4 Signs You're NOT 'Messy', It's Your Trauma

Have you been called a messy person? Perhaps by your parents? Did you know that being messy could also be linked to signs of depression or even past traumatic experiences? In this video, we explore the psychology behind trauma and messiness.

Writer: Morgan Swift
Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera @amandasilvera
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

Discount code: "Loyalty" to get 15% off. Only first 50 people.

[Psychgo]

Thank you to everyone who helped out with the last favour!

[EcpliseCrow]

✨Timestamps and Major Points✨
1. 0:31 Protective Barrier
2. 1:00 A needed Distraction
3. 1:35 Your Brain
4. 2:13 Losing Control
5. 2:48 Not alone

Apparently it was 5 signs not 4.

[sirdavidoftor]

As a person with C Ptsd, I really relate to this video. I live alone, so my apartment is extremely messy, cluttered.
I really want it to be uncluttered, but I find comfort in the look. I feel that it reflects my mind frame.
As I heal, and I deal with my memories and feelings, I find it easier to clean, and reclaim my living space!
Thank you for this video!
Stay safe, stay sane, stay strong!

[CryingAutumn]

My cat is being very cute right now. I love my cat.

[jenniferbates]

As a person with ADHD, plus trauma issues. Object permanence is a thing with ADHD, I need to see everything to know that they exist, which then creates clutter.

[NarcSurvivor]

A lot of our feelings, emotions, actions and behaviours are in response and to our trauma. Until we finally take the time to heal and then we can respond to our true selves and develop our own separate identity.

[NemFX]

"Sometimes clutter can feel like a protective barrier"

Ma'am. I assure you. My clutter IS a protective barrier. In the event of zombies, I'm safer than most, cause most people wouldn't be able to get to me. Drop their intelligence to zombie levels, and they have no chance.

[teddyroon]

Special thanks for this one; I'm not necessarily a hoarder but I am hyper-sensitive and find it hard to let go of things that link me to the past. Nostalgia for happier times when I wasn't so alone.

[bdugtvb]

Messes in your mind translate to your surroundings.

[robotrix]

Can someone explain this to all offices of Section 8 inspectors around the country? People who act like if there's any sign that a person lives in your home when they come that you're a "hoarder" or a "slob"? Or act like cardboard boxes used for storage pose a danger of spontaneous combustion?
Every year it's the same crap.

[stohandmadejewelrycraftcorner]

Thank you so much for this information. I started seeing the clutter pile up, but I didn’t know why. I thought that I was just lazy, but I just couldn’t get it together. Now, I know why. Also, I recently learned that I have autism. I am definitely processing a whole lot right now in addition to the severe childhood trauma and CPTSD.

[artisticalex]

I’m going so much depression right now and these videos always make me feel better.

[benkiiiii]

These videos really help me understand myself and others, thank you for creating these videos and explaining it in a simple and easy to understand way!♡

[notthetrueNic]

The mess, in my case, is also a consequence of cleaning-related trauma. Coming home from school to a "tidy" bedroom meant things of mine were thrown out or given away without my consent, and I didn't feel safe in my room if it was tidy.

Two guesses if that gets in the way of "being organized" and the first one doesn't count.

[karlivanr]

No wonder things that are around me are a bit messy, this video perfectly summed up what I'm currently experiencing. I got teary eyed as I watched the video because idk what went wrong with me suddenly as I'm feeling everything all at once. I feel like my friends are going their ways, I get sad by the slightest circumstance, I want to be with my girlfriend always, I feel like everyone dislikes me for no reason... and yeah, idk why I got suddenly like this. I was okay the last month and things took a 180 degree turn.

Feels like I have nobody, I want to do things alone like go out and eat, but at the same time it feels like it emphasizes my loneliness more... damn, life is hard. All of a sudden I am in solitude and now I get frustrated over the smallest things.

[hisatosimbol]

The past few months I have noticed that I am not myself anymore. One of the things that I noticed is that I no longer clean the house, tidy up the kitchen, and when I do so it takes a lot of courage to even put away a single dish. I’m not fond of cleaning but seeing a clean house makes me feel motivated, however nowadays I can’t even stand to see a clean spot. The good news is I know what’s causing my mental health to spiral downwards and I even know how to fix it, bad news is I also can’t bring myself to do so. It is my final obstacle from leading a happy life but it’s also the hardest and most painful one yet and it hurts so much.

[charlotte_stevens]

These videos are so helpful without being excessively long or overwhelming! Plus I love, love, love Amanda's voice. Thank you! ❤

[SweetUniverse]

Having a super judgmental family doesn't make you feel any better, either

[anaporres]

I always thought I was the only one feeling this way, then get more depressed because my husband calls me lazy 😢 … thank you for sharing this video with us, I’m going to start looking for help for mental issues ( I am Bipolar)

[sanjuktasahoo]

Watching your videos somehow makes me feel so much better and positive. Thanks for your lovely videos 🥰