How To Breakup With A Girl Who Is Too Attached To You - The Man Up Show, Ep. 46 (Updated)

For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D. -- a uniquely qualified therapist, life coach, and former university professor -- has coached tens of thousands of people from over 87 countries to achieve happiness and success in their relationships, dating, psychology, and lifestyle. Dr. Tian has been featured in international media, as well as co-hosting a radio show on national radio and a weekly dating advice column in a national newspaper in Singapore.

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This is Man Up, episode 46 and I’m going to be talking about how to break up with a girl who’s too attached to you.

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Masculinity for the Intelligent Man. I am David Tian, Ph.D., and this is: Man Up.

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Hey, man. I’m David Tian, Ph.D. and this is Man Up, episode 46. I’ve got a question from Anthony here. He’s basically asking: How do I breakup with this girl without hurting her too badly? The context here is they were dating for about three months. She wants to get serious, he doesn’t. He wants to break up with her without it getting too weird. Already, he’s saying, she’s causing a lot of drama. She ignores him for a week then just starts pummeling his phone with text messages. Saying, “How could you do this to me?” “I miss you.” “Meet up.”

And then she comes late at night, crying, everything. So, I get that. If she’s following you like that, kind of feeling an intense emotional reactions to you. And you said they were unprovoked kind of emotional reactions, just sort of out of the blue. Just going from ignoring you to – basically, hot and cold, hot and cold. You’ve already gone way past the line of emotional maturity in terms of how to handle this.

So the whole problem needs to be avoided. Right now, you’re in damage control. Not just because it’s the third month. And so you think you’re a little bit in damage control, like you wish you could take back the last two weeks. No, no. You’re in serious damage control. You really messed it up. Most pick-up artists, they don’t know this. The background is – this is from a pick-up artist context. The problem with a pick-up artist is when it comes to relationships – pick-up artist don’t know how to do relationships.

One of the things is a lot of the times they’re just picking up girls for their ego. So they feel like men. So they can be proud of themselves as men. One of the bad byproducts of this is they get into relationships with lots of girls because if they’re successful at picking-up chicks then they’ll be seeing two or three or more women at the same time, more than one night. They might see them multiple occasions. And now you’re in a kind of relationship because once you see a girl for multiple occasions, you’re in a relationship of some kind. Depending on how you set the expectations.

[rockboy]

You can tell them the truth and they'll STILL try to force you into a relationship. Women will always want a relationship as long as you don't want it.

[youarewright]

I've already talked about Breaking up with my girlfriend every week and now it's been 2yrs in our relationship 😥😰

[bw]

I tell her I lost my job and I'm going play video games and watch tv you would not believe how they disappear

[Drk_Hwk]

8 months, this is very much going to hurt but I'm going to trust this is right for me and for her

[shadelyofficial]

The best thing is delete all socials and tell them your gonna focus on yourself then they will get bored of you because most of the time they want a boy to talk with constantly and it will make it impossible for them to contact you

[FrankZen]

If the girl doesn't define her expectations before sex, that's on her. She's an adult too.

[ATaveras]

It's like he's talking directly to me, I'm in the same scenario

[CloudlessStudio]

I got into a relationship too fast after my last one, and im in chernobyl damage control. Im literally pretending to laugh at her jokes 😅

[ley_ng]

I immediately saw this title I fucking clicked on it

[alemannicmark]

Six damn years. I collected my balls to break up this weekend.

[jamesevan]

after watching this, i tried to meet up with her to end our relationship, but she brought a present for me, which is a music box with our photo on it, i couldnt say what i had to say.. :(

[matthewgarcia]

Bro, my girls got some problems and were coming up on three years and its fucking scary, but we need to break up

[iplayrunescape]

What if shes just crazy and didn't seem like that at the start of the relationship because she acted shy?

[gerryannilan]

lol. love that you have to say let her hate you

[tomthorn]

It's really easy. Since she is so attached you have to do it the right way. Simply send her a message that says "Honey, I need you to get your clothes out of my closet. They are too big for my new girlfriend.

[corpse]

More than 2 years..but I think this will help me doing it

[casheivins]

I like another girl more than I like the one I have.I haven’t cheated on her but I don’t know how to breakup with her

[willcee]

3:16 Her name is literally Honesty 💀. What have I done guys

[Tse]

Why am i responsible for what goes on in her mind. And her expectations???

[_neelagarwal]

13 months. I guess this is the right advice. I'mma give it a go