoodles]

Omg volumous hair fits her so well omg

[sevvvenup]

Time stamps / lessons:
0:55 - 1. Dont be an unauthentic try hard.
2:12 - 2. Find out WHY you overshare.
4:15 - 3. The truth about gossiping.
7:12 - 4. Know what to share with whom.
8:42 - 5. Give people the feeling that they know a lot about you - when in fact, they dont.
9:32 - 6. Stop sharing your plans, let your success speak.
12:09 - 7. Give people the opportunity to fantasize about you.
14:50 - 8. The benefits of being mysterious.
17:15 - 9. Talk through actions rather than words.

[rikithgenitboy]

Trust me when I say becoming mysterious and keeping your peace WILL end up making you lose friends. I've lost so many friends and people keep thinking I'm acting emo or smth. This really shows who your real friends are.

[lkeyy]

documenting things that i've learned

1. don't "try" to be mysterious, ppl can tell ur energy whether ur being a tryhard or not
2. when u overshare ask urself, "why do i overshare"
3. never gossip when talking abt someone say only nice things
4. only tell private information/tramuas to close friends, not everyone needs to know
5. don't share things for the shake of sharing ppl, ppl will use it aganist u
6. make people feel like they know u without oversharing
7. don't be the cliche "mysterious girl" talk with people, share interests
8. evil eye is real be careful what u tell ppl
9. never talk abt future plans/goals
10. give ppl the option to fanticize abt u
11. don't give urself up to ppl just bc ur getting to know abt them, let them find out abt u
12. ppl will value u more when ur mysterious
13. actions speak louder than words/the more u do the better


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[aeslehc]

Yup I don’t speak on things prematurely anymore. Keeping things to myself is a great feeling. Now I just do what I want and keep my mouth shut. Side note : keeping secrets should not be labeled as a bad thing. You’re not obligated to tell your friends and family everything.

[soukabangtan]

I don't even need to watch this video cuz ppl already don't know anything about me except my name and age but I'm just addicted to Alessia's videos 😭

[btscazwhynot]

Yesterday I saw a video which said that God always answer your prayers, you just have to find them. It even said that the God can answer you through boards on roads, in your dreams, through another person and alot more. I talked about this to God and realized that God gave me an answer while I was watching a movie on TV - "pulling a rope too hard can break it, a rest is necessary to become strong." I felt so amazed. Now, today, I just realized that this video is an answer by God to me through alessia. THANK YOU GOD AND ALESSIA🙏🏻💗🙏🏻

[Kareena]

People love to talk about themselves. We must find good questions to ask them so that we must not give away our info.

[sillycrazyminion]

It was so hard for me to stop oversharing...as you said, it was my way to cope with not being heard as a child. Shadow work really helped me to acknowledge that and I'm really trying to stop this bad habit. Thank you sm for sharing all your wisdom <3

[nabivr.]

I really had this thing where i overshared everything within a single year just so them to betray me that hard....
Thanks for this i really need to heal this part of myself

[ruemontmartre]

I do it because I don’t know what else to talk about tbh.. Especially with strangers. My social skills aren’t very good and I feel pressured to “keep the convo going”, so I end up sharing personal things even though I’d really prefer to keep it private and it doesn’t feel good.

[dearxdiary]

Alessia this makeup look suits you so much !! 🤍

[diornprada]

she just gets more beautiful every video

[nandinijalan]

I asked, Alessia delivered. Thank you dear. I needed this♥️🙏🏼

[MindsThoughts]

Your mind is as divine as your physical being. Your words are invaluable to everyone especially in the modern age, thank you for sharing your thoughts

[Nananana]

Her points are valid. I grew up in a dysfunctional family and my father side are the most toxic family to exist. I found no one to trust or ran to. They would badmouthed us alot. Besides this my mother is emotionally abusive who made me more confused.And I grow up to be an oversharer. I just want comfort. I want someone to listen to me. And all I attract was toxic boys and friends. Now I just exist on my own. Be happy in my own life❤