3 weird mannerisms abused adult children of narcissistic parents have.

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[DOCKent-]

I hate my trait to apologize especially when it's the fault of the other!

[cocogomez]

I noticed I say I'm sorry to strangers in an aisle of a store when I feel like I get in the way

[katiefrankie]

And then we apologize for apologizing!

[christinav]

Exactly true my mum was narcissistic and so strict and domineering. I was a gentle empath. I grew up exactly like you said. Never spoke and apologising. I left home with a crushed soul I felt like a ghost not human. Then crushed even harder by marrying a narcissist with super narcissistic parents then my soul died. After 20 years of marriage I asked him to leave. Then the family narcissists kept abusing me even. My 2 sisters are evil jealous narcissists as I was their target and they kept setting up very serious legal traps and ran away and watched from the distance. 5 years ago I went No Contact For Life with the entire family pack of narcissists without a single word. Now I feel alive and self love and self nurture. I love my children and my grandchildren and my close friends.

[jesseray]

Holy crap... I think I grew up with a narcissistic parent... How am I just now realizing this after 36 years.

[danielle]

When I would speak up as a kid, my stepdad would retort, “well there you go thinkin’ again!” That has really messed with me, up until this very day. There are nasty people who treat others really badly. I don’t like the excuse of, “oh well, if I had known better as a parent…” how do people not know or are not aware of how they are making others feel?? I know why, it’s because they don’t care! If these people cared they wouldn’t do or say the abusive things they do in the first place. It’s a choice they made and it’s a choice they continue to make to be nasty towards others. They could choose to change, but that would require work. A lot of people are lazy! They just don’t care. That’s the very reason why I then choose to stay away from them in return.

[siennaprice]

As someone who is completely blind, on the autism spectrum and has CPTSD, I was belittled, shamed, criticized, the list goes on. Now, I apologize for things such as crying, feeling emotionally dysregulated, being overstimulated and having meltdowns, just to name a few things. I go mute and shut down when someone asks if I need help. Even if it’s someone who makes it safe for me, I still go silent when they see that I’m in distress and they ask if I need help.

[Thatgreyslugcat]

The “being seen as submissive” really hit hard

[MyrtGyrt]

My mom 💯. I’m so relieved to be a part of this group who understands ❤

[thesfanatic]

No eye contact. Always looking down. I do that a lot. And sometimes I apologize for no reason.

[mikeymayhem]

I have experienced and continue to experience to some degree all 3 of these, even in my 50's. These people are insidious(narcissistic parents).

[AlpenTree]

Yep I was so silenced I hardly ever talked, and was quiet well into adulthood, in all social settings. I only talked about my own work, as it was something I was an expert in. But I couldn't even talk about my work within my family. Something about being isolated during the pandemic, I suddenly started talking about everything under the sun! But not to my family

[m.o.t.h.studios]

Ive conquered the 1st one but the second and third are much harder for me to break away from. Great information.

[דיןהיכל]

Thank you. You nailed it. Please take care.

[ZFern]

We are taught our feelings or opinions have nothing to do with any matters in our environment. It's less tiring to even attempt to debate or try. We put our heads down and walk away. We stick in environments with people who have earned our trust . We keep our circles small and safe.

[Lou-no-mt]

Interesting. I wondered why groups were difficult.

[nellie]

Mutism was my weapon of choice at home for “family discussions” and when I felt I was at risk for bullying at school. Later it evolved to keeping silent on purpose as it was more impactful when I did choose to speak my thoughts.

[MayQueenMaxxxine]

When I was little I didn’t speak for a whole year when I was 8-9.

[thepaintedpoppies]

The compulsion to say sorry is so reflexive for me that I can get into "sorry loops." When I get to an emotional breaking point I will lash out but then feel so guilty I start saying sorry over and over. Thankfully my husband is so understanding and loving that he has helped me start breaking this habit and I am finally getting my emotions under control.

[meganleffingwell]

I apologize too much and sometimes I won't talk around people (it just depends on who I'm around), and my brother always stays quiet in groups unless he's asked a question