CHILDHOOD TRAUMA: Dr. Gabor Maté on why everything goes back to your childhood

[stingray]

This makes so much sense. Sometimes people don't have any more room left to absorb the blows.

[vanessas]

Everything this man says is absolutely right
Always

[lisarochwarg]

I have to start listening to this man.

[ASMRBarbie]

#1 This man is educated! #2 his voice is unintentional ASMR💞🕊️

[sandarahcatmom]

We will never have a different childhood than the one we had. People in their 80's still get memories that they'd forgotten about pop up from time to time.

[robynhope]

Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.

Pema Chodron

[Sumiya-lpmm]

My father was fine, no childhood trauma. He was drafted into the US Navy during the Korean War and was never the same. He had a job as a commercial artist before he left, his work is still in our city's museum from his high school years. His relationship with my grandparents was balanced and normal, no spanking, yelling, misbehaving or anything. My old high school holds an "all class reunion" every 2 years, I have met my grandparents friends, neighbors and classmates there. Not one gave a negative account, they said he was intelligent, very nice and soft spoken. I was 14 yrs old when I noticed certain things about him, he would cry when he remembered losing friends to suicide and more. The stress of being at home one minute, graduating from high school, dating, working preparing for college one moment and sent away on a battleship with loud guns, thrown into an ocean to learn how to swim, and taking lives in another was so traumatizing that he was happy when he was passing away but, sad to leave me all alone.
I work in mental health as a behavioral analyst/DV and crisis specialist for children and young adults, it doesn't always stem from childhood trauma. A person could befriend, date or marry the one who could intentionally destroy them due to their own childhood traumas. An innocent person would be unsuspecting of the depth of hatred for them that a wounded person carries.

[EvesRevenge]

Dr Gabor Maté is a gift to humanity! I love his works. ❤

[SD-rlpf]

clicked on this just to hear his voice again. Something incredibly soothing about it

[crystalsue]

This is my kind of person. It always goes back to childhood

[nancyayotte]

Damn. I feel like this wonderful man just answered a question I've been asking forever. I believe I act like I do because of childhood trauma. Ty Dr Gabor 😢❤

[thelifester]

It puts a huge pressure on parents (I am one and I feel so responsible now) and it also makes me want to blame my mother for all the ways she “failed” me. How can an adult come to a place of acceptance about the cards they were dealt with as infants and children? And how to accept ourselves so we’re not paralyzed by the huge task of raising our kids without messing them up? I would love some advice and thoughts from other viewers. I’m a fan and follower of Dr. Maté. I’m looking for support to make the burden of parenting and of self acceptance a little lighter.

[livingareallifeabroad]

The world isa much better place with you in it Gabor 🤗

[cretenagneseverlaet]

I’m not so sure, being someone with severe multiple childhood trauma, I’ve also learned how to build resilience. Survive. While I see friends with a safe childhood are chocked easily by life challenges. I wish no one trauma, but we all have some, may we succeed to heal ❤

[maoridoll]

Very eloquent wise man, everyone needs to hear him speaking

[kanjacat]

100% agree. I experienced PTSD from a horrendous medical experience. In therapy, I discovered I was more susceptible to PTSD because of early childhood trauma.

[davidcook]

Oh my god this makes so much sense. Wow

[peony]

I feel bad knowing how many kids already had been through it. Traumatic childhood.

[Mary-iqgz]

Love this man he so gets it! Definitely trauma starts in childhood, no question!!❤️🙏🇮🇪

[enough]

I am 67. I have been praying I can start to remember my childhood. I am a privileged child. Went to intern girls schools. In Kinder, I was a hand full, as I am now! They would out me in this little wooden shack full of gardening tools, the nun would take my shoes off and tie my ankles to the legs of the bench I had to sit on.
Worms, ants and even scorpions bit me. This happened many times.
Today, I am hyper sensitive, a loner, but very brave. I have made 17 trips into the Darién jungle to help those crossing the jungle.
Back in my day, cruelty was the norm. We were expected to be robots.
Forward to my now 13 year old granddaughter. When she was in kinder, my daughter was in London for work, and I was caring for the kids.
The Christian School director called me, to witness a paddling for she had broken the rules of lunch line.
She poked the kid in front of her with the finger she was supposed to hold over her lips as the marched to the lunch room.
I told her that if she touched my granddaughter I would go to jail and she to the hospital.
I removed the kids immediately!
Don’t ignore abuse against children. A five year old should be free to cling trees, pick flowers and run!
God help us all, we have truly hurt eachother!