Proven Ways To Stop Stonewalling & Gaslighting | It’s Not What You Think

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In this week's video, I show you the 6 steps you need to take yourself through to respond to gaslighting and stonewalling properly...

- Pivoting away

- Logically pinpointing the root of that resistance

- Changing your perspective

- Understanding her psyche

- Flipping the script

Through my years of being a relationship coach, I've guided my clients through every possible scenario and given them the tools they need to not only rebuild trust, but to take their relationship to heights it's never been before.

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[GeoffreySetiawan]

Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)

[ChnaVirus]

My lady and I split up a month ago. She became emotionally detached from me, she didn’t know what she wanted, when I asked her questions all I got was “I don’t know”. I started watching Geoff, and quickly started studying his work like a book. Becoming a better person for ME, not to get back with her. The BPV, emotional safety she stopped feeling, changing my interpretations, etc. Geoff made me realize that our problems weren’t because she didn’t love me or care anymore. I was not the good partner for the last 2 years that I should’ve been. Last couple weeks I’ve been studying his videos, and Friday I ended up getting ahold of her, and we spoke face to face for 7 hours straight. It’s crazy if you walk into a conversation with a clear mind and your guard down, it will go along way. Thank you Geoff. I’m going to keep working on myself, and if she wants to be a part of it my door will be open for her.

[agape]

THE best explanation I’ve heard thus far on this subject, hands down!!

[all_alone_]

My partner and I are in a long distance relationship. It's been a month since we broke up, and during the whole time I begged and pleaded him to stay, and now he doesn't want to talk to me.

Thanks for these videos, geoff. I want more than anything to save this relationship and rekindle our love. Through this videos I stopped thinking I'm the victim and started looking inwards and found all the times I broke the trust and safety. Right now, I'm simply giving him space and planting seeds. He doesn't want to talk to me but I've been unblocked, I know there's still hope but I know now it takes time and effort.

Continue making great videos. These have helped me alot.

[dhruvchopra]

Hey Geoff! I've been watching a lot of your videos recently since my long distance gf asked for space. I admit I acted very needily, and now finally understand what all I could've done to avoid this situation, and what all I should do when she comes back. I just wanted to request you to make more such videos on long distance relationships, and how to deal with stonewalling in such scenarios.

[victoriaoshea]

Very helpful insightful and unique insights
This video is so packed. I have to go back and watch It again.

[TeamTNTunicorn]

Hey Geoff! I'd love to see a video covering starting new relationships in the context of building things like emotional and psychological safety and avoiding creating these issues when starting anew. I have gotten great value from your channel already, I think it would be interesting to explore the same principles from the perspective of dating, especially with an abundance mindset. would certainly be a great video to see from you right now!

[toddallison]

Powerful stuff G! There is so much FAE that leads to this negative feedback loop you mention. Recognizing this breaks through the behavior of stonewalling/gaslighting.

[SusanaXpeaceu]

My parents do this to me and in my relationships (single now thankfully) I ended up with boyfriends who did the same thing. I know it's connected. People raised by healthy parents would walk away the first time somebody treats them like this but unfortunately I thought 'oh I hope one day I can be good enough' or 'oh i hope one day I can make them Nope.

[imagegotbeats]

Yoooo this video is a must!!! Now I see my why people fail at reconciliation because they don’t have these key ingredients to make the relationship work!!! Geoffrey brother you are beast 🫡🙏🏾💯

[christopherjbenjamin]

Hey Geoffrey I have been following your channel and watched alot of your videos. I must say they are phenomenal.
They have help me so much in seeing a clear path going forward and buliding healty relationships.

Do you have any video for couples who wants to better themself for a thriving relationship in the future having making a mutual decision to be separated after an abusive relationship?

[cheeky_monkey_No]

My partner tells me her reason is because she is too pissed and feels like she cannot even look at me, let alone speak to me... I think that is space?

[biersmorgen]

Thanks geoff i cannot pay for the course im going to create safety by just being my new self and using i statements and leaning in better

[dragonroastednuts]

Being told that she will never talk to be again, other than that she's silent or has a go at me to I'm staying silent

[mginkul]

What if your partner has BPD? I've been working hard on myself, and spent the last year writing down the conversations when we've argued, in an effort to see *why* they happen, and what I can do differently. I do my best to listen with the purpose of understanding, to treat him kindly, lovingly, and without resentment regardless of his behavior. He is in an intense 6-month episode of idealization/devaluation of a neighbor, and that very much affects his mindset. I feel like I understand him, but he is too afraid and emotionally wrapped up to understand me.

[ahmedshah]

My partner has said she doesn't like receiving sympathy / consolation from other people and finds it annoying so she avoids opening up since she dislikes sympathy. She's had trust issues from past friendships etc and from me aswell in the past . So is this hating sympathy/consolation thing a lack of trust issue

[godwinbaidoo]

Hi Geoffrey thanks for your good works, but I'm in a distance relationship and I'm facing stonewalling, she doesn't want to talk about anything, she barely answers my calls and gives straight answers to text messages. She told me a month ago she has lost interest in the relationship and she is out. Now what do I do

[deepupreetam]

hey geoff! does ex tests in many ways while getting back togeather

[nikhilghule]

Its been 8 months since my GF broke up and ive been following you since then. She says she trusts me a lot more and feels really nice to spend time with me but wants to remain friends and not date. We were together for 5 years what do you suggest i do(I am afraid to get FRIENDZONED forever)

[justme-soen]

My ex and I split cause she was going back to school and work, yes I supported her . When she started going to school again she went in her own lil bubble and barely talked to anyone . She even said to me please wait for me and told me she gets this way when in school has done it all her life, now after 12 months of getting her doctrine it’s gotten worse and she’s doing it to everyone her family her friends and even me yeah she will answer me but light conversations and she won’t initiate anything. After 6 months of this I left her house where I was living at the time to go my home, help my parents and work on my house 6 months later we are now ex’s and she’s still doing the same thing just work and school . I’ve decided not to wait for her and let us both dour thing but some days it’s sad cause we had such a connection went on a trip to California and so much more and after two years it’s just gone . I still love her and i know how important this is to her and I guess maybe it wasn’t the right time or place for us if we are ment to be so be it . I tried for 7 months of gas lighting her being busy all the time and her putting work and school first but in the end it I have to do what’s right for me . I know men or the other member in the relationship are suppose to support and want the best for them but sometimes I wonder did I do the right thing?