How To Make A Rude Person Wish They Never Insulted You

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Today we’ll go over how to handle it when someone insults you.

We’ll start with a few comebacks that are great at winning over a crowd and embarrassing the person who insulted you. The downside is they can make the target of your comeback hate you.

Then we’ll cover some friendlier, more charismatic responses so you come away looking cool and confident without making enemies.


⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰

0:00 - Intro
0:15 - #1: Use an Aikido insult
0:42 - #2: Point out they're easy to dislike
1:24 - #3: Use a Trojan Horse compliment
1:52 - #4: Genuinely compliment the insult
2:20 - #5: Assume positive intent
3:13 - #6: Agree and exaggerate
4:24 - #7: Be non-reactive
4:33 - #8: Call out their behavior
5:41 - #9: Just walk away
6:06 - #10: Draw a boundary

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[creeper]

"If you'll forgive me for not answering that question I'll forgive you for asking it."
Miss Manners

[nopigeon]

My best comeback - About 40 years ago a friend of my husband's said to me, "You'd look better if you wore makeup."
I replied, "So would you."

[CoolPapaJMagik]

There are times when making enemies is the right thing to do

[Firenutz]

Learning to be teased and to tease without descending into bullying is one of the most subtly vital human interplays. It is what allows us to show both vulnerability and strength while preventing us from clubbing each other to death.

[edjavas]

Not reacting is such a powerful move. You strip the offender of their power.

[SanUnfiltered]

Having a conversation after watching these videos feels like a chess game

[brandonjames]

I got insulted once by this guy who was fairly high up in the echelon of the company I worked with and just flatly looked at the guy who insulted me and said calmly; "You know, that might mean something to me if I only remembered your name."

[sammarks]

"If you could meet yourself, you would hate it" is just... muah. Theo Von is just so good!

[drspicy]

Perfect timing as I jump back into customer service.

[jakewwwjake]

My favorite method for a bully’s insult: Smile and pretend like you didn’t hear it, repeatedly.

Just keep saying “what?” “I didn’t catch that” “could you speak up?”. They either give up quickly or become livid and walk away looking like a fool or double down and embarrass themselves further

Or they hit you.

[monkeymoo]

walking away is a great tool. sometimes you try all these tactics and the rude person (usually jealous / insecure of you) will still try and attack you. Leaving is simply the best option sometimes. You don't ever want to spend time with truly toxic people anyways

[AzariahWolf]

Love or hate Ben Shapiro, but "That was mildly inappropriate" is a legendary response to a physical threat.

[rxw]

Theo has one of the quickest wits of all time. But “if you could ever meet yourself you’d hate it” and “I’m so used to you telling bad jokes I almost didn’t listen… that was hilarious” were both brutal and applicable to any situation.

[ThoughtForTheDay.]

I am a senior executive woman who works in a male-dominated profession. I have learned to be a good listener. a person of few words, and a master of relatively neutral one liners that inspire deeper thinking. Over the years I have been the "casual target" of condescending remarks and demeaning, dismissive discounts of my expert or astute comments about operational issues and current events. My reaction is to look very openly and directly at the commenter and pleasantly maintain eye contact for as long as it takes to create a shift in their demeanor. Once, a female colleague disturbed about my lack of reaction, was compelled to say, "Are you aware he just insulted you?!" I looked at her incredulously and said, " I AM!' And returned to silently observing him as a human being. He was so rocked by the focused attention that he muttered something that sounded like closure and wandered off to another group. He was never disrespectful again in future business meetings, to me or anyone else.

[elizabeth]

I don't like giving a green light to insults. Laughing & making a joke just invites them to insult you again in the future and call it 'banter'. I much prefer the boundary method; make it clear that I won't tolerate certain behaviours now or in the future. I don't really care about how I come across doing that, because trying to be 'likeable' all of the time despite being insulted... well that's called people pleasing and it's not great.

[TheMusicscotty]

I can't tell you how much I love this channel. I watch every one of these. They're remarkable.

[SanUnfiltered]

0:00 - Intro
0:15 - #1: Use an Aikido insult
0:42 - #2: Point out they're easy to dislike
1:24 - #3: Use a Trojan Horse compliment
1:52 - #4: Genuinely compliment the insult
2:20 - #5: Assume positive intent
3:13 - #6: Agree and exaggerate
4:24 - #7: Be non-reactive
4:33 - #8: Call out their behavior
5:41 - #9: Just walk away
6:06 - #10: Draw a boundary

[violetrogue]

I am a very mousy person whose face gets hot and red with any confrontation but these options help me be able to have confidence and I now get to decide how to react taking the power away from those around me with ill intentions so thank you very much 😊

[jaconni]

My father used to insult me multiple times a day, my sister, and my mother included and called it “playing.” He was bullying and when it hurt too much I cried because I was emotionally distraught as a kid to hear these things from the “powerful figure” of the family. He would say I was too sensitive and couldn’t “play.”

Now, since we’ve all checked him for his inappropriate reactions, he tries using power plays that are harmful to other aspects of our lives. AKA threatening to cut us off the family for something or something financial benefiting our future. I walked away this year. I told my mother I will not be insulted after all the work I did internally growing up just to be experiencing his toxicity again because she decides to stay with him. She understands, but thinks I need to be patient with him because he had childhood trauma. 1–He’s not working on healing that. And 2–he is still passing it down to his family. This is why I have friends as my chosen family.

[MrGriffinTalks]

My personal tactic is to just completely ignore the insult and just continue with the rest of the theme. Then just ghost the person infringing everyone and only respond to other peoples talking points. Just edge them out of the conversation.