7 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Dating

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You know those moments where you look back and think, “I wish I’d known then what I know now”? Well, in today’s new video, I share the 7 things I wish I knew back when I was dating. Hopefully you can learn from my mistakes in my 20s and 30s to save yourself extra time (and heartache)!

If you’ve ever found yourself giving more than the other person in your relationship, felt heartbroken that someone doesn’t like you back, or chased the wrong person, you can’t miss this!

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0:00 – 1:47 – Exclusive Giveaway
1:47 – 3:35 – #1 You Are Not for Everyone . . . and That’s OK
3:35 – 5:39 – #2 What We Want vs. What We Need
5:39 – 7:43 – #3 “Hard to Get” Doesn’t Mean “Great to Keep”
7:43 – 9:53 – #4 Intention Is Everything
9:53 – 12:31 – #5 Get Out of the Middle
12:31 – 14:50 – #6 Never Abandon Yourself
14:50 – 17:40 – #7 Right Doesn’t Mean Easy
17:40 – 18:33 – “Love Life” Is Nearly Here!

[heyu]

1. You are not for everyone
2. What we want and what we need are different things
3. Hard to get doesn’t mean great to keep
4. Intention is everything
5. Get out of the middle - be decisive don’t overthink
6. Never abandon yourself for someone you want
7. Just because it’s right doesn’t mean it’ll be easy

[RitaP]

"Instead of devaluing the person who actually wants you, see yourself as Lucky that their hard to get isn't what you're experiencing."

[m.g.]

If someone likes us, that doesn’t matter. What matters is what they want to PURSUE with us. Ugh gold ✨

[shadwabarghash]

from Point 1, there's an Arabic proverb translating to "If it weren't for the variety in people's taste, goods will not get sold."

[talesfromtheroad]

I think the reason people want to be liked/attractive to multiple people is not always an ego thing, but a fear-based thing. If many people see us as 'pizza, ' we might feel more secure that our chances are higher we'll meet a compatible soulmate. But finding a niche one person who loves our niche umi self can feel like a slim chance to many. But a slim chance is still worth hoping for, and makes love all the more miraculous. I'm going to try to be brave and keep showing my 'blue' like Shel Silverstein encouraged 💙

[debsg]

I've watched tons of your videos and I have to say I got the most out of this one!especially the section on never abandoning yourself. I did that for 43 years and I'm now 2 years divorced. I have no idea how to date again, but I'm ever hopeful! Looking forward to your book😊

[missmo]

I always tell me bf “we are not for everyone, and that’s ok”!!! Imagine my surprise when this was #1!

[orielwiggins]

This! The caption nailed it. It's a very unique kinda lonely to be in relationship with folks who don't see and work on their own stuff but seem to think that they can see your stuff clearly at all and use it against you.

[EverGrful]

The sheer *"common sense aspects"* of the advice you present is really outstanding & applicable... Bravo Matthew! 👏👏👏

[NoPisces]

You can’t say the wrong thing to the right person ♥️

[FishareFriendsNotFood]

THIS is all GOLD. Thank you Matthew!! You're a beacon of health in this section of youtube. 🙂

[myjourney]

Love is exhausting
I'm so tired
Men pursue and when we finally get there they regress...
Need to just stop this craziness

[impiusvision]

Number 6 hit me really hard. My previous relationship was at it's best, when I was at my best, when I started to abandon myself for them, that's when everything went downhill.
Sadly I endeded up ending it, I suppose for a 'selfish' reason to rebuild myself as a person and learn to love myself again after I became a shadow of my former self by neglecting myself and my needs, never again will I abandon myself.

How are you supposed to look after anyone, be someones rock and support, when you are barely able to keep it together yourself.

Beautiful video Matthew.

[thefindinglovepodcast]

"Be someone's uni" is such a fabulous piece of dating advice! We absolutely feel the pressure to be everyone's favorite, to be liked and valued by everyone (even if they're not for us). Knowing that you don't have to be for everyone is a liberating piece of advice. There's always someone who doesn't like uni, so find the person who LOVES it!

[denisesiddon]

I've realised I was way too idealistic in the past when younger. It just sets you up for pain and disappointment

So glad ive learned to be more realistic

[prisca]

I was thinking that the right relationship should feel easy and thank you for going deeper on that phrase.Got to reframe my mindset and not get stuck on the "easy " part only

[Foxie]

You are so strong mentally, Mr. H. You also teach us to have morals without preaching. 🎉❤

[raquellau]

I'M GOING TO YOUR RETREAT!! So excited to meet you

[rlk]

Overthinking led to being indecisive. Not progressing the relationship.... I've been in that situationship- maybe that was the reason! great insight

[kanakoslifeinjapan]

I really love hearing you saying Uni "雲丹"😆. Perfect pronunciation! Lots love from Japan