7 Things I Wish I Knew About Dating In My 20s

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There’s no rule book for how to have an incredible relationship. And that means that a lot of us (myself included) make tons of mistakes.

I’m turning 32 on October 5th. And as I look back on the last decade or so, I realize that I’ve done some things wrong. Which is why in this video I want to share with you 7 things I wish I knew in my 20s.

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0:31 - #1: People change because of internal motivation.
2:01 - #2: Chemistry is a phase.
2:24 - #3: People who are fundamentally friends have the strongest relationships.
3:49 - #4: Duration is a bad measure of quality.
4:47 - #5: Conversation shouldn't have to change when he/she enters the room.
6:01 - #6: Never give up your friendships because of a relationship.
7:24 - #7: You need to show your work emotionally.

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[beccag]

I always feel like this stuff applies to friendships too, not just romantic relationships

[BrainsApplied]

*A golden tip that I learned the hard way:*
Don't be needy, no one likes people that are needy

[omgitsa]

1. People change because is internal motivation

2. Chemistry is a phase

3. People who are fundamentally friends make the best relationship

4. Duration is a bad measure of quality

5. Conversation shouldn't have to change when he/she enters the room

6. Never give up on your friends because of a relationship

7. You need to show your work emotionally

[garychapin]

Dude I can’t believe you’re 32, you look barley over 21 😂😂

[Randyy]

My psychologist was explaining relationships to me after I went through a bad breakup.


He said "let's say these five fingers are the pillars of life. Let's say one is your love life, and the other four are your job, friends, family and hobbies." and he put his fingers on the table. "Let's say you start neglecting your friends, your family, your job and your hobbies" and he lifted up his fingers 1 by 1, so his hand was held up by only one finger. "So what happens when you focus only on your partner and your love life? What happens when one day that goes away as well?"


It was a great visual, it helped me understand a lot of things.

[bloatedsodium]

What about 20 things I wish I knew when I was 7.

[jimmybuttsauce]

Just realized that you have Cameron Diaz’s smile 😂😂

[sebastianrook]

Everyone has their B.S., you have 2 decide what B.S. you can live with, and what you can't.

[RaheemD]

When my big group of friends in sixth form got into relationships and suddenly did double date nights and I started getting invited out less it really messed me up and I resented making new friends for a while (still do not gonna lie). I appreciate you mentioning not to lose your friends when in a relationship. I never understood why someone would only ever want to hang out with just one person all the time. I need a different point of view for interesting conversation and debate.


Great video as usual! Charlie doesn't age because he's living his best life I'm sure of it haha

[MoosieFilms]

I just got out of a 3 year relationship (2 year engagement) and this video was incredibly hard to watch, but reinforced why I know things ended. This was a very painful reality check

[johndawhale]

I'm 22 and I look old enough to be your dad...

[BarChordA]

"A friend is, as it were, a second self."
-Marcus Tullius Cicero

[TheRealHerbaSchmurba]

Oh my god #7 has ruined a past relationship. I rarely communicate how I arrive at conclusions.

[Catalinddm]

I definetly learned a lot of these by practice with my actual wife. Btw, i still try to woo her still. Dating never ends, even when you marry and have kids (i have 3). Cheers, great content.

[ryanwong]

"Observe and speak to your friends"
Bold of you to assume I have any

[itsbishop]

Honesty is the biggest thing for me, I’ve ended seemingly perfect relationships before because I felt like I couldn’t be honest with the girl

[Hubjeep]

1:10 He waited 10 years to drop that requirement on her???

[davecullins]

When Charlie turns 50 in 2037, he'll finally look like he's actually 32 xD

[camerongeller]

You're 32!?!?! I thought you were like 24-25ish.. good skincare routine my guy!

[JaronLukasXYZ]

Communication is the key! You have to be in tune with yourself first, and take chances the right way. I talk about this a lot with my clients and it worked quite well for them.