How To Stay Motivated - The Locus Rule

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A lot of people ask me questions about how to stay/be/get motivated. Today I'll tell you about a very interesting study on motivation that will you you a lot of insight on what you actually have to do to pull this off. This is what I like to call The Locus Rule.

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[emilyfernandasenasouza]

I've been called smart all my life. Now I have 0 motivation to study or do difficult things in general. I'll never do that to my kids.

[ben-jyyt]

so this is why “gifted and talented” kids are all depressed now

[peace]

"Don't rely on motivation, it might never come, but learn discipline"

- My classmate

[Akirex]

This video actually made me realize something. My whole life I’ve been told that im “smart” and “gifted” or whatever. So I just came to assume that everything had to be done effortlessly or else I wouldn’t be seen as smart anymore. And instead of putting in the work to get better at something and accepting the need for improvement, I would just feel demotivated because I would feel like I am not smart enough.

[studyme-selftaughtlife]

*First, it becomes motivation. Then, determination. And lastly, when there’s no motivation, it is routine that will push you.*

[phobaby]

This explains why 3rd grade me being told I was on a “high school reading level” is now depressed and struggles with motivation

[soronorjspro]

I discovered this myself a while back. I got lazy because I just wanted to blame everything else. Then I watched a certain anime which lead to me realizing what I required to stay motivated and do better. I just began telling myself that everything in school is easy (even if a little tedious) and so I should be able to do it all easily. I found myself way more productive after that.

[-correct-ok]

Wow I never thought of this. I have been told by my teachers, coaches and parents that I'm smart and talented. I have become lazy and unmotivated. While I see some of my peers who get different compliments work their butts off! This will definitely help me get back on track.

[Qwerzxcv]

This is so accurate, I was always told that I was very smart and as a result, I became lazy, unproductive and unmotivated.

[shamelmae]

Pov: you don’t wanna go to online classes anymore

[demsrujandeep]

Yep. I do agree with it. People around me say that I am smart. I was happy about it in the past, but right now I am just passing time not even knowing what to do. I am using the reason to use my intelligence in the right manner to escape everything.

[andrewrichesson]

This is so true. So many people blame society or their lack of talent for their failures in life (school, work, relationships etc), instead of looking inward for flaws they can work on.

[ashadeka]

When your parents say I am not smart
Me: That's an absolute win

[yukikanegawa]

Can we take a moment of silence for us "gifted" kids who are now suffering in college.

[supersolomob]

I've honestly always resented it when people say I'm talented, this makes complete sense. I've worked extremely hard to be the best I can at art, animation, general film stuff, and music. And people always say "you're so talented", and I correct them and say that I'm skilled. Saying one is talented tends to discredit how hard they worked to get there, and I feel like people tend to say that because they believe it takes talent, and no degree of hard work can get you there. Well, that's entirely false. I suck at being naturally creative, it's only through hard thinking do I come up with an idea for art, animation or music. I would say I have no talent, and I now am very proud of where I am. But I still suck most when I'm confident I can do something with ease rather than hard work

[calebdif]

I feel like this video just changed my entire way of thinking in a way. Before I can 100% say I had an External Locus, especially since I have been told I am bright and gifted my whole life. After watching this video I feel like my mindset is starting to shift to have a more Internal Locus and I feel much more motivated on the day-to-day basis.

[inock]

I actually have an amazing example of this:

In my family there’s me and my little brother, I always were an intelligent girl who never struggled with school and always had good grades, my brother, on the other hand, used to have multiple difficulties in school and for several years he needed special education, beside of that he’s really intelligent too.
In our childhood, every time we accomplish something my parents celebrate it, the difference was that in my case my parents always told me that the reason why I accomplished that is because I’m a really smart girl, and they always told my brother that was because he worked so hard on that.
Now we are in college, and he’s the most motivated person I know and never give up and I, even if I’m doing well in college, always struggle to finish what I started, and if I fail I blame myself and give up. He also has so much confidence in himself while I’m always doubting my abilities.

This video hit me hard.

[jasminesanchez]

I’m in a gifted class and considered smart by my teachers, but I never get anything done, and I’m always tired.

[jan]

I was always told I was smart and gifted. As a result I did not try, and worse, I am reluctant to try anything challenging in case I fail and prove everyone wrong.

[arcie]

I was told I was both a hard worker and a “gifted child”…explains why I would experience being on both sides of the academy scale 😅