How being 'boring' makes you the most likeable in any group

If you're an introvert looking to improve your social skills, this video is for you! Learn how you can handle social situations with confidence and become the most interesting person in the room.

Wanna learn more?

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Chapters:
0:00 Idea 1
1:15 Idea 2
1:45 Idea 3
2:40 Verdict

#socialskills #confidence #success

[Baller-yw]

That “interest” in your boring side would thus only be caused by stroking their ego. These people don’t truly value *you*, they value how you make them feel and your attention.

[cslearn]

Depends on what you mean by boring, i dont talk much because my life is pretty bleak and chill, which i want it to be. But reason im respected is that im not a pushover, im weird but i respect myself and thats what gets your respected

[soulinvicta]

Best personality to be is be positive, not too positive but positive on a not cringe level. Positivity draws good and negativity draws bad.

[rioforce]

In “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, the number one rule is to not be overly opinionated and to get the other person talking. That’s why being “boring” works. You get them talking about themselves, they like that. They associate you with that and they like you by extension. You’re in.

[hyberkonawa]

One time I was in church adults youth group and I was the quiet guy in a group because I didn't have nothing to say, just accepting their opinions and agree with them while listening and some girl from the group said to me "Hey... You look mysterious and cute because you been quiet this whole time"

that compliment blew my mind!

I wasn't even trying hard attract anyone attention and somehow a girl flirting with me without even notice.

[frahohen]

I did that my entire life and because of it I was only interesting if I shut up, but I also needed to say something and did not feel valued at all, because always others interrupted me to tell their stuff.

[semromantizar]

You have a point, my dude. I appreciate it. 👍

[SumNormy]

It's pretty true tbh.

Going off of experience, not everyone is talking for conversation, some (if not most) are talking for you to listen to what they have to say.

And after learning that fact. Alot of pressure has been taken off my shoulders to make small talk. A simple "hey, how's it going" and a "goodbye, nice to see you" is all I've really needed to build connections with people.

[Khemiri]

please stop gaslighting people with low self esteem

[jp]

I‘ve been wondering why I‘ve been barely disliked by anyone in my life and this might just be it.
Neat to know. I have always just listened without saying a thing which seems to just magically work ig.

[avitex]

People tend to compare themselves with other. Comparing yourself with someone better than you would hurt yourself. So, people strive for someone worse than them to make the comparison feels good.

[archirnobenz]

This is definitely useful to a certain extent. I can have interest in someone as much as I want, I ask so many questions that I really am interested in, but they appear to enjoy more when they are just talking nonsense or whatever which is not easily done just by listening. It comes with humor or personality thing which unfortunately for me, still improving but not the best at it yet

[fantomas]

it's funny how there are two types of people in the comments, the first one being the people who believe this vid and the second one who call this vid a cope and in doing so are ironically coping themselves. the double cope!

[iam_asmodean]

Amazing video man, the quality improved so much

[Kunnoc]

Don't become a person who just talks to everyone.
Become a person who is fun to talk to.

[Subject]

This has several implications, for example it implies that you have friends.
It also implies that they invited you to a party and you didn't reject the invitation because you know you're boring or just for no reason at all.

This is not a video for boring people, it's a video for people who are not boring and are true to themselves but may feel a bit insecure about it. There's a lot of ways to be boring and this example in the video is not one of them (which is kinda the point of the video but it's misleading)

[ALoadedGun]

I don't want to sound mean but this sounds delusional.
I consider myself as boring and it's gotten me nowhere even though I've tried listening to people.
Being boring will lead to people being disinterested in you as a person.
And the worst part is that in times when you will argue or make a mistake, people are more likely to hold biases towards you and be more harsh than they would with someone else who they like a lot more, because the other person is fun and like a drug to them.

This sounds pretty dark but it's been my experience for my whole life now. If you're not performing in front of everyone like a clown or have nothing interesting to say or do everyday, you're done.
Especially if you're not attractive, you have removed the last reason why anyone should stay.

Now are most people boring? No.
But in a world where so many are desensitized to fast-paced entertainment nobody actually wants to spend the time to get to know you.

I don't have a solution, i am lost.
No wonder so many people off themselves.
Is life really worth living for when you can't have a single meaningful relationship?

[nexialistmen]

In order to be interesting, thou shalst be the one interested first. Then, you have become the interesting one by being interested.

[madness_bomb]

0:38 that term sounds weird to me because i thought that's what 80-90% of people do

[spennerz]

2:54 hits hard thanks for the video bro