What is STONEWALLING andWhy Do Narcissists Do It?#narcissist #npd #shorts #cptsd #redflags

[anthonybanks]

If your in a relationship with a true narc leave because they can never change

[michelealexander]

"You cannot wake up someone who is pretending to sleep" is a famous quote.

[WWlogics]

Mine started to hum or turn the music up when I tried to talk. I felt like I was trying to talk to a child having a tantrum.

[ritamccormick]

They dont like to be confronted, because they don't have time to think of lies or excuses for what they did, especially if you have questions after questions. They didn't seem to have a problem continuing doing wrong.

[calvarado]

If they stonewall you……return the favor and find a way out asap because it will not get any better.

[reasy]

Thats a blessing in disguise. Cut them off and live happy.

[mickyj]

They can dish it, but they can’t take it!! 😔

[michaelclark]

I refuse to waste my breath on someone who obviously isn't interested in hearing what l have to say. The moment I become aware that I'm talking to a stone wall I will cease trying to pursue that one sided conversation any further. END OF DISCUSSION!

[CTSCAPER]

Not communicating is communicating with someone. If someone refuses to talk to you, or respond to you, let them be and go on with your life. Preferably, not around them.

[denbink]

Exiting a conversation as if to run away to avoid having to explain themselves.

[sharon_rose]

I had reconnected with an ex who I've been friends with since we were teens. We've had a very rocky road, toxic cycles. After a year no contact, we started talking as friends. Long story short, after claiming he wanted to have a family with me, he loved me and was sorry for not appreciating me in the past and that he had changed (he had a baby with a woman he dated a few months while we were no contact. She moved out of state. He claims it was a wake up call that he wants to have a cohesive, loving family)... A month later, I realized he was gaslighting me with music. He'd send me songs with deep lyrics about how he was always meant to fall in love with me, it was written in the stars.. and then tell me I was overthinking the fact that they meant something, just pretty songs. He knew that would hurt me. Music has always been a connection between us. As soon as I asked if he was doing that on purpose... Immediate discard. Said with everything he has on his plate, he "doesn't need another headache from another woman. Good luck (his goodbye)." Gone. Didn't even address what I asked. Serious whiplash from wanting a family to just tossed in the garbage. But I finally can see there isn't, and never was, love there. That always kept me going back. I'm so glad I confronted him and he took off like a child, like usual. No more Stockholm syndrome here.

[nancyarchibald]

I live with chronic pain. Bones, joints, muscles. Arthritis is up my spine, wrists are starting to flare...anyway, I had heard someone explain that adults who live with pain and need pain meds to survive are often times victims of narcissistic abuse and loads of trauma in their youth. My adopted mother is a full blown narcissist. She was so vile and abusive my whole childhood. There may be truth to this.

[seventhson]

My ex was a MASTER at blaming ME for problems that SHE created. Unfortunately she raised our daughter to be just like her.

[novakandfaith]

It's horrific form of abuse. According to how Jill describes it I've lived through it.

[BelovedbyAdonai]

This is one of their favorite tools they use. And often.

[ND-orso]

Yes and that is abuse. All the above happened to me from one covert narc for 9 years. I've never been treated like that in my life. I'm wondering why they are so mental and feel the need to hurt all the time. When they say narcissists hurt because they are hurting it doesn't make the best of sense to me.

[desertweasel]

I find stone walling to be very effective TOWARDS a narcissistic person. For example, a narcissistic neighbor who constantly tries to draw you into drama or an argument by gaslighting and harassing you. Act as though they do not exist and it drives them insane. They actually lose interest in this way as well. They'll try to break this silence by turing up the drama, but eventually they must have supply so they move on.

[MyParis]

This is the tactic I feel hurt me the most. My step mother did this to me. All the variations and as I child it made me feel guilty and that I had to work so hard to be acknowledged and to get back into her good graces as if my existences depended on her treatment of me becoming better. As a young adult I dated emotionally unavailable and some very emotionally abusive men for years untill I realized I deserve better.

[philiporr]

When hope and reason proves worthless to the hopelessly unreasonable, then all that's left are hopelessly unreasonable actions.

[petermcgill]

This has happened to me to. I find it incredibly provoking